Is it human nature for a man to love a woman? It's just instinct. If a man and a woman always make love with each other when they meet, it seems that "animal lust" is greater than love; but if a man and a woman are so pure that they don't even have any inappropriate thoughts, then it cannot be called love. , maybe just fell in love with the feeling of "loving her" ~
Sexual relations in love are unavoidable. In a narrow sense, it means going to bed and having sex. There is also a broad view that there is physical contact between men and women. Most modern young people still have conservative sexual concepts, but their sexual behavior is actually becoming more and more open. In particular, more and more boys regard love as the main means of obtaining sexual satisfaction.
A survey shows that almost 100% of lovers have held hands, and the vast majority have hugged. As for those who have kissed? most. Many young people have their first kiss in middle school, and even taste the forbidden fruit early. The kiss between lovers seems to have become a symbol and milestone to determine the relationship.
Holding hands, hugging, and kissing, these are just lightweight physical contacts. Most young people can barely accept it in love and will do it. There is nothing extraordinary or surprising. Society has basically accepted this kind of intimate behavior in love, and even parents are gradually reluctant to accept it. It’s really a mixture of emotions to meet someone who’s the best person I’ve never even held hands with before.
Then, as the love between the two gradually heated up, especially the boys began to be eager to move and were dissatisfied. To further explore your girlfriend's body, that is, caress. As for girls, about half of them believe that the body under clothes is a restricted area and will not accept their boyfriend's caressing requests and actions at once. At most, they will agree to touch them through clothes. This is a normal reaction for girls. This is how they have been taught since childhood.
Without being in love for several months or longer, and the relationship is already established, girls will not easily let their boyfriends get into the restricted area. Especially girls who are in love for the first time are very conservative. Boys should be more understanding of little girls' thoughts and be a little patient. When others reject them, they will get angry and think that they don't like them, so they will either force them to break up or break up with them.
As for girls, most of them will not take the initiative to touch boys' bodies out of shyness. At most, they will secretly take a few glances. However, girls nowadays are becoming more and more bold, and they seem to want to take the initiative in love. There are more and more cases of boys being "molested" ~
When it comes to sex in love, most girls are passive, pushing half and half. of. But there are also girls who are suspicious of wooden boys. Why don't you touch me? Do you not love me? Are you sick? ! It’s not that he’s sick, or that he doesn’t like you, he just doesn’t dare or won’t do it, and he’s even more afraid of invading you and making you angry. This means he really likes girls, and he’s worried about gains and losses.
China's sex education has been secretive for a long time. Parents are embarrassed to tell their children, and teachers dare not teach it seriously for fear of parents' opinions or complaints. However, as long as young people are healthy, both men and women will have sexual fantasies and sexual impulses, which will lead to strong curiosity about the bodies of the opposite sex. This is a normal manifestation of a person's physiological development. If not, the child may have some problems. As a parent of the same gender, you should observe and pay more attention to your children and provide correct guidance.
Blocking is not as good as guiding. Parents should not only support teachers to provide sex education courses in schools, but also communicate with children normally about sex, dilute children’s mystery about sex, and help children establish a healthy and normal sex life as early as possible. concept. It’s not like that, when the children are all in love, but they are still ignorant about sex, and when something goes wrong, or even commits a crime, or is sexually harmed, it will be too late.
Therefore, parents, and only parents, should strengthen the correct sex education for their children and the popularization of sexual knowledge. Stop letting children learn on their own from pornographic books and movies.
The current social propaganda is really problematic. Not only does it not play a good role in correctly establishing the "three views" of young people, but it also introduces the outdated Western sexual liberation movement into China. As a result, many young people today regard sexual openness as a fashion and trend, and those who cannot keep up are falling behind. In fact, young people in the West today are taking sexual issues more and more seriously.
According to relevant statistics, nearly 60% of young couples will have sex when they are in love. Don't believe it, in fact the proportion may be higher. Because young people are in a period of physical and psychological development, coupled with the mysterious curiosity caused by the lack of sex education in the past, the relationship between lovers has heated up to a certain extent, and sexual relations between lovers are increasingly considered normal by young people today. . And with the opening of social ideas, sexual intercourse between lovers has gradually become socially accepted.
