When the clothes are old and the shoes are old, we know how to buy new ones. When the house is old, we also know how to renovate it. The same goes for people. When they get old, they need to renew themselves.
01: Update your image
Yang Lan said: No one will discover your excellent inside through your sloppy appearance.
The primacy effect in psychology fully illustrates the importance of the first impression.
The first impression others have of you determines the course of subsequent interactions with each other.
Economists have also done research, which shows that people with better appearance earn 3% to 5% more than ordinary people.
It can be said that people are visual animals.
If a person looks good-looking, refined, and clean, people are more likely to think that he has good qualities, such as being smart, friendly, ethical, and cooperative.
This stems from people's stereotype , and also stems from people's pursuit of perfection. People generally hope that beautiful things will appear together.
Some people say that appearance is born by parents and cannot be changed.
Indeed, five points itself cannot be changed, but it can be modified. As the saying goes, 30% of appearance and 70% of grooming.
Make yourself as neat, clean and refined as possible. Everyone can do this.
Wear appropriate clothes, shoes, appropriate makeup, and keep yourself neat and clean. Keep your face calm and kind, and try to give people a comfortable and eye-catching visual experience.
Lincoln When he was president, a friend recommended him a person to be a senator. After Lincoln met him, he immediately rejected the recommendation. The reason for the rejection was actually: I didn't like his appearance.
friend is puzzled: How can you judge a book by its appearance? How can a person determine his or her natural appearance?
Lincoln said: No, a person should be responsible for his own face after he is 40 years old.
After people reach a certain age, it is especially important to update and modify their image.
Wang Xiaobo also expressed a similar point of view in his book: As people get older, they should pay more attention to modifying their own image, because they will no longer look invincible in youth. Young women do not need to wear makeup, but older women need to wear makeup.
Paying attention to your own image is not only an expression of respect for others, but also a way to gain confidence and a good mood.
Generally speaking, people who often pay attention to updating their image are also people who love life and love life.
02: Update your thinking
As the saying goes, if you want to change your pocket, you must first change your head. The biggest difference between people is the way of thinking
Wang Xiaobo once said that people should be elites in thinking, not elites in morality.
Everyone has read the story of Sima Guang smashing a vat when he was a child. Why has this story become a favorite story through the ages?
because it breaks the mindset.
Our thinking is that when we are drowning, we must leave the water.
But we never thought that we can also let the water leave people.
Faced with the same thing, your thinking determines how you respond.
Society is changing all the time, and impermanence is permanent. If we do not update our thinking frequently, we will easily be abandoned and eliminated by this society.
Successful people must have a way of thinking that is better than others.
The book "Three-body " says that destroying you has nothing to do with you
The most terrifying thing is to defeat yourself and your peers, but lose to the times.
Darwin once mentioned what kind of animals can survive better? They are creatures that can quickly change in the face of their environment.
When there is a lack of grass, animals that only eat grass will face extinction.
When there is a lack of meat, animals that only eat meat will face extinction.
Some animals will evolve accordingly according to changes in the environment, and they will evolve themselves into omnivores.
They can therefore survive longer and have a competitive advantage over other species.
Always update your thinking, learn more advanced ways of thinking, and keep learning and thinking in life and work, so that we can keep pace with the times.
03: Update your circle
Everyone is familiar with the story of Meng's mother moving to three times.
Mencius 's mother did not hesitate to move three times in order to provide Mencius with a good growing environment.
The cost of moving is not low, but why does Mengmu still do that?
is just to give my son a good growing environment.
What kind of people we hang out with, it’s easy to become that kind of person.
Those who are close to vermillion are red and those who are close to ink are black.
American business philosopher Jim Rohn once proposed a theory: "Your wealth and wisdom are the average of the five friends you have close contacts with.
In order to have a better future, we'd better update our circle frequently
Try to connect and communicate with awesome people.
As Xiao Yawen said in "The Way of Heaven":
"Getting to know this person is like opening a window, and you can see and hear different things." Different sounds can make you think and realize, this is enough. There are many others, such as opportunities and help, I'm not sure. This may not seem important to most people, but I know this person is important. "
Getting to know someone is probably more valuable than getting an expensive gift.
Jews are known as the smartest race in the world
The method of educating children is mainly to let children observe, imitate and learn from those powerful people.
These people can be accomplished and well-performing brothers and sisters, they can be neighbors, or they can be parents themselves.
The influence of the circle on a person is huge.
People are the product of their environment, and changing their own environment cannot be ignored.
04: Update your own skills
The development of science and technology will definitely bring about huge development of social productivity and production methods
And this development is very fast,
This means that today is your special skill. , will become worthless tomorrow.
In a factory, there is such a parts assembler. He has been working in the factory for 10 years and is very familiar with his business.
Later, the company introduced it. He bought a set of automated machines, and all the parts were assembled by machines.
He didn't know how to operate the new equipment, so he had to be laid off.
Before leaving, the boss sincerely told him that you are an old employee of the company and have worked hard for so many years. , I really can’t bear to let you go. Regarding the introduction of new technologies, I warned you a few years ago. I just hope that you will be prepared so that you will not be eliminated by then.
But you didn’t learn at all. On the contrary, in the company. Xiao Hu was prepared early, so the job opportunity was given to him.
Opportunities are always reserved for those who are prepared. Don’t be satisfied with what you can do now, and don’t think that you can rest on your laurels for a lifetime. We must always maintain it. Only by keeping an open mind and constantly updating your professional skills can you remain invincible in the waves of the times.
Hemingway said: The real nobility is not to be better than others, but to be better than ourselves in the past.
As long as we can. Continuously improve ourselves, and over time, we will be able to stand out from the crowd.
Changing will be painful for a while, but not changing will be painful for a lifetime.
From now on, let us not be conservative, dare to update, and dare to change.
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