The way most elderly people care for themselves is to save their money so that they can use it at any time when they reach their old age.
However, there is an 85-year-old man who tells you: saving your own money to provide for yourself in old age is the stupidest choice in your life.
In the end, I still regretted it!
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The hero's name in the story is Gao Yu, and he is 85 years old this year.
Mr. Gao is a retired worker and can get a pension of 6,000 yuan every month.
He also has three children. Logically speaking, Gao Lao not only has a pension, but also has a family full of children. He should be an old man living a happy life.
However, in fact, Gao Lao's life did not make him feel happy at all.
The reason is that when you are old, bedridden, sick, and unable to move, you will know that what you really need is someone to take care of you.
Although Mr. Gao has three children, he saved his own money for his own retirement and did not spend any money on his three children.
As a result, these three children all resented their old father very much.
was lying on the bed, unable to move. When he needed his children to take care of him, no one of the three children could be called to his side.
The three children are like white-eyed wolves, without any children to take care of themselves.
Could it be said that these three children are absolutely lovers?
Mr. Gao said with tears: "It's all my fault that I saved my own money and didn't let my children spend a penny. That's why none of the three children came to take care of me."
He said, if it hadn't been for him If you save money wholeheartedly, you will not live such a miserable life in your later years.
So when it comes to Mr. Gao, he regrets that he should not have saved his money in the first place, causing his children to think that his old father was a selfish person.
In fact, Gao Lao is not an old man who does not love his children.
When his children were young, Mr. Gao worked hard every day in order to let his children live a happy life.
When his children grew up, he sent them to the best schools to study.
Mr. Gao did this so that his children would receive a good education. So, from this point of view, he is indeed a qualified father.
After all three children graduated from college, Mr. Gao never paid for them again because the children had grown up.
What Gao Lao means is to save this money for the marriage of his children.
Once, he told his co-workers that when he gets old, he can count on his three children to provide for him. What
did not expect was that the workers all said: Planting trees absorbs the ground, and raising children makes them angry.
It is simply unreliable for you to expect your three children to support you in your old age. Have you not seen the drama "The Wall"? He interprets your retirement care vividly.
So, you have to rely on yourself to support yourself in old age.
After listening to the words of his co-workers, Mr. Gao stopped giving to his children.
Because I am afraid of paying too much, I am afraid that my children will become old people and cannot live independently. I am even more worried about giving all my money to my children. What if they are not filial to me?
So, Gao Lao simply saved all his money. In order to save more money, he was reluctant to spend money and saved money every day.
The children all borrowed money from their old father, but the father did not lend a penny. Even for the money for their children's wedding, Gao Lao still did not lend money to his son.
Mr. Gao told his children: they can solve their own problems by themselves. Don't worry about your dad's money all day long.
If you save this money, you will use it when you are old.
At that time, Gao Lao's wife persuaded him not to be so ruthless in doing things. If you don't spend a penny for the children, can you take the money into the coffin when you die?
No matter how much his children resent their old father, or how much his wife blames him, Mr. Gao is determined not to spend more money on his children.
None of the three children could see their old father. When he took away a penny, the children all felt extremely disappointed.
So, the three children all have a grudge against their old father.
That's it, but Gao Lao said nonchalantly: Money can make all the difference. If you have money, are you afraid that no one will take care of you?
Even if the three children don't take care of him, Gao Lao feels that it doesn't matter.
Everyone will grow old, and later Gao Lao retired.
When Gao Laoyuan thought he was going to spend his old age with his wife after retirement, what he didn't expect was that a sudden illness sent his wife away.
At that time, Mr. Gao spent more than half of his savings in order to treat his wife.
After the death of his wife, the 70-year-old Gao Lao felt completely disappointed. Without his wife's care and companionship, he really couldn't accept the cruel reality of losing his wife.
However, the facts cannot be changed. This is the retribution of life.
Due to Gao Lao's long-term psychological depression, his physical condition has become worse and worse.
There is no other way. I have to spend my own savings to treat myself.
Suffering from illness, Gao Lao became more and more afraid of how he would spend his old age.
Since I fell ill last time, my savings have almost been exhausted.
Mr. Gao congratulated himself. Fortunately, he still had a pension, otherwise he would really not be able to survive in his later years.
In order to prevent his body from getting sick, Gao Lao insists on exercising every day.
When I get up in the morning, I do morning exercise and running, and in the evening I go to square dance.
In Gao Lao's view, as long as his body does not get sick, his life will be fine anyway.
On weekdays, the three children did not come to visit him at home. Although Mr. Gao felt sad, there was nothing he could do.
Mr. Gao also knew in his heart that the scars on him and his three children were too deep, so even now the children do not recognize this old father.
When he had a wife before, Mr. Gao didn't care at all whether his children came to see him or not. Now that he is alone, he can only silently bear the consequences of his own actions.
After his last illness, he spent a lot of money, but he was not able to completely cure his illness.
The reason was that he did not have surgery in time, which caused his body to relapse for the second time.
What followed was a worsening of his condition, which later directly led to him being paralyzed in bed.
The helpless old man had no choice but to call his three children and said: Do you want to go home for retirement?
In Gao Lao's own words, no matter how lazy I am, I am still your father! Besides, you can’t just ignore me? After all, a father will always be a father.
What was unexpected was that the three children all said in unison that their old father would not be allowed to go home for retirement.
In order for Gao Lao to survive, he had to spend 4,000 yuan a month to hire a nanny to take care of him.
The monthly pension is 6,000 yuan, and 4,000 yuan is given to the nanny. There is basically no money left to buy medicine, living expenses, etc.
Now, Gao Lao's life in his later years is extremely bleak, but all of this is caused by himself. Gao Lao himself said: If you could make time come back again, he would never listen to other people's lies.
If he had distributed all his money to his three children, he would not be in the situation he is today.
If you have a family, you can’t go back; if you have a son, you can’t show filial piety.
Looking back now, I feel very regretful, but it is too late for all these regrets.
Therefore, the elderly who have been saving money for themselves all day long should not be like Mr. Gao. Saving money for himself has become a regret in his life. I regret it so much.
Saving your own pension money has become the stupidest choice for Mr. Gao!
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