Introduction:
People always experience joys and sorrows in their lives. When the elderly lose their loved ones and their children move out, they will feel a sense of emptiness. In this case, most people will choose to find someone else. Get married for the second time, so that the family will not be so deserted and the elderly will not feel lonely.
However, second marriages always face many tests, such as whether the children support them and whether they will interfere with the relationship of the remarried couple; how should the pension and property of the elderly be distributed to achieve fairness and justice? These are things that remarried couples should consider, because once they are not handled well, it is easy for them to have conflicts with their remarried spouse, and even lead to a separation.
But there are always some old people who are very wise. They do not find remarriage partners in their later years, but enjoy their old age in a special way, living a worry-free and comfortable life. What kind of way is it? Let's look down together.
The self-report of 65-year-old Brother Wu:
My name is Wu Zhengfa, I am 65 years old this year. I was born in a small mountain village where I can’t even find a map. When I was a child, my family conditions were poor. It was difficult for us brothers and sisters to even have enough food. I slept on the floor. When I was young, I vowed that when I grew up, I would work hard so that my family could live in a big house.
The result is indeed the same. When I was in my 40s, I saved some money, built a house in my hometown, and bought a mobility scooter. Although I am still far behind the rich people in the city, I feel that I am really good at it. I have made great progress from being impoverished to living a well-off life now.
I worked hard when I was young. I wanted to enjoy life with my wife in my later years, but my wife passed away due to illness a few years ago. My two children also started their own families and moved to the city. The self-built house is very large, and it seems deserted when I live alone.
When I was young, I led several people from the village to do decoration in the city, which is also commonly known as a contractor. I did save some money during that time, but then I got older and the work was difficult. This decoration team was The partnership broke up, but fortunately I saved some money and paid my own social security, so I can get about 2,000 a month. Moreover, I have a car and a house, so I can live a good life.
I have nothing to do at home, so I plant some rapeseed, corn, etc. at the door. I also raise dozens of chickens. I can stir-fry the eggs that the chickens usually lay. During the holidays, there are many People want to buy my free-range chickens, and I can earn some pocket money. I sell some of these chickens and keep some so that my children can make soup for them when they come back. Usually I am reluctant to eat them myself.
When my wife just left, many people advised me to find a wife as soon as possible while I can still walk. Otherwise, it will be difficult to find a wife when I get older. I did have this idea at the time. , because it is really deserted to live in such a big house alone, and it is not safe for me to be alone at home. If I fall at home, there is no one to help me. If I can find someone who is willing to live with me, we can help each other. Support me and accompany me through my old age, that would be the best.
I thought at that time that if I was looking for a wife, I would want to find someone who is honest and simple, so that he can be with me till the end of his life, and because I am a big boss, I usually cook and do laundry. If you are not good at it, it would be great if you can find a woman who is good at housework.
I met Xiaochen after being introduced by a relative. She was five years younger than me. When I met her, she was still working as a nanny for old men and women. She earned 4,000 yuan a month. As soon as I heard about it, she was I think Xiaochen is the person I'm looking for. She can do housework, and nannies generally have good tempers. She won't lose her temper when faced with difficulties faced by her employer. Such a woman can definitely endure hardships.
Xiaochen is also a poor person. A few years ago, her husband dumped Xiaochen because he had a relationship with someone else. Their only son is still far away in Shanghai, and returning home once a year has become a luxury.I felt very sorry for her at the time. It was already difficult for me, a grown man, to live alone. It’s hard to imagine how Xiaochen survived these past few years. Because of this mutual sympathy, I usually care more about her. , I often send text messages to greet her, and when she takes a rest, I go to the city to hang out with her. As we go back and forth, our relationship heats up.
I have a relative who works at sea. When he came back, he brought me some sea fish. It was too much and I couldn’t finish it, so I called Xiaochen to ask Xiaochen to come to my house as a guest. The sea fish at home was really delicious. Too much and it will go bad if no one eats it.
This was the first time Xiaochen came to my house. I tried my best to show off myself in front of Xiaochen. Not only did I go to the vegetable market to buy fruits and vegetables, but I also killed a chicken at home. Although I didn’t I'm not very good at cooking, but I still try my best. I hope I can cook something delicious and leave a good impression on Xiaochen.