About 65% of couples use contraceptive measures when having sex. This is also related to the Ministry of Education’s vigorous deployment of contraceptives on university campuses in recent years. On the one hand, this shows that young people already have a tolerant attitude towards sex. On the other hand, it also shows that young people are gradually learning to take sexual behavior very seriously. However, in recent years, the incidence of AIDS and sexually transmitted diseases among college students has also been increasing year by year. This is a very frightening phenomenon. Among young people, sexual protection education is still very weak.
Moreover, due to the lack of sexual knowledge, the number of abortions among girls is also increasing. Some girls even have more than one abortion. This not only causes serious harm to girls’ bodies, but also makes it difficult to conceive or become infertile after marriage. It shows the irresponsibility of those boys and the serious lack of awareness of sexual protection among girls. For many college students, love seems to be just a way of life, not a responsibility.
Sex, this behavior is like a drug. Once you start, you become more and more addicted. It seems that if you are in love and don't go to bed, it seems abnormal and you are not in love. And once you have it for the first time, you will become less and less concerned about it, or even indifferent. With the rise of various social apps, the term "fast food romance" has begun to be mentioned more and more, and more and more love hotels are opening, and they are often full. is this okay? Fortunately, there are still many young people who are brave enough to say: NO!
With the popularity of sexual relations in love, cohabitation in love is also very common, but it is still somewhat different from cohabitation before marriage. For boys, living together in a relationship is mostly for safety and saving money, and it can also be unscrupulous. For girls, it is just a fantasy of having a "home" ~
However, living together in a relationship not only fails to enhance the relationship, but also, over time, different living habits, conflicts in daily life trivial matters, personal privacy violations, etc. , lovers may say goodbye at any time because of a quarrel. Cohabitation in love is more like "playing house" between two older children ~
In fact, there is no way to verify the quality of the love partner through cohabitation. If love cannot withstand the weariness, then it is considered cohabitation, or even Even if you get married, you can't hold this person captive. Especially for women, they are the main victims of sexual relationships (women always seem to be the weak ones in sexual relationships)
, so it is ridiculous for girls to live together in the early stage of a relationship; it is unnecessary to live together in the middle of a relationship; and it is unnecessary to live together in the late stage of a relationship. . As for men, living together seems so urgent and necessary at any time. This involves why boys want to live together: Is it for love? Or for sex? Maybe it’s just because boys’ hormones are stronger and more intense to vent~
People have fantasized about the love that can get married as long as they hold hands, but But we live in an era where even having sex has no results.The wedding night was originally one of the four great joys in life, but because of premarital sex, the wedding night has no meaning and has lost its sense of ritual. It is estimated that in the future, just like the ban on firecrackers and fireworks during the Spring Festival, the wedding night will become a distant and forgotten history.
There is another phenomenon worth noting. Although nearly 80% of young people have a heterosexual sexual orientation, the romantic partners of young people today are not necessarily of the opposite sex. About 10% of young people have a bisexual sexual orientation. About 5% of young people have a sexual orientation of homosexuality, and the remaining young people have a sexual orientation of pansexuality, asexuality, or other indeterminate sexual orientations. This situation deserves the attention of all walks of life. We must strengthen education and guidance on young people's sexual concepts, because today's young people are the future of the motherland and must not be left alone, otherwise it will be a crime!
Sex is human nature, sex is human instinct, but sex must not be vulgar or pansexual! There is no right or wrong in sex itself, but as a normal person, you need to know the pros and cons and what is right and wrong. You must not overdraw and abuse all the beauty of your life just because you are in love. It is still necessary to follow the natural laws of marriage and love, take it step by step, don't rush, don't be messy, and leave more happiness to the two people in love and to the future married life. Otherwise, you will die prematurely at a young age and remain a living dead for the rest of your life.
Not everyone in love may understand love, but sex is indispensable for fun. Sex is not a scourge, especially for young men and women who are in love. Whether it is society or the family of origin, we must provide correct sex education and guidance to young people. Stop letting sex always be wrapped in a mysterious cloak and let a bunch of silly children always want to see the body under clothes. Even compulsion and crime.
Sex is natural when love is deep. Sex is an inseparable part of love. There is no need to avoid it, but we must pay attention to it! Girls don’t need to beat boys to death if they see them anxious! Boys should also think clearly that once they stretch out their "devil's claws" to explore the restricted area, it will be a heavy responsibility, not just a game or instinct. If parents are concerned about their children's future married life, then they should start from themselves, stop mystifying or demonizing "sex", and tell their children: Sex is sacred and the most advanced way of human emotional expression .
