It is said that if you have money, don't marry a second-married daughter, and if you don't have money, don't be a door-to-door son-in-law. Generally speaking, a man who is willing to be a door-to-door son-in-law must either have a poor financial situation at home.
Either he loves the other person very much, that's why he chose to be a door-to-door son-in-law. In real life, whether it is now or in the past, in the eyes of some people, the status of a door-to-door son-in-law is lower than that of ordinary people.
Some people even look down on the son-in-law who comes to their home, and the son-in-law who comes to their home is indeed a doormat at home. Many son-in-laws who come to their home are not welcomed by their father-in-law and mother-in-law.
Not only that, sometimes his wife doesn't understand him. The couple often quarrels over trivial matters in life. Because he is living under someone else's roof, the son-in-law has to endure his dissatisfaction.
But as time goes by, the son-in-law who comes to visit when he can't bear it anymore will be completely irritated, and then all the dissatisfaction in his heart will burst out.
Under such circumstances, the relationship between the couple will break down instantly, and no one knows whether they can continue to live together.
In fact, no matter whether the man is the son-in-law or not, the couple should respect and understand each other. Only in this way can the marriage be happy.
Event review: A year ago, Zhang Yonglan’s (pseudonym) husband passed away in an accident, leaving her young daughter Jiajia (pseudonym) to depend on her.
The villagers, relatives and friends saw that Zhang Yonglan was struggling to survive as a woman with her child. In addition, Zhang Yonglan was only thirty-three years old at this time, so everyone persuaded Zhang Yonglan to find another partner and give her child a complete home.
After much thought, Zhang Yonglan felt that what everyone said was reasonable, so she met her current husband Li Hongfu (pseudonym) through the introduction of the villagers.
Li Hongfu didn't mind Zhang Yonglan's past, let alone that she would take her daughter to live with them in the future. He even offered to be his son-in-law.
Zhang Yonglan was very moved by Li Hongfu's approach, so they got married not long after they met. In this way, Zhang Yonglan and Li Hongfu lived in peace for more than a year.
Not long ago, Zhang Yonglan, who was furious because of a trivial matter, kicked Li Hongfu out of the house in anger and filed for divorce from him, which made Li Hongfu completely dumbfounded.
Because Li Hongfu never thought about divorce from beginning to end, he had no choice but to find a mediator, hoping that the mediator could help mediate between him and Zhang Yonglan, because he did not want a divorce.
When the mediator approached Zhang Yonglan for communication, Zhang Yonglan told the mediator that she really couldn't stand her husband's various eccentricities, so she had no choice but to file for divorce.
According to Zhang Yonglan, Li Hongfu had to torment her every night after getting married before letting her sleep. If she disobeyed, Li Hongfu would deliberately touch her here and there to prevent her from sleeping.
Because she had to work during the day and take care of her children and do housework after get off work, she just wanted to have a good rest at night after a busy day, but Li Hongfu was unwilling to let her rest.
What made her accept the most was that she was already very fat, but she still couldn't rest well after being tortured by Li Hongfu at night.
Every night, Li Hongfu always likes to sleep with half of his body resting on Zhang Yonglan's body, which makes Zhang Yonglan have difficulty breathing.
Zhang Yonglan had several good conversations with Li Hongfu afterwards, but Li Hongfu never took Zhang Yonglan's words seriously, which made Zhang Yonglan very angry.
Zhang Yonglan then told the mediator that not only that, Li Hongfu was also a very soft-spoken person. He often listened to other people's rumors and suspected that she was unfaithful to him.
Then when she got home, she would punch and kick herself. No matter how she explained, Li Hongfu just didn't believe her.
At this moment, Zhang Yonglan’s mother told the mediator that her daughter had never been in love until she was twenty years old, and that her daughter was not as casual as Li Hongfu said.
Zhang Yonglan also said that after marriage, Li Hongfu wanted to tie her to his waistband so that he could pay attention to her every move at all times.
Once she was discovered by Li Hongfu because she was talking to a male villager in the same village. Li Hongfu thought that Zhang Yonglan had betrayed him and beat Zhang Yonglan again when he returned home.
Not only that, Li Hongfu ignored the wind and went around talking about Zhang Yonglan, saying that she was worthless. Zhang Yonglan said that she had never done anything extraordinary in her whole life.
However, Li Hongfu said that she had a nose and an eye, which made the villagers point at her behind her back and talk about it, which made her feel angry and depressed.
Zhang Yonglan said that because they had different views and different ways of dealing with the world after marriage, they often quarreled over trivial matters in life.
Because of the increasing number of quarrels, the relationship between the couple has become weaker and weaker. Not long ago, Li Hongfu and Zhang Yonglan had a quarrel over a trivial matter.
In anger, Zhang Yonglan kicked Li Hongfu out and filed for divorce. After hearing this, Li Hongfu became more and more angry. He felt that his life in the Zhang family was very depressed, so he turned around and left the Zhang family without looking back.