Xiaochen looked at my clumsiness, smiled and drove me out of the kitchen, and then hurriedly finished the meal. I was really embarrassed, so I helped her by picking vegetables and washing dishes. What. Xiaochen is worthy of being a nanny, her hands and feet are nimble, the food is ready in a short time, and the aroma is fragrant, which brings out all the greedy things in me. In order to set off the atmosphere, I also opened a bottle of red wine, hoping to have a good time with Xiaochen. Have some morning romance.
After three rounds of drinking, we were all a little drunk. I took advantage of the drunkenness to say to Xiaochen: "We are all in our 60s. Have you ever thought about how you will live in your later years? For example, find a wife or something." "
Xiaochen was quite shy at the time. She lowered her head and said that she was used to living alone now, but if she met the right person, she could consider it.
I thought there was something interesting at that time, so I confessed my feelings while drunk: "Xiaochen, you will be 60 years old soon. Being a nanny is really hard. Why don't you resign and move in with me? You will be responsible for housework and the money will be paid." You don’t have to worry about things, I have savings, which can guarantee our daily life; of course, it doesn’t matter if you don’t want to live with me. Anyway, we are in the same urban area, and it is convenient to visit us at ordinary times. We will accompany each other, and we will not just fall in love. "What do you think of this way of getting married?"
Xiaochen agreed at that time. Maybe we both knew each other tacitly and had a crush on each other, but at first Xiaochen did not move in with me, but continued to work as a nanny. Xiaochen would come over to my house occasionally, cook a big table of delicious food for me, and help me with housework. I was very grateful to her at the time and wanted to give her a red envelope, but Xiaochen didn’t want it, so I Just give Xiaochen some local eggs, or just give it to a chicken. Xiaochen can't refuse, so he can only accept it.
Because Xiaochen was still working, we didn’t see each other often, but we kept communicating on the phone, almost every day. During that time, I felt very fresh, just like falling in love when I was young, and my heart was pounding. I was jumping up and down, looking forward to the call from the other party, and then I was blushing and talking about daily things that happened with my heartbeat. I never expected that at my age, I could still fall in love like a young person. It is really incredible.
Xiaochen called me once. Although she didn’t say anything, I noticed that she was unhappy, so I drove to Xiaochen’s house overnight and took Xiaochen to the beach to watch the sunrise and watch the sun rise slowly. After waking up, Xiaochen's mood improved, and this has become our most precious memory. The sunrise that day was beautiful. The morning sun shone on Xiaochen, and the scene was peaceful and beautiful.
After this incident, Xiaochen's feelings for me became deeper. He came to my house more frequently and my home was no longer deserted. Because of Xiaochen's arrival, my life became colorful and I no longer felt lonely. .
Later, Xiaochen quit her job as a nanny, not because of me, but because she was young and older and wanted to stop and enjoy life. Originally, she was a nanny just because she thought it was idle and to pass the time, but With me, her life has been enriched, so there is no need to go into the nanny industry.
Later, Xiaochen moved into my house. We usually buy groceries together, cook together, have a lively meal, and even make appointments to travel together. Our relationship is getting better and better.
Before Xiaochen, I always ordered takeout or went out to restaurants. The food I ate was not nutritious and made me gain weight easily. But after having Xiaochen, I can eat healthily and I won’t gain weight. , I should all thank Xiaochen for all of this. If it weren’t for her, my old age would not have been so enjoyable.
Maybe my relationship with Xiaochen cannot be recognized by everyone. After all, we are not a legal couple, but Xiaochen and I are quite satisfied with this kind of life. We have not harmed the interests of others, and we have not done anything against morality. , as long as Xiaochen and I live comfortably, what's wrong with this?
In order not to be overwhelmed by gossip, Xiaochen and I agreed. If others ask, we will say that we have received a marriage certificate, because we don’t want to explain too much, so we can stop their mouths by saying so. If we say that we have not received a certificate, They will ask more and more questions, and in the end they just can’t explain clearly.
We have also said hello to each other's children. Although we live together, we do not plan to obtain a certificate. Our life is very good now. There is no need to change. Our children are also very supportive. They said that as long as we live Be happy and they won't disturb our happiness.
In fact, after Xiaochen and I got together, each other's children felt more at ease. We had someone by our side, and our own safety was at least guaranteed. Moreover, not having to obtain a certificate also reduced the problem of property disputes, so that our relationship could be purer. I think Life now is worry-free and comfortable, and there is no need to cause trouble to yourself by getting a certificate.
Do you think it is reliable to live together without a license? Welcome to leave a message to express your views.
