In people's minds, a parent's life is a life of fighting and dedication for their children. From the day the child is born, they feed and educate the child. When the child grows up, they buy a house and marry a wife for the child. After they have grandchildren, they It seems that such parents are competent when raising grandchildren. However, with the development of the times, the ideas and concepts of some elderly people are also changing, and they pursue individuality and enjoyment. However, they seem to be unpopular with their children. There are mainly three types of elderly people as follows.
One of the types is not taking care of children. Mr. Wang has an only son. After getting married, he bought a house to live in the city. Since the young couple works in the city, they are usually busy. After the son had a child, he said to his mother: You can take care of the child for us in the city. It’s too expensive to hire a nanny! Old Man Wang said: You can only settle your own small debt, why don’t you count my and your mother’s health debt? We have worked hard to raise you, marry you, and have your mother take care of your children when you are old. Do you know how tiring it is to take care of your children?
Lao Wang did not let his wife take care of his son's children, and his son was not happy. However, the old couple lived together and took care of each other. They usually farmed some land, raised some chickens and ducks, and supported themselves. They lived a comfortable and happy life.
Type 2: Save money for retirement. After Lao Zhang's son got married, he took out a loan to buy a house and had to repay the mortgage every month. The pressure was quite high. The son asked his parents to live with them, and asked their parents to contribute living expenses and help repay the mortgage. Because both parents have retirement income.
Father Lao Zhang said to his son: We raised you, you are already married, you can make your own way in the future, don’t try to influence us anymore, your mother and I still need to save some money for retirement!
The son said: You are not old yet. When you are really old, I will take care of you!
Lao Zhang said: What you say sounds nice, but when the time comes when you really need to pay, you may say another thing, because you have a wife and children, and your family needs to live! How can we save some money ourselves and take it out when we want to use it!
Lao Zhang doesn't care or care about his son's life and work. With his retirement salary, the old couple can eat whatever they want and play wherever they want, living a carefree life.
Type 3. When you get old, you don’t want to send away gifts or leave relatives. One day, Old Man Liu and his wife were watching TV at home. A relative came to the house and told Old Liu that his son was getting married the day after tomorrow and would take Old Liu to a wedding banquet. Old Liu said: Now that I am old, I will no longer attend to gifts and leave relatives! The relative said unhappily: You went over to celebrate a wedding and I gave you a gift. Why don’t you return the gift? Lao Liu said: Now that my son has married, all the gifts I owe others will be repaid by my son! Also, it’s not easy for you to travel all the way, and I don’t care about your food. Just go to my son’s house, and he will take care of your food! This relative had no choice but to go to Lao Liu's son's home.
Since his son got married, all the relatives held weddings and weddings and invited Lao Liu, but Lao Liu didn't go. He said that all the gifts he owed others before were repaid by his son. If his son didn't repay, it was his son's business and had nothing to do with him. ! Usually, Lao Liu and his wife never visit relatives, and he does not visit relatives, nor does he come to his home. Some people say that they are lonely, but Lao Liu says that such a life is quiet and happy.
Don’t take care of your children, save money for your own retirement, and don’t visit relatives or send gifts when you get old. For these three types of elderly, some people say that they are selfish and only care about their own enjoyment, which will hurt their children’s hearts and not be welcomed by them. When you really need your children by your side when you are old, they may not care about you, and you will not be happy in your later years. Is this really the case? What do you think?
