In this chapter, I want to stop and "reflect" on the past. I want to use some facts from the past to prove that "contentment" is actually a kind of "happiness". At the same time, I also use the mentality of "contentment" to warn myself, The so-called happiness and unhappiness are largely tied to personal feelings. If you are content, even if others think you are unhappy, in fact you feel very happy about yourself!
I have always believed that my "fate" is very good. Although I was born in a poor rural family, my ancestors were illiterate for generations, and the days I lived as a child cannot be described with the words "hunger and cold", but with my own efforts and friends It was a good time for the country to bring things back to order. At the beginning of the resumption of the college entrance examination, I was admitted to university with excellent results. That was in the 1980s, and it was the first national unified examination. There were more than 6 million candidates. Half of the pre-selection candidates were wiped out, leaving 3.33 million. Then the national unified examination was conducted, and 270,000 were finally admitted. This ratio is habitually called "thousands of troops crossing a single-plank bridge"! If you have some basic mathematical knowledge and refer to the current college entrance examination reference number and admission ratio, you will know how difficult it was to get into college back then! But my "fate" happened to be so good. I was admitted "accidentally", and I was among the first batch of " and " admitted! They said that in that era, country children were like golden phoenixes flying out of a henhouse to get into college. They had to have their ancestral graves cracked. If the ancestral graves were not cracked, then some bad luck could walk out of them and bump into you by chance. Even if you are very talented and knowledgeable, you still have a lot of knowledge but no place to put it to use!
I don’t show off, nor am I complacent about my past “achievements” and am always looking bad! It's boring. If you look at me like that, you are not only underestimating my "pattern", but it also reveals that your pattern is not big. The past is the past, the present is the present, and the future is the future. A person who always likes to talk about the "glory" of the past must not be doing well now, and he will not see hope in the future. People who are doing better now than in the past, or people whose future hope is visible, tangible, and within reach, do they need to use "thinking about those days..." to improve their self-image? Take me for example, haha, take me for example, "Brother is no longer the same brother as before..." If I keep singing this song all day long, needless to say, I will definitely be very frustrated and lost! Of course, my life is mediocre. Even if "Brother is no longer the same brother", I will definitely not let you see my frustration and loss, because I was not "Brother" back then, and I have never thought of becoming "Brother" in the future. "Whether or not I am "my brother back then" is completely nonsense and has nothing to do with me. Why do I need to show my frustration and loss to you?
The girls, as always, took the grandson to the Auto Expo Center for breakfast. I felt that the car's air conditioning was not as good as before and was a bit poor. I suspected that it was leaking fluorine. A similar situation happened last summer. I went to the repair shop and added a can of fluorine and it was fine. So when I passed by the 4S store, I thought of stopping in to check it out. As a result, the little girl inside told me that no matter whether the air conditioner is faulty or not, you have to pay 500 yuan first for just inspection. If you need to replace any parts or add fluoride, you will have to pay extra.Thinking about it, it’s not cost-effective. Not to mention that there may be nothing wrong with it, but I just feel that even if there is something wrong, it won’t cost much to go to a Changshou repair shop. At least the 500 yuan “inspection fee” will be saved! Money is getting harder and harder to earn. How many old farmers in the countryside had to brave the scorching sun for how long and sell how many vegetables to earn 500 yuan on the farm in Duzhou! If you can save, save it. If you don’t have money, you should save it. If you have money, you can’t spend it randomly and willfully. Therefore, under the “disdainful” eyes of the little girl and others, I calmly drove the car away! I said I won’t cultivate here. I’ll go back to Changshou to get it checked out! One of the young waiters sneered twice, snorted two "卍...卍..." from his nostrils, stared at my car and left, and added: "You live a long life, no wonder, you can't even spend this little money." Get up!" For other customers, I might have to pester you for a few words. As for me, I didn't hear it. In the past, I would mutter in my heart: "You look down on others!" Now, I don't even bother with such muttering! Others have the freedom to speak, but I have the choice of taking what I hear or not taking it seriously!
In the community where my daughter lives, there used to be no charge for "temporarily parked" vehicles like mine. I guess it was because the charging procedures in the community garage were not perfected. Now that they have been improved, charging has officially started. The gatekeeper of the community explained again and again for fear of causing misunderstanding. I say you should charge whatever you want. As long as the procedures are complete and the charges are reasonable, no one will say it shouldn’t be done! I remember the last time I was on duty, I went to a police officer at Sankenong Mall. There was a "disabled person" who drove to the parking lot there in the past few years, but his fee was not confiscated. That day he started to be charged, and he refused to let him go, and it made a big fuss. The parking lot called the police and we went to check the relevant information. It was approved by the government department and was operating legally. It was the past when there was no charge, but it is now when there is a charge. We took both parties back to the institute for mediation, but before Deng Ping and others from the mediation office rushed back to the institute after get off work, the "disabled person" knew that he was in the wrong and was willing to pay to reach a settlement! At that time, I joked with them and said, "It's such a hot day. It's time for everyone to go home and rest after work. Is it worth it to make such a fuss over a few dollars?" It's definitely not worth it. It's not worth it for both parties. , it’s not worth it for me to call the police. If you have a good attitude and understand the principle of "contentment is enough", then the "disabled" people have been parking there for several years without being charged, but now they are charging. What are you dissatisfied with?
