Text/An Dongyue-Time flies, time flies. The memory of youth is not far away, people have reached middle age and slowly begin to move towards the second half of life. Some people say: "In the first half of life, please work hard to make money; in the second half of life, please wo

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Time flies, and the years fly by. The memory of youth is not far away, people have reached middle age and slowly begin to move towards the second half of life.

Some people say: "In the first half of life, please work hard to make money; in the second half of life, please work hard to earn happiness."

However, it is not easy to obtain happiness. First of all, you must have a good attitude; secondly, you must have the correct way of doing things. And these things need to be continuously learned, experienced, summarized, and improved.

has always liked the book "Zengguang Xianwen". The famous sayings and sentences summarized in it are not only catchy to read, but also rich in profound philosophy of life and ways of dealing with the world. Although this is an enlightenment book for children, it is very suitable for adults to read. Only adults who have experienced hardships can truly understand the true meaning of the sentence.

When people reach middle age and begin to enter the second half of their lives, they should keep in mind some wise sayings and always alert themselves. If you can truly understand the following three sentences, you will live more clearly and your happiness will be improved.

01. Human feelings are as thin as a piece of paper, and the world is like a new chess game.

Human relations are like a piece of paper, and it is about interpersonal relationships and the comings and goings of favors. The world is like a new chess game, and it is about changes in the world that are unpredictable.

Interpersonal relationships mainly include relatives, friends, classmates, colleagues, etc. These relationships, if they get along well, are a fortune, but if they don't, they are a disaster.

Just think about it, are brothers turning against each other, friends stabbing each other in the back, classmates comparing themselves with each other, and colleagues fighting each other? Are these situations common in life? And how many people really love each other, help each other, make progress together, and improve together?

When I was young, I was used to looking at everything from a beautiful perspective. It was especially easy to trust someone. If someone was kind to me, I would dig deep into my heart and say forever.

Looking back now, I realize how naive I was back then.

After half a lifetime, although I have met many people, they are all just passers-by in life.

Many seemingly solid relationships and deep friendships are fragile in the face of reality. Either they were stranded by time, they were defeated by distance, or they had conflicts of interest and turned against each other.

Nothing happens, no wisdom gained, no reason. Only with more experience can you see through many things.

For example, the relationship between people should not be overly trusted; the feelings between people should not be overly relied on. Things in the world are ever-changing, and no one will know the outcome until the end. Just calm down and face it calmly.

02. When the water is extremely clear, there are no fish, and when people observe it deeply, there is no plan.

"When the water is extremely clear, there are no fish, and when people are deep, there is no plan." This sentence means that no matter whether it is about people or things, you can't make demands. too high. If the requirements are too high, things will be difficult to do and people will be difficult to deal with.

People are always very serious when they are young. One is one, two is two, there is no ambiguity. Do things as they should and don't know how to adapt. He has a straightforward personality and often offends people without even realizing it.

Later, as my experience gradually enriched and my mind gradually matured, I began to look at problems from multiple angles. I learned that many things are not black and white, so I became more harmonious and learned to be smart when I should be smart and be confused when I should be confused.

Mr. Zheng Banqiao, a calligrapher and painter of the Qing Dynasty, has a famous saying: "It is rare to be confused." This was also his personal philosophy of life, and was later praised by many people.

In fact, the so-called confusion does not mean that the mind is unclear, but that the surface is confused but the heart is clear, which is what we often call great wisdom and foolishness.

When people reach a certain age, they will see many things clearly, understand many truths, and behave very differently from before.

Just like me, things that I thought were very important in the past seem meaningless now, such as others' recognition of myself; I have now let go of the knots that I thought I couldn't let go of no matter what, such as frustrations in the workplace. .

"Only when a person can think openly, let go, and look forward can he escape from trivial disputes. Confusing people bury their wisdom deeply in their hearts. Faced with overly complicated worldly affairs, they should be simple, be simple, and be simple when meeting people. Don’t be anxious, don’t be upset when things happen, and be content with the situation, brewing the mellow wine of life.”

The highest state of life is to be foolish and wise. In the second half of life, we must strive to achieve this state.

03. Children and grandchildren will have their own blessings, so don’t be a horse or a cow for them.

“Children and grandchildren will have their own blessings for their children and grandchildren, so don’t be a horse or a cow for your children and grandchildren.” I have heard this sentence from adults since I was a child. I didn’t understand it at the time, but now I think about it. I found that there was really a big difference between my parents back then and my parents now.

Parents at that time were willing to let their children endure hardships. Children generally became sensible early and were very independent. When they grew up, they no longer relied on their parents and lived by their own abilities. Whether they were good or bad was their own responsibility. Blame the parents.

On the contrary, today's parents, from the day they have their children, want to give them the best, even if many things are beyond their capabilities, they must find ways to satisfy their children. On weekdays, apart from asking children to study hard, they never ask for anything too much. Over time, children take their parents' contributions for granted, and they are not independent enough in life, and their psychological endurance is not strong enough, and they cannot bear any grievances and setbacks.

There are still many parents who, after their children have started a family and started a career, still work as cows and horses for their children. Even if they are wronged, they still endure it, fearing that they will become ill in the future, unable to move, and no one will take care of them.

It is human nature to love and spoil children, but everything should be done in moderation.

You must know that not all parents' efforts are grateful and rewarded by their children. Some parents even work hard and dedicate their lives to their children. In the end, they become old, sick, and have no remaining value, and their children begin to Disgust, disgust. Evil-hearted children may even abandon their parents who cannot take care of themselves and leave them to fend for themselves.

once read a piece of news that left a particularly deep impression on me. It probably said that my daughter’s family lived in a building, but their paralyzed old father slept in a pig pen for several years. The old man had never had a full meal and was already skin and bones from hunger. When the reporter asked him what he wanted most, he said that he just wanted to have a good meal of meat. He had not smelled meat for a long time.

After social assistance, the old man was taken to a nursing home, but his daughter never thought there was anything wrong with his behavior. He also said that it was good to let him sleep in the pig pen, but he didn't ignore him and let him beg for food.

Life is short, you still have to live for yourself. For your children, fulfill your due responsibilities and obligations, give yourself everything you can, and don't force yourself if you can't give it. Never lose yourself just because you have a child.

In the second half of life, remember the above three sentences. The longer you live, the more transparent you will be, and the more you live, the more comfortable you will be.

I hope we can all look down on interpersonal relationships, deal with changes calmly, be confused occasionally, and not ask what is right or wrong. For the rest of your life, stick to yourself. In addition to being responsible for your children, you are also responsible for your own life.

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