When I go out with friends, when others talk about me, they always praise me with words such as "emotional influencer".
Although we know in our hearts that we are not worthy, human beings are either vain or vain.
Not yesterday, my friend went out for dinner and was asked about emotional problems.
It’s not really a big deal. We just need to renovate the house. The girl wants a semi-open bathroom, the kind with the sink outside.
But boys must design a traditional, closed bathroom.
There are also some minor problems like this. There are so many problems. Neither of the two people can understand the other, and neither one wants to give in. In the end, it becomes a deadlock.
This kind of problem should not be too familiar to people like me who have been in a relationship for nine years.
I gave the simplest way to deal with it: put first.
In fact, what makes couples quarrel is not the matter itself, but the emotion at that moment.
Let it go for a while, the emotion is gone, and then look at the matter itself, and you will find that, damn, how could we get into such a quarrel over such a trivial matter?
Friends think so.
then asked me, if you and Ms. Li have a disagreement, for example, you want to go out to watch a show or play, and she disagrees, what should you do?
Speaking of this, I became energetic and talked freely, showing the results of my many years of communication and running-in with Ms. Li.
I said that this kind of thing needs to be communicated in advance. For example, today, I told her at noon that I would go out in the evening, and then I would stay with her all day tomorrow...
Balabala said a lot, just saying that I can already do it very well. A good balance between the two.
After all, this is indeed the case from the daily love life I posted.
However, I was slapped in the face that night.
Originally I had two appointments with my friends yesterday, one was to play ball and the other was to sing karaoke.
Later we decided to go to karaoke and play ball on Saturday.
But in the screenshot of the chat I gave Ms. Li with her friend, the words were quite confusing. Ms. Li thought I was going to play ball, so she agreed.
I was actually surprised.
On Friday night, Ms. Li would actually let me go out to play?
So when my friend asked me about it while eating, I took this matter as an example of my emotional integration, and I felt quite proud of it.
Look, I can still handle this kind of thing in a very balanced way.
Unexpectedly, this turned out to be just a beautiful misunderstanding.
Ms. Li thought I was going to play ball and exercise was a good thing after all, so she let me go.
As a result, after dinner in the evening, as soon as I arrived at the KTV, Ms. Li called me. After we communicated, she found out that I was going to sing.
She thought that my activities tonight were over, but she didn't expect that my activities tonight had just begun.
I quickly tried to persuade him, saying that I would finish and go back soon.
The result ended at two o'clock in the evening.
Ms. Li called me in the middle but I haven’t received it yet.
When she got home, Ms. Li was already asleep.
I only had one thought in my mind at that time:
I want to be ruined.
When I woke up at noon the next day, I saw that Ms. Li had already gotten up early and was packing things there with a stinky face.
My brain, which was not yet awake, suddenly came to life.
Did I make her angry yesterday?
Yes, a very firm voice deep in my brain told me.
is finished.
I pretended to be calm, got dressed, brushed my teeth, and washed my face, while peeking at Ms. Li from the corner of my eye.
Ms. Li is cooking instant noodles.
I came back late yesterday and I haven’t cooked for her today, so I’m going to get an extra penalty.
But with Ms. Li’s cooking skills, she can cook four dishes and one soup all night long. This noodle will definitely not taste good.
Sure enough, after Ms. Li finished her meal, she sat down to take a bite, put down her chopsticks, and never picked them up again.
As soon as I saw it, the opportunity came.
hurried up and asked her what she wanted to eat for lunch.
Ms. Li glanced at me, said nothing, and went to exercise on her own.
At this time, the family cat, Maodan, got into the closet again.
It is the season of shedding, and it is a long-haired cat. Ms. Li repeatedly ordered not to allow it to enter the closet.
Ms. Li took out the hairy egg, pointed at the cat's head and scolded it.
refers to the kind of scolding that is done by Sang and Huai.
Maodan was also very innocent. He turned to look at me, as if to say:
"Here, you take the blame for yourself."
I hope Ms. Li can vent her anger now.
Perhaps scolding the cat can really vent my anger. I saw the right opportunity and stepped forward to give him a kiss, a hug and a lift.
In the end, Ms. Li’s anger was extinguished only by my sincere repentance, being scratched several times on my arm, and signing various treaties that were humiliating and humiliating the country.
How do I know it is off?
Because Ms. Li said she was hungry and asked me to cook.
I can see that Ms. Li is quite angry this time.
We haven’t had a fight in a long time.
So after a meal at noon, Ms. Li seemed to be calmed down, but her anger may not be completely eliminated.
The crisis has not been completely resolved.
After dinner in the afternoon, I found that there was some leftover fat meat in the refrigerator from the previous cooking, so I decided to use it to stir-fry lard.
After the lard was prepared, I put it in a small bowl and placed it next to the stove.
As a result, when I was washing the dishes in the afternoon, I didn’t think much about it. I thought it was vegetable soup or something, so I just poured it out.
put down the bowl after pouring, what the hell? What did I just pour?
only then realized that the half bowl of lard that I had worked so hard to stir-fry in the afternoon was poured out by me.
I really want to slap myself twice.
but I can’t do it.
I ran to Ms. Li: "Come, slap me twice."
Ms. Li: ? ? ? Is there such a good thing?
...
is a slap in the face, but it is still symbolic.
Ms. Li found out about the stupid thing I did and was amused.
When I saw it, I was kissed and hugged again, and I was finally coaxed.
I haven’t received a call since last night. Until now, I feel that the hole I dug has finally been filled.
This fight probably ended the "quarrel" with .
Yesterday, my friend asked me what I should do in a quarrel.
I said that if it is not a major matter involving life choices, you might as well put it aside first.
The two of them have calmed down, their attention has been diverted by other things, their emotions have subsided, their rationality has regained the high ground, and they can communicate again.
At this time, there is no temporary emotion to hinder it. In fact, things can be over easily.
The premise is that in this process, at least one party must be willing to suppress their emotions at the time.
Most people can't do it.
After all, people are emotional animals, and falling in love is an emotional thing.
So no matter how good the relationship is, it is very normal for couples to quarrel.
No matter how sweet a couple is, they still have to quarrel.
are all trivial things.
Everyone is willing to show the beautiful side of love, but it does not mean that its violent side does not exist.
Unless the two of you are together, not for love, such as your girlfriend who drives a Rolls-Royce and celebrates her 60th birthday tomorrow, you will definitely not be willing to quarrel with her.
The beginning of love is itself an emotion, or accidental.
The difference between two people is inevitable.
The so-called staying together till old age is actually defeating the inevitable with chance, which is naturally difficult.
But love is dazzling. The key is that it does not make sense.
I just like it, no conditions or reasons.
In this case, those arguments and disagreements can be particularly painful.
You don’t want to separate, but it seems that there are reasons to separate everywhere in life.
But in fact, as long as you put aside the tit-for-tat emotions at that time and look back, those reasons for breaking up will no longer exist.
There are always many things that are wrong. If there is only one "I like her", the rest will not be a problem.
