We often complain that "marriage is the grave of love", but in reality, we don't know that marriage is the most innocent thing. What really takes a marriage to the grave are the two people who manage it. Whether two people are in harmony is the key to the survival of a marriage.

We often complain that "marriage is the grave of love", but in reality, we don't know that marriage is the most innocent thing. What really takes a marriage to the grave are the two people who manage it. Whether two people are in harmony is the key to the survival of a marriage.

Sometimes I have to say that just by looking at two people's attitudes towards marriage, you can tell whether they will be happy in the future.

Marriage is like a book. Everyone will have a certain feeling after reading it. If you want to continue to appreciate the existence of this book, or if you want to throw it away and never read it again, it is because two people have different feelings after reading it.

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Ali was deeply moved by this. Ali and Amei have been married for 30 years. Seeing that his daughter is about to get married, he is naturally reluctant to let go of his only daughter. Over the past 30 years, he has also had a lot of feelings, and his deep love for his daughter is also contained in a letter he secretly sent. .

Ali is a person who is not good at expressing himself. Although he is not good at talking, he almost always responds to his daughter's requests. It's just that this time his daughter got married, and as a father, he showed a strong look for the first time and "made things difficult" for the two of them.

His daughter's beautiful boyfriend has poor family conditions and many brothers. Ali is very opposed to it because Ali knows how difficult it is to start a business from scratch. One is that he doesn't want his daughter to suffer, and the other is that he feels that if there are too many people in the family, his daughter will naturally suffer in her husband's family. However, Meimei insists on marrying her boyfriend. In desperation, Ali thought of a way to test his son-in-law and use "extraordinary means" to force his daughter to break up with him. These demands were beyond the imagination of the son-in-law. Unexpectedly, he did not give up looking for true love because of these excessive actions. On the contrary, he became more and more brave, and his son-in-law came to talk to Ali personally.

The son-in-law's sincere words reassured Ali: "We can have more dowry, but you must agree to these conditions. If you fail to do these one day, I will take my daughter back to me and let you The dowry will be returned and you will be asked to sign for confirmation."

Meili was overjoyed when she learned that her father agreed. When she got married, her father's face looked very ugly, which made Meimei a little dissatisfied. From Meili's point of view, the reason why her father was unhappy was that the bride price was too little.

But in the evening, a letter from her husband to Meimei made her change her view of her father and learn about his kindness.

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Ali put forward several conditions to his son-in-law in the letter and asked him to sign his name on the last page. Although the conditions are simple, they include the father's love for his daughter.

The first point is that you hope your daughter will be respected by your family. Ali wrote this: "Whether you are your husband, or your beautiful parents-in-law, that is, your parents, you must ensure that you give my daughter the most basic respect. In my opinion, all family members respect each other. This is It is the prerequisite for a happy marriage. "If your parents don't respect my daughter, then I'm sure it will be difficult for my daughter to marry into your family. Although your married life is yours to live, you must ensure that you handle the various relationships in your family well. "

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is very important. Marriage may seem simple, but it is the fusion of two families. Among all family relationships, the most complex is the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. The quality of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is inseparable from the quality of the marriage. Only mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are good or bad. Respect your daughter-in-law and do not interfere with your son's marriage life, so that your daughter-in-law can easily integrate into the family.

I have to say that as a husband, as a man, you must know how to respect your wife. Since you marry her, you must let her integrate into your family and her status must be at a high level. The most important thing is that if the parents-in-law also have this understanding, only in this way can the relationship between husband and wife develop healthily, the marriage can maintain a balance, and the two people can argue less.

The second point is to be as tolerant as possible. , I love her unconditionally. “I know my daughter’s temper very well. Although she has a temper, I still don’t want her to be bullied. My daughter is a sweetheart, she is my baby, and so are you. As a husband, I hope you can understand her. It is her fault that she is in a bad mood, but you can say that you can even have a cold war with her, but you You can't argue with her and make her sad for no reason."

Ali made such a mistake. Because he had a quarrel with his wife, he accidentally pushed Mei. He accidentally fell down with Meimei and hit his head on the table. There are still wounds. After that, Ali couldn't be more angry. , I don’t dare to attack Xiaomei anymore.

In fact, we can all understand that everyone has moments when they lose control of their emotions, but there must be certain basic principles when two people fight. I have seen many impulsive men. When their wives are wrong or in a bad mood, they not only curse but also use force violently.

These people obviously know that they are incompetent and moody. They are not good at managing their emotions, and they even want to lose their temper all the time. A person who vents his anger on his wife and children will be particularly irresponsible to the family.

This also reminds all men that a daughter is the heart and soul of her parents. If she does not live a satisfactory life after marriage, what will her parents think? ? As a man, it is not okay to hit a woman no matter what.

Third: Responsibility is very important, Ali wrote in the letter: "No matter how long you two have been married, no matter how boring your life is, I hope you can remember it. Commitment to each other. You know, marriage is not as good as love, time will make it fade. However, love will turn into family affection sooner or later, and you must be responsible. Responsibility is the principle that must be adhered to in life. A man without a sense of responsibility cannot maintain a marriage and family. "

In fact, we can see many couples in daily life. After many years of marriage, the two people's lives have lost their previous passion and are repeating the same mistakes. Every day is the same life, there is nothing new, but they are still together, serving as a family. When people live together, no matter how long two people have been together and how passionate they were in the past, life will gradually return to daily necessities.

So the most important thing is not the romance between the two at the beginning, but the relationship between the two that does not shirk their responsibilities after the relationship fades. .

Men are not afraid of poverty, but they are afraid of lack of motivation. “I know you have no money now, but I don’t look down on you because my daughter said you have the ability to give her a better life. She is my daughter, and I trust her vision. I hope you know that it is not terrible for a man to be poor. I am afraid that you have no motivation. If you don't have motivation, you're not just going to have to keep your head down for the rest of your life. My daughter won't have it easy, and your parents will even be implicated. So, I hope you can give my daughter a relatively good life in ten years, and I hope you can work together. "

Ali's four conditions may seem simple, but they are actually a father's lifelong expectations and trust for his daughter. As a man, he knows that although a man's financial resources are not the most important, he also knows that marriage is not a lifelong passion. , so when a woman wants to get married, she must pay attention to the quality of the man.

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Although the bride price is a formal thing, it is not important, but the man's character is the key to the happiness of his daughter's life, so he will let his son-in-law give it to his father. The woman signed the commitment letter .

I have also heard the opinions of many parents in the dispute about dowry. When marrying their daughter and finding a daughter-in-law, they attach great importance to a person's financial conditions, so many couples cannot negotiate well. It also brings a lot of regrets. Facts also prove that the higher the bride price, the more sincere the man is, and the lower the bride price, the more sincere the woman.

Love is never measured by money. Parents must have the right attitude. On the surface, they should pay more attention to each other's family style and behavior, because this is also the key to determining whether both parties will be happy after marriage