# Turn over my life diary# Ms. Smart Muzi shares her emotions 2022-06-30 20:48:12 Pictures from Guangdong come from the Internet. It seems that I have gone through such an experience myself, and maybe I will experience it again in the future. , of course, I don't hope. It’s just

comes from Guangdong. The picture comes from the Internet

It seems that I have gone through such an experience myself, and maybe I will experience it again in the future. Of course, I don’t hope. It’s just that we also wrote down a lot of things. As long as it makes one person less sad, we should do it.

Because things like emotions, if you don’t understand them at all, you will often be stuck inside and unable to come out.

She used to leave, and I felt very sad afterwards. I couldn’t even listen to what others said. I was sad there for a long time, and I always felt that she would come back. I also always felt that she would sympathize with us, seeing how much we had sacrificed. If there are many, they will come back.

However, she still did not come back after all. And I finally got out of the little trap I set.

Why do we talk about small traps set by ourselves? Because many times, many things are imposed on ourselves by ourselves.

For example, we are very painful when she leaves. In fact, for her and the people around us, we don’t feel it.

We thought that Beau Sympathy would come back, but in fact she wouldn’t. When we wanted to leave, it would be useless even if we died.

It’s really not scary. I actually ran to the rooftop several times at that time.

Death will only last for a moment, but it is really useless.

What is useful is to step out on your own and live a better life than before. This is also the only choice.

Love can destroy a person. There are too many such things on TV, in novels, and among many people around us. Some people don’t love so deeply, or they will be better off if they are more sensible, but those who love deeply but are not sensible will be very troublesome.

You may still remember that I once wrote a story about a man who chased a woman.

. As a result, the woman said that he did not know how to play basketball and his handwriting was not good. As a result, the man played basketball every day and did not want to attend class. He practiced calligraphy every day, which made him very depressed. Of course, in the end, the man finally woke up and felt something was wrong.

Because everyone has their own specialties, if they change easily, it will become more and more troublesome later on.

In fact, the above one is not bad, at least it is positive, although it is also a bit off track.

But many things are really negative. The way I used to be, I couldn’t drink or eat, which was also negative.

Last time on TV, I saw a man who liked a woman. The man also liked a woman. The woman had mysophobia. The man loved her very much, so he kept coaxing her. But unexpectedly, one time, the man went on a business trip and got drunk for some reason.

His colleague took a photo of the man sleeping with a woman and gave it to the woman.

So, the trouble is big. Because that woman even has mysophobia, if a man sleeps with someone else, he will definitely break up.

When this man heard about the breakup, he really started crying. So I resigned.

I cry at home every day and keep scolding myself, how could something like that happen? Why am I such a bastard?

Not only that, every time I think of that shot, I scratch myself with a knife.

Within a few days, there were scars everywhere on my hands and body.

I believe that many people will be like this. Although I have never done this before, I still write in the space. I always feel that I am the most miserable person in the world, and I always feel that I am a bastard if I leave that person.

But in fact, this has side effects, but we didn’t understand it at the beginning.

For example, after calling us and analyzing it for half an hour, we still insisted on our ideas and were still writing in the space. That person basically doesn’t like chatting with us anymore, but those who can help us analyze are really good friends.

Because he would think that it would be useless to help us analyze it. The analysis has no effect, so let us fend for ourselves.

The person who leaves us will think that it would be impossible without me. Why didn’t he appreciate it before?Maybe it was her fault, she would also think that our level is only like this, and we wouldn't be able to do it without her. A person’s first mental reaction.

Speaking of this, I thought of what a friend said. He said:

Don't tell others about our depression, because 80% of people will be indifferent and the other 20% will laugh at us.

Although the ratio is not 100% like this, it is really, probably, like this.

Therefore, if a person leaves and we are depressed, that is playing into other people's hands.

They will laugh, and when we are most depressed, if we hurt ourselves or others at this time, then there are really many things that we will never get back, and we will also lose, such as the one who cut himself above. young man.

If you commit suicide, you will really be in trouble, and you will be laughed at for the rest of your life.

What should we do when others leave us and we are in pain:

The person above went to participate in the program, and the instructor said:

If she makes herself self-harming, she will never come back. She is afraid that one day Will it cripple her? If she quit her job, she would be laughed at even more. Even if she wanted to come back, she would still be thinking about how she would support them without a job. What should I do if I still have this temper in the future?

What you have to do at this time is not to be sad, try to explain things clearly, and then work hard.

Do your best at work and live the best life for yourself, and then she will be envious of you. Maybe there will be a chance to come back.

Of course, I don’t want to leave when I think I can’t. It's true.