After working as a police officer for so many years, people often say that it is a pity not to have a full-time job! In the eyes of the speaker, no matter what, I deserve to be an official! One time, due to some work matters, I had a little trouble with an old colleague who was about to retire at the time. The way he humiliated me in public was to keep saying: "No matter how bad I was as a police station director and instructor, you are still a policeman when you get older and become a college graduate and a writer!" I don't care about him. I have a different mentality. There are also different understandings of what it means to live well and live poorly. If "living well" is understood as "happiness", then in his eyes it is "happiness" to be able to work in an official position, but in my opinion, being able to make a small contribution to something you like Achievements, dedication to work, not afraid of humiliation, even if you are still a small policeman in old age, as long as you do not bully the weak, abuse your power, bend the law for personal gain, embezzle public and private gains, and have a solid and open heart, you will be a great happiness! Therefore, no matter who says that I am a good person or a naughty person, they actually cannot enter my heart. I know that I am really not as bad as some people say or imagine! I know where my joy and happiness lie, and I have no regrets or regrets about the past. This is quite a sense of happiness! Don’t regret the past, don’t regret the past. Ask the people around you how many of you can do it?
When I was young, I was a "passionate" seed. To be honest, I loved and chased many girls.Times have changed, and looking back now, love is just love, and pursuit is just pursuit. No one is really suitable for getting married and living an ordinary life with fireworks. On the contrary, the woman who "accidentally" married me and became my wife is low-key. Introverted, gentle and virtuous, diligent and thrifty in housekeeping, not romantic or poetic at all, but he has lived with me for decades without any quarrels or troubles! If it were someone else, would I be able to have a peaceful and secure life today? If it were someone else, would I be able to create "quite abundant" books one after another? When you were poor, she envied wealth; when you were writing quietly, she tried every possible means to make trouble; you regarded simplicity as beauty, she regarded coolness as beauty; you regarded whispering as beauty, she regarded chattering and carelessness as beauty. ; You are good at being true to your word and being a responsible person, but she is beautiful at being vain and slippery, playing tricks, and playing tricks... Think about it, how will you live that day? So if someone says what I was like in the past, I will say that I was not like that in the beginning. Everything has a cause and effect. What is the best now is the best outcome!
There are no what-ifs in life. All what-ifs are deceptive drugs. If you drink too much, you will become addicted. You will be addicted and unable to extricate yourself.As the saying goes, contentment always brings happiness! If you know how to be satisfied, how to be grateful for the past and the present, and know that you can still see the good side of things even when you are least satisfied, then your life must be happy, and you must be happy every day you live! On the contrary, complaining too much, regretting too much, and worrying about gains and losses will affect your mood, damage your happiness index, and thus reduce your quality of life!
Sometimes I wonder, if we really married so-and-so back then and we were still together today, would we be like my current wife, living in peace and harmony without any quarrels or quarrels? When I was addicted to smoking, I wanted to have one, but I was confused. Would she allow it? I'm very poetic and passionate. When I want to write one or two bullshit poems, I scream "honey" and "baby" in a disgusting way. Doesn't she scold me? Or my cell phone rings, and when I answer it, I hear a girl’s voice. If she doesn’t chase her, I will ask who called me? Or maybe the salary is collected as soon as you get it. If you hide some private money, you will beat the loser and ask you to explain to whom you want to leave the money. Can I, a scholar and writer who values "freedom" more than my life, be able to endure all this? The poet Petofi said: "Life is precious, but love is more valuable; if it is for freedom, both can be thrown away!" This is called "poetry as evidence". In the minds of some scholars, the freedom and liberation of human nature are really More important than life and love!
In the poor era when there was not much to eat, I was lucky enough to be able to study and go to college. I was lucky in life; in my youthful and ignorant years, when the fire of love could easily burn my mind, I was lucky enough to meet a reliable and trustworthy person. A girl who does her duty, walks through thick and thin, has been away for decades, and is blessed with love; after working as a police officer for decades in a career that is extremely hard and risky, she has not encountered any major storms or setbacks, and she is still in good health when she retires , I am still energetic, I still have future dreams and pursuits, I am lucky to be alive; not to mention the age when I was the only child, I was lucky enough to have two daughters, everyone is forced to live and those who are busy making a living are not as hard-working as dogs in middle age. In recent days, I have been fortunate enough to write so many "own" works... I am content, and because I am content, I live a very happy life!
I read an article online, saying that in an era of constant war, I am lucky not to live in a war-torn country; under the influence of the epidemic, the economy is in recession, companies are closing down, prices are rising, wages are owed and unemployment is a matter of minutes. I am lucky to have a stable job and stable income, and not worry about not being able to return to my job when I walk out of the door today. I have some spare money on my hands, and there is no mortgage loan in the bank. I don’t have to worry about not being able to afford food, or living well. My house and my well-driving car were foreclosed at a low price. Fortunately... After reading this article, I actually want to say that living in the present, if you have a grateful heart and a normal heart that is content and happy, everything will be better. If things have their limits and they know what they are satisfied with, that would be a blessing! When people are alive, they are afraid of not being grateful or satisfied. They eat from a bowl and stare at the pot, live in a small flat and think about a big villa, drive a Mercedes-Benz BMW and still miss Lamborghini ; it is boring, the desire is hard to fill, and it will never be forgotten. There is no end, and if things go on like this, you are destined to have no joy and happiness in life, because you have been rushing on the road to pursue your desires without rest, and you are very tired and hard. Therefore, when you are alive, you must understand that there is a kind of happiness called "contentment" !
Original: Dan Yuanjun
Editor: Cowherd
Contributed by: Dan Yuanjun Studio (preparation)
Chapter 75 of the fourth part of the "Police Situation" tetralogy "Miscellaneous Notes on the Police"
Total Chapter 315
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