But Li Hongfu regretted it just a few days after leaving the Zhang family, so he went back to the Zhang family and knelt down to admit his mistake to his father-in-law and mother-in-law. However, no matter how much he apologized, Zhang Yonglan's family refused to forgive him. Li Hongfu was very anxious.
So he found a mediator, hoping that the mediator could help mediate between him and Zhang Yonglan. After understanding what happened, the mediator persuaded Zhang Yonglan to give Li Hongfu another chance. After all, it was not easy for the two to get together.
While the mediator kept persuading Zhang Yonglan, Li Hongfu said that he had something to say. Li Hongfu then told the mediator that he and Zhang Yonglan had been married for more than a year, but Zhang Yonglan did not take care of her family very much.
He works hard outside every day, but Zhang Yonglan plays cards outside every day. He has no food to eat when he returns home from work. When he is hungry, he either cooks by himself or goes to a relative's house to eat.
What made him very angry was that one day a few months ago, his father came to see him at home for something. Zhang Yonglan knew that his father was coming, but he was unwilling to come back and cook for his father.
This made him very angry, so after his father returned, he quarreled with Zhang Yonglan. Later, because he lost control of his emotions, he beat Zhang Yonglan.
After hearing this, the mediator felt that both Zhang Yonglan and Li Hongfu were at fault, so he tried hard to persuade them to give each other a chance to correct their mistakes, but Zhang Yonglan refused to give Li Hongfu a chance to correct his mistakes.
After the neighbors learned about their affairs, they all rushed over to persuade them. The neighbors persuaded Zhang Yonglan that she was already in her thirties and it would be very difficult for a woman to live with her children if she got divorced again.
Although Li Hongfu was suspected of being seriously ill, he sincerely treated Zhang Yonglan and his daughter. Since they both made mistakes, they should correct them together.
Only in this way can the marriage live happily. Otherwise, no matter who they live with in the future, if they do not deal with the problems between husband and wife, their married life will be a mess with whomever they live with.
The mediator also persuaded Zhang Yonglan that Li Hongfu looked so closely at her, which was actually a sign of his love for her. It was just that Li Hongfu's method was wrong.
The mediator also said that since they are married, they should trust and respect each other, and Zhang Yonglan should not abandon his family for his bad hobbies.
As for Li Hongfu, he should not just listen to the wind and beat his wife. What he did was good, and he should apologize to his wife.
Under the persuasion of the mediator, Li Hongfu decided to write a letter of guarantee to Zhang Yonglan and his father-in-law and mother-in-law. However, because he was illiterate, the policeman from the police station who accompanied the mediator to the mediation finally wrote the letter of guarantee on his behalf.
Li Hongfu promised to treat his father-in-law and mother-in-law well from now on, and at the same time, he would also raise Zhang Yonglan's daughter from his ex-husband as his own daughter.
At the same time, Li Hongfu also promised that he would trust Zhang Yonglan in the future and would no longer doubt her, let alone beat Zhang Yonglan for some trivial matters in life.
After listening to the words of the mediator and the neighbors, and after Li Hongfu wrote the letter of guarantee, Zhang Yonglan was relieved. Both she and Li Hongfu realized their problems, and finally they were willing to give each other a chance, and the family of three returned home holding hands. Got home.
Conclusion: To be honest, both Li Hongfu and Zhang Yonglan were at fault. Zhang Yonglan should not abandon his family just because he went out to play cards.
When her husband goes out to work to earn money to support the family, Zhang Yonglan, as his wife, should keep the house in order, so that at least her husband can have hot meals and dishes to eat when he comes back from work.
Furthermore, her father-in-law is here. As a daughter-in-law, she should come back to cook and greet her father-in-law. After all, it is not easy for her father-in-law to come all the way.
No matter what conflicts she has with Li Hongfu, they should put them aside first. After all, the conflict between the couple is not caused by her husband's family.
But then again, Li Hongfu also has a lot of problems himself. He doesn't know how to deal with the wind. What kind of person is his wife? She has been sleeping with him for more than a year. How can he still... Do not you know?
Not everyone is telling the truth. It cannot be ruled out that some people are trying to sow discord because they don’t want others to live better than themselves. This is clearly stated.
There is also Li Hongfu’s domestic violence behavior and Zhang Yonglan’s disrespectful and distrustful behavior. If there is not even the most basic respect and trust between husband and wife, how can such a marriage be happy?
Only when husband and wife are of the same mind, respect and trust each other, understand each other and know how to be considerate of each other, can such a marriage last long.
Finally, love is not just something you talk about with your words, it must be proven with actual actions.
At the same time, no matter what friction occurs between the couple, whether it is the wife or the husband, they must not hit anyone. Sometimes some couples break up after hitting each other.
article/Huang Xiaoguai
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