We often say: Brothers should settle accounts clearly. In everyone’s impression, the main purpose is to settle financial accounts to avoid misunderstandings and conflicts between brothers due to money issues.
In real life, even if the financial calculations between some brothers are "clear", the relationship between the brothers is still tense, and some even fight and turn against each other because of other trivial family matters. Why does this happen with
? The main reason is that apart from the economic accounts, the other "four accounts" between brothers have not been settled clearly.
The first book is the family account
The family account is also called the blood relationship account.
The blood of the same parents flows in the veins of biological brothers, and they inherit the genes of the same parents. The close relationship between biological brothers is unmatched by any other relationship. The affection between brothers who share the same milk is higher than the sky and deeper than the ocean.
The relationship between brothers has become cold and indifferent due to various reasons, and has reached the point of "no contact until death". The main reason is that they have ignored, neglected, and lost the blood. Yu Shui's family relationship has not been settled clearly.
Because of the relationship between genes, not only is the blood relationship between brothers destined to be unbroken in this life, but the genetic code of the children and grandchildren can never be changed.
Brothers for life, brothers for generations.
This family account that can never be changed or erased must be settled and clarified.
The second book is an emotional account
The relationship between brothers has both family tradition and tutoring, as well as nurture.
Brothers fight, father and son go into battle. This is a feeling that everyone yearns for and envies, but to really reach this level, it requires the joint efforts of the brothers.
Interpersonal relationship lies in communication, and brotherhood lies in cultivation.
In normal times, brothers should communicate and interact with each other frequently. Especially when encountering big or small issues, they should actively move forward and support them; especially when the other party encounters difficulties and urgently needs support, they should provide timely assistance as soon as possible. Offer a helping hand to help the other person get out of trouble.
The relationship between the brothers has improved, and the parents are relieved and the family is harmonious, and everyone praises it; on the contrary, the brothers are fighting over each other, and the parents are anxious and angry, and outsiders are pointing fingers and making jokes.
borrowed a sentence: Brothers working together can make a difference. Brothers must settle emotional accounts well and be able to settle emotional accounts.
The third book is the account of filial piety
The account of filial piety is an account of honoring your parents and fulfilling your own filial piety.
In life, there are many brothers who have tense relationships because of problems in honoring their parents and how to fulfill their filial piety.
How can brothers calculate their filial piety account?
First, don’t compare with
Because their living conditions and economic foundations are different, their efforts or contributions in honoring their parents may be different: those with good family conditions and a certain financial ability may Pay more; those with average family conditions and average financial capacity may pay less in honoring their parents.
No matter how much you pay or how little you pay, as long as you do your best and show your filial piety.
Brothers, don't compare with each other, let alone be fussy.
The second is not to be kidnapped by morality.
Honoring parents is not only a traditional virtue of the Chinese nation, but also the obligation and responsibility of children.
But in real life, due to various reasons, some children are able to shoulder the obligations and responsibilities of honoring their parents, while others are unable to do so.
At this time, both brothers and sisters must understand each other and do not accuse or reprimand for no reason, let alone use this as a basis for moral kidnapping.
The third is to understand each other.
When brothers are calculating the account of filial piety, they must understand each other and remember the original intention of honoring their parents: to make their parents worry less and to allow them to spend their old age peacefully.
For example: In real life, my elder brother is indeed very filial to his parents. Whether in daily life or when his parents are sick and hospitalized, he can do his best to support and take care of him in every possible way; because his younger brother is far away from his parents in other places or has poor financial conditions, he is very filial to his parents. There is indeed a certain gap between him and his elder brother in this regard, and his younger brother also feels guilty.
If the elder brother can understand the younger brother's difficulties, and the younger brother can be grateful to him, his parents will be happy and live a long life. On the contrary, if the elder brother is resentful towards his younger brother, not only will the younger brother not be grateful to his elder brother, but he will also be grateful to his elder brother. If they are dissatisfied, the relationship between brothers will become more and more tense, and parents will become angry because of it. This is very different from the original intention of honoring parents.
The fourth book is the inheritance account
The inheritance account is the inheritance account inherited from the parents.
Parents A hundred years later, when it comes to inheriting inheritance, brothers must give in to each other and be courteous to each other.
If the brothers' family conditions are similar, the inheritance can be divided into two; if the brothers' family conditions are different, some are good and some are bad, both the brother and the younger brother must put brotherly feelings first, and let the brother give in. The younger brother will give way to the older brother, or the one with better family conditions will give way to the one with slightly worse family conditions.
The property left by parents is countless and temporary, but the family ties and feelings between brothers are priceless and permanent.
Whether brothers can settle inheritance accounts will directly determine whether the relationship between brothers can continue to operate and be maintained in the future.
Brothers settle accounts clearly. After settling the financial accounts, we must also carefully calculate the "four accounts": family accounts, emotional accounts, filial piety accounts and inheritance accounts.
Only in this way can the relationship between brothers get better and better, and parents can live a happy old age.
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