There is a saying left by our ancestors: "Having an old person in the family is like having a treasure." If there is an old person in the family, it is of course a good thing and should be treated like a treasure instead of a burden or burden. Nowadays, human health has been take

There is a saying left by our ancestors; "An old person in a family is like a treasure." If there is an old person in the family, it is of course a good thing and should be treated like a treasure instead of a burden or burden.

Nowadays, human health has been taken seriously, and human genes are also constantly evolving. So human lifespan is getting longer and longer. The number of elderly people in the family is increasing day by day. The longevity of the elderly is really a treasure. How to treat the elderly well requires the younger generation to face it correctly...

If there is a respected elderly person in the family, it is the most valuable asset of the family. If the elderly person is highly respected, open-minded, particularly cheerful, sensible, able to distinguish right from wrong, and good at mediating between family members. conflicts between. Be fair and reasonable, without favoring any party. Then this family is full of warmth and harmony, with filial sons and virtuous sons, passed down from generation to generation, and a good family tradition that is enviable.

The old man teaches filial piety and family tradition through words and deeds, and is a role model for the younger generation.

The words and deeds of the elderly are the center of attention of the younger generations, and the younger generations are also the focus of the elderly.

After all, the old man is well-informed and has the pinnacle of wisdom and experience. He is able to do great things at the right time. He can cope with all changes and handle everything properly. Comparable to navigation in progress. The "fixing needle" between family members

On the other hand, if you encounter an old man who has a bad reputation, it is the misfortune of the family and the beginning of family decline, not to mention the warmth and harmony of the family.

The unscrupulous old man cannot reconcile the conflicts between family members at all, but instead makes the members blame each other. Fight with each other. Instead of working together to build a beautiful home, focus on your own family.

Although a person's background cannot be controlled, he can make up for it through hard work: I hope you will not meet these kinds of old people.

1: An old man who favors boys over girls, has no achievements, is selfish, and does not consider future generations.

Let me tell you Sister Zhang’s self-report: Logically speaking, there is no reason to dislike my own flesh and blood, regardless of gender, but since I was born into the world, my mother has always disliked me. When I was 6 years old, I started to learn to do housework. . I have never worn new clothes, they are all rags given by others. I have been going to the mountains to hunt pigweed since I was 9 years old. I dug wild vegetables and did heavy work with those men. Fortunately, my father never disliked me and I could still study.

Not long after my father passed away, my mother fiercely snatched my schoolbag and said, "Don't go to school anymore."

I cried hard: "Mom, I want to go to school. Since my brother can go to school, I also want to go to school."

"You are a daughter. Sooner or later, you will get married and support other people's parents in their old age. But my younger brother has to be filial to me and see me die."

While talking, he hit my head with a rolling pin several times. I felt dizzy and fell down, but my mother scolded me for pretending to be dead.

never went to school again, and gradually took on the burden of the whole family. She worked with men to earn a share of the work to support the family. When we were about to get married, my mother asked my boyfriend for a large betrothal gift. My boyfriend really had no choice. Carrying wood in the mountains. After going through all kinds of hardships, I finally collected the gift.

Although it is only a few kilometers away from my parents' home. But since I got married and gave birth to three children, my mother has never visited me, let alone expressed any sympathy. And the marriage expenses of my two younger brothers forced me to say, "This is my obligation as a sister."

Later, the second brother died in the army and received a pension, and all of this pension went to the third brother, because I am a daughter and have no rights at all.

My younger brother is the son-in-law who stepped in, but my mother never cared about her birth, old age, illness and death. You have to continue raising your mother...

My three girls have all been sensible since they were young. They know how hard their mother is working, and they study hard and study hard. After graduation, they are all assigned to work in the company.

When my mother was dying, she asked me to build a tomb next to my house. She said: "It's terrible to be buried in the mountains after death. No matter what, I have to fulfill her wish. Otherwise, she will die with her eyes in peace. Who would do this?" Old man, can I not suffer? But I am still very grateful to my mother for giving birth to me and not letting me starve to death.

2: I should be filial to future generations. Never ask anything about anything.

Since ancient times, there has been a tradition of respecting the elderly and loving the young, but this is not the privilege of the elderly. If you just want to gain respect from others, you must first learn to respect others.

If the elderly rely solely on seniority and seniority. The respect accorded authority in an old man's privileged home is absurd. Only by caring and respecting from the heart can you be respected.

Although the elderly have old qualifications, they should know how to respect themselves and love themselves, instead of relying on their old age to show off.

Respect for the elderly is to lead by example, rather than to rely on the elderly to show off.

Elderly people who rely on their old age with negative energy are often not respected by others and their family members. They will also make a mess among family members and make the whole family a mess.

When family members clearly do not have the wisdom and ability to resolve conflicts, they often pretend to be someone who has experience and can only resolve them, causing chaos in the country and causing family members to blame each other. The misunderstanding deepened and the members became even worse.