The moon waxes and wanes, and you can’t guarantee that the next one you encounter will be better. There's no guarantee he won't get up. However, when our she leaves, we must not give up on ourselves, let alone hurt ourselves or others, and we must do better.

Thinking of this, I thought of two short stories, which are true.

There was a girl who was naturally thin. When she went to her friend's house later, her boyfriend's mother saw her and said, break up quickly. She firmly disagreed. She would definitely not be able to have children at such a young and thin age in the future. Then the girls were broken up with.

I didn’t expect that the girl behind her was also very ambitious. Not only did she find a rich and handsome man, she also gave birth to two children at once, one of which was twins.

Five years have passed. I saw my former boyfriend in the space and asked if anyone had any Chinese medicine prescriptions that could help me have a baby.

She walked over quietly, pretending she didn’t see the word, and quietly liked it 32 times.

Another story is: There was a girl who was relatively fat and had a crush on a handsome boy. The boy told others that the girl was very beautiful, but unfortunately she was a little fat. Many, many years have passed at once.

In the blink of an eye, that woman became the boss, very rich, her husband also listened to her, and she also owned two houses. And the man is still single. And one day she met that man on the street. He called her, but she pretended not to hear and walked away calmly.

So there are many things in life that we really can’t say for sure. Maybe there will be a miracle tomorrow.

　But no matter what, work and career are really our main theme. You don’t have to have love, but you must have a career.

She left. If we remain sad and uncomfortable, we will really be laughed at. What we have to do is to live a better life than before. When we live a better life, many things become easier to talk about.

Even if she doesn’t come back, it will be fine. We still have our jobs, our careers, our capital and foundation, and we can still work hard to find the next love. The moon waxes and wanes, and the rainbow always comes after the wind and rain.

She, of course, is not just her in love, such as someone, something, something, something, something in life.

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I know everything, and I understand the truth, but we really can't go on. Leaving is at least a better choice for me. As for him, I don't know. Because he no longer cares.

More and more people believe that life needs a sense of ritual. I didn’t believe it at first, because I thought that as long as the heart is true, other formalisms are not that important, but then I slowly learned about it. I found out that I was wrong, completely wrong! What used to be a lively conversation has now become a simple matter of good morning and good night, and sometimes there is even nothing to say at all. In the past, I would buy gifts to celebrate every holiday, but now it is just a simple meal. Sometimes it’s just a simple greeting; when I have something to ask him, he always looks like he doesn’t care, and sometimes he just says, “I’m busy” and rejects me.

Zhang Ailing said, Emotions are so fragile. They can withstand the wind and rain, but they cannot withstand the ordinary. Maybe the relationship between us is too ordinary and there are no waves. Someone asked me if it was worth it. He said, love is not about whether it is worth it, right or wrong, it doesn’t matter, everything experienced is beautiful.

I don’t know why I was so stupid, I gave everything to him and believed what he said. Promises, sometimes promises are made by a liar to a fool, but I don't regret it. If you don't try some things, you will never know how you will feel and what the consequences will be.

I will leave him. It's better, I comfort myself like this. I don't know how I am living without him, but one thing is for sure, my lifestyle must have changed, which means there is no comparison between how well I am living now and how it was before. It’s a completely different life than before. My living habits will change, my life attitude will change, my life pursuits will change, and the most fatal thing is that my heart has already changed, full of scars, or miserable! Because of being injured, or because of being calm, in short, some things are taken lightly.

Some people say that if you leave him, you can continue to be with your friends like you did before you knew him. Of course I know. , but after getting to know him, I spent most of my time with him. Some of my previous friends had already kept to themselves. If I had to get involved, of course it wouldn’t be a big problem, but others were already used to being in groups. There is a tacit understanding between each other, and the space is only so big. If I were to insert myself, it would be very crowded and depressing. Others would feel uncomfortable because of my joining, and I would feel even more uncomfortable if I left him. I thought maybe I could be alone. Some people say that being alone is a kind of ability, but what is more revealed is endless desolation and loneliness. Lin Yutang explains it this way, looking at the word loneliness. , there are children, fruits, puppies, and butterflies, enough to support the entrance of an alley in the midsummer evening, full of human touch. Young children are holding melons and willows under the shed, thin dogs are chasing butterflies in the narrow alleys, the world is prosperous and full of laughter, but I have some spare time for wind on my temples. ——Children, fruits, cats, dogs and flying butterflies are certainly lively, but they have nothing to do with you. This is called loneliness. Leaving him, maybe I am really lonely, at least I already feel extremely empty and lonely in my heart.

I'm sure, I want to leave him. I don’t know what the result will be, but some things really need to be tried to know, just like I gave myself to him at that time, let me try...