We are thinking every day: "What should I do?" Have you ever considered that these thoughts are coherent? How many things can you do by yourself? Or is it just done "unconsciously" based on a habit?
We all know that the premise of "you want to change" is "you want it". Or through the occurrence of major events, such as huge failure or pain, forcing yourself to change. So is there a way for us to take this decision into our own hands in advance?
What is holding us back? Is it indecisiveness in making choices? Do you have a lot of chores but want to do them yourself? Do you like to do things the wrong way? Or do you become depressed after hearing other people's objections? Or is it because other people's emotions affect your own?
If you fall into these traps, I believe you will suffer from insomnia. Let’s take a look at what people who live a happy life do.
First, make a decisive decision
and refuse to be indecisive when faced with a choice, because this will consume a lot of time and cost, and miss the best opportunity in vain.
needs to know that there is no single right choice for many things. No matter what you choose, as long as you try unswervingly, the result will not be too bad.
Second, delete the complex and simplify it
When the external space and inner energy are occupied by clutter and chores, we will gradually lose the sense of control over life.
In the limited time, we put urgent and important things at the top, and don't think about other things that are not urgent or important, and let them go with the wind. This is the most famous "time management" theory. As the saying goes: only by subtracting from life can you add to life.
Third, do not get into trouble
Some people tell you that you must persist in doing things. If the accelerator lever of the airplane cannot be pushed to the front, the airplane cannot take off. Okay, stop it, that's a plane, you're a human.
Zeng Guofan once said: "If you don't say anything, there will be room. If you don't do anything, there will be room. If you don't do it, there will be room." Leaving room for others is actually leaving room for yourself. If you don't say anything, there will be room for everything. Keeping three points in everything is a good thing for others and yourself.
There is such a short story: a Buddhist disciple was very serious about his work and practiced meditation day and night, but he had little effect. One day, he went to ask his teacher. After hearing this, the master gave him a gourd and a handful of salt, and said, "Fill the gourd with water, and then put the salt in, so that it will melt quickly." The disciple immediately obeyed. But after a while, he came to the master again and said: "Master, the water is too full and cannot be shaken. I want to use chopsticks to stir it in, but the chopsticks are too short to stir. The salt has sunk to the bottom and cannot be dissolved. Ah!"
After hearing this, the master smiled and said, "Haha, that's not easy to do. First pour out some of the water in the gourd, and then shake it hard and see what happens." The apprentice immediately followed the master's instructions. Did it. Sure enough, it worked, it could even be said to be immediate. The salt in the gourd melted quickly and the clear water turned into salty water. This time, the apprentice finally realized the "true meaning".
Water will overflow when the cup is full. If you want to put other things in the cup, you have to pour some water out first. In fact, this is also the case in life. You can't be too absolute in anything or pursue the best state too much. Just don't pursue perfection in everything, both for others and for yourself. As the saying goes, things must be the opposite when they are extreme. Being too absolute or too extreme will put yourself in trouble.
Fourth, Positive Sunshine
has this saying: Negative hints make people feel depressed, while positive hints make people more confident. There is a saying in "Murphy's Theorem": "There is no desperate environment, only a desperate mentality."
Filling yourself with positive sunshine will inject energy into yourself and make you better and better.
Fifth, refuse to convey negative emotions
Once people are in a bad mood, they will look for ways to vent.
has such a story: a father was upset and angry because his work was not going well. When he got home, he saw his child jumping up and down on the sofa and scolded him. The child felt aggrieved, turned around and kicked the cat hard.The cat bolted out of the house and onto the road. A truck happened to be passing by, and the driver had no time to avoid it and hit a child playing next to him, causing an accident. This is the " kicking cat effect ".
If you don't manage your emotions well, it will eventually lead to irreversible consequences. There is a saying in the cultivation world: Don't say bad things. As the saying goes: You will reap what you sow. It may give you some inspiration.