If the younger generation solves the problem according to their method, it will only add more troubles. If you don't listen to their opinions, they will act like an old man and force you to do so, leaving you in a dilemma.

If you have such an old man in your family, it is your misfortune whether you obey or not. Having such an old man will often make it difficult for you to deal with problems.

When there is such an old man in the family, he should use his own wisdom and opinions. Pay attention to your strategy and judge based on your own subjective consciousness.

If you meet such an elderly person, keep a clear mind and understand them, and don't be influenced by their words and deeds. Just show them more care and love.

For example: In terms of etiquette, you should be respectful enough to the elderly and be dedicated to your filial piety. Respect him enough to give him the face he needs.

As time goes by, they will gradually understand that their words and deeds have no effect in front of you. You have subjective consciousness and judgment ability and will not follow your words.

2: A bowl of water is not only unfair, but also a stubborn and stubborn old man.

Parents can never be equal. No matter what, there will be a slight deviation, and it is absolutely impossible to achieve it. Appropriate deviations can be understood by future generations. After all, the heart of any old man is not an instrument.

Daughters and sons also play different social roles. There is no need to classify them into high and low levels.

In reality, some elderly people not only have a preference, but are also intolerable to future generations. As a child, you dare to raise the elder's bias and claim your legitimate interests.

7 What our parents give us is life, but when we grow up in life, we are still independent individuals and we must live for happiness and health. We live in this world not only to fulfill our filial piety so that we can repay our parents' kindness. We still have the yearning to pursue happiness, and we are not blindly sacrificing our own interests for our parents. We must be filial and try our best to be filial people, but we cannot be foolish filial piety. The meaning of life is to know how to express love and repay the kindness of our parents.

Of course, the elders are partial and selfish. It is really annoying to have children. It is also very sad to be favored, because this leads to disharmony between brothers and sisters.

When you encounter this kind of parents, you can only be relieved if you let them go. First of all, don’t be kidnapped by morality. Don’t tell yourself that your parents are elders and you must obey what they say. You must strengthen your confidence, respond bravely, or even refuse all requests.

The happiness and prosperity of a family are directly related to the elderly, especially the mother. Therefore, when looking for a partner, you should check whether the family is kind. Kind people cannot do extraordinary things.

When a family is prosperous, what is the moral character of the elderly in the family? The filial piety that should be fulfilled is absolutely unambiguous, as long as you have a clear conscience, but don't try to use filial piety to influence people's thoughts or restrict their hands and feet.

Parents' right to control property is their rights and freedoms. Don't feel unfair about property. Don’t let your parents’ property control rights affect your mentality. If the parents are biased and lose the freedom to control their own wealth.It is not your obligation to support other brothers and sisters, it is your personal right. Whether you refuse or agree, everything is your business and has nothing to do with anyone else.

Learn to protect yourself and resolutely refuse financial assistance to your brothers and sisters. Children born to unscrupulous parents are bound to have bad relationships and have their own hidden agendas. Being pampered unbridled. Being calculated to perfection. At this time, you would rather sever ties with them than keep your own wealth.

run your own family well and consolidate your position. Otherwise, if you pay until you have nothing, you will lose your use value and be kicked away by them.

Four: Self-interested and mercenary old people

As the saying goes: "Every family has a sutra that is difficult to recite." If there are unscrupulous old people on the street, it is the tragedy of the family.

When some old people get old, their words and deeds will show signs of being old and young. When dealing with such old people, multi-faceted considerations are the first choice. It is really bad to be led by the words and deeds of the old people.

They say that the old people's intelligence is also affected by age, and they sometimes become just like children. Like children, they need attention and care from the younger generation.

Although their mentality has also undergone earth-shaking changes, this aspect also comes from the fear of aging of the elderly. However, the selfishness of some elderly people makes the younger generation feel scared...

Although the elderly have experienced tremendous changes. Everything they can enjoy depends on the filial piety of their children, but they are selfish and never understand the difficulties and pressures of the younger generations.

If they cannot satisfy their desires and selfishness, they will use a moral framework to accuse you of being unfilial. Loyalty, failure to fulfill our due responsibilities to the elderly.

No matter what, they are elderly and have worked hard to raise us. It is the responsibility of the younger generations to be filial, but morality and seniority are not reasons to hinder our pursuit of benefits. Filial piety should be controlled within the acceptable range.

There is no virtue when you are young, so you may become better when you get older. The quality of your character changes from childhood to old age. If you are old and have no virtue, your children will not be much better. This is the result of the subtle influence of the family.

Do more good deeds and do more bad things. Karma will always be retributive and let nature take its course.

Final summary: If you encounter an immoral old man in life, you need to do your best to face the reality. Restrain yourself, you cannot change other people's thoughts, be kind to yourself, keep a normal heart, and have a good attitude.

Don't do extreme things, try your best to maintain the warmth and harmony of the family, and create conditions to improve the quality of family life even if there are no conditions. Live for yourself, not to care about other people's opinions. Only when you have a clear conscience will you live a peaceful life...

Are all the old people you meet reasonable?