The world you see is a reflection of your heart. Our hearts actually view the world in this way. If the world looks like this, it does not necessarily mean that it must be exactly like this.

The world you see is a projection of your heart

Our hearts actually view the world in this way.

If the world looks like this, it does not necessarily mean that it must be exactly like this.

Our minds process the world through projection, so that the world looks familiar to us.

Your children are your subconscious

Chinese parents all hope that their children will become successful and their daughters will become phoenixes. This means that they regard their children as their own substitutes and project a mask of themselves that is insufficient (i.e. repressed or semi-repressed) onto their children, so that they can Children complete their unfinished mission.

Some parents do this consciously, while some do it unconsciously.

There are also some parents who find that their children do not meet their expectations at all, so they are very disappointed with their children and try their best to reform them. If they cannot reform themselves, they turn to a psychologist for help.

The more fearful you are, the more you demand from your children

If you are a fearful parent, you may have a problematic child.

The greater your fear, the more problems you see in children.

Fear leads to control.

The more fearful you are, the more likely you are to hold on to something to make yourself feel safe.

The controller is the mind, and children usually have free hearts. They flow like water and are difficult to control.

This makes the more you want to grasp, control, and control, the less you can grasp, control, and control.

The more fears you have, the more demands you make on your children, and therefore the more problems you see in your children.

The child is a child with problems, is that true?

Without your fear, without your suppression or judgment, he is a difficult child to educate. Is this true? Ask yourself.
When you are a completely fearless parent, your children can grow up naturally.

The frequently projected parts of life often reflect the most painful parts of the heart.

People are originally a whole, but in order to adapt to the environment, they develop a part Psychological activities suppress other parts of psychological activities, resulting in becoming "half a person".

When looking for a spouse, people will be attracted to people who have psychological activities that they lack (actually, they are not lacking, but are suppressed). When two people like

come together, they seem to become a whole.

Therefore, some couples are relatively harmonious at first, but after being together for a long time, they will also diverge - everyone's inner psychological activities will continue to develop.

People are not conflicting with their spouses, but with their own subconscious.

Psychology believes:

You hate that person for no reason because you have the same characteristics as her.

Subconsciously, you think that trait is "bad".

The thought of admitting that one is "bad" is too painful, so one is suppressed by oneself and resorts to "projecting" the "badness" onto others (doubting others or imposing on others) to relieve this anxiety.

Through such operations, people throw away the parts they hate, maintain the self-feeling of "I am good enough", and gain a sense of superiority in their hearts by criticizing others.

This cognitive tendency to impose one's own feelings, will and characteristics on others is the projection effect.

To a certain extent, it is indeed what we project into the world that will determine what the world looks like.

But this does not mean that all the discomfort others feel from us comes from the projection of others.

This is probably the content of our own personality that is not healthy enough. It is a part that needs to be gradually able to acknowledge and correct in the process of growth.

From a psychological perspective, why do people attract each other?

First, our mental development is at the same level.

Second, we often experience very similar or very matching traumas, and those traumas make us "love at first sight."

People often say, what kind of partner do I want to find, but often you will find that the person you are looking for in the end or the person you are particularly attracted to is not those conditions you listed.

Because the attraction between people does not rely on your reason, but more often the attraction of inner trauma, that is, the two of us have experienced similar traumas, and it was those traumas that made us fall in love at first sight:

"I feel that he understands me very well, and he There is something special that attracts me. It cannot be described. There is no way to put it into words. Even though it is completely different from what I imagined, it is very attractive to me. "

For example, a child witnessed his father beating his mother. When a girl grows up and marries a man, her husband also beats her.

One possibility is that every time a quarrel with her husband is about to get out of control, she will "add fuel to the fire" and say, "Hit me! Hit me!"

If her husband still doesn't take action, she She would say: "If you don't hit me, you are not a man!"

Finally, her husband hit him.

Then, she discovered that she seemed to have seen this scene before.

Your relationship with everyone reflects your relationship with yourself.

If you are constantly in conflict with yourself, then you will be in constant conflict with others; if you are in constant emotional struggle with yourself, then you will be in constant emotional struggle with others.

The problems we encounter in relationships are problems within us.

Whether you like or dislike a person has nothing to do with who he is or what he has done, but rather what your subconscious presuppositions are about that person.
When you subconsciously decide that someone is a good or bad person, no matter what he does, your subconscious mind will interpret it as the answer you want to support this person's point of view.

This is why people who hate it become more disgusted the more they watch it, and people who like it become more fond of it the more they watch it.

It can be said that our perceptions of all people, things, and things in the external world are the projection of the truest state of mind in our subconscious. So in turn, of course we can also use these projected information to do something that everyone should do in their lifetime, and the sooner they do it, the better - that is to explore their own subconscious .

What you see in others is a projection and embodiment of what you think you are, but it may not be the real you.

For example, if you think others like to deceive, it is because you deceive yourself and then project it onto others.

If a person only sees evil and loneliness, it is because he is troubled by evil and loneliness inside and projects them outward.

Have you ever felt this way in your life?

When you are determined on a goal, it seems that the whole world is making way for you, and you work hard without any resistance and move forward indomitably;

On the contrary, when you are full of hesitation about something, various interference factors will always appear for no reason. To disrupt your rhythm and hinder your progress.

Psychoanalytic theory believes that all our relationships with the world are actually projections.

What you have in your heart, you will see in the outside world.

The appearance of your soul is the state of your life.

Our destiny is driven and drawn by our inner complexes.

If all kinds of shadows are still shaking deep in our hearts, then we will encounter all kinds of troubles and get entangled with them in real life.

Those trapped beasts that have been suppressed by us for many years and locked in cages by us will cause serious harm to people once they escape.

Jung said: "Your subconscious mind guides your life, and you call it destiny."

To put it bluntly, destiny is a kind of subconscious mind.

And those results that we attribute to external forces are actually the results of our own inner subconscious drives.

Your understanding of the world is the manifestation of your soul, and all your actions are also the manifestation of your soul, and all of this determines what kind of destiny you will have.

Sometimes I can’t help but wonder, is there such a thing as a magnetic field between people?

Although it is invisible and intangible, it will continue to convey your views and preferences to the outside world.

People with the same magnetic field and consistent three views will automatically move closer.

On the other hand, even if we have known each other for decades, we still cannot get along with each other.

It is precisely because of this that birds of a feather flock together, and people are divided into groups. It is also the phenomenon that when you look at a person, you will see what kind of people his friends are.

Maybe you also have this experience. The most difficult thing in life is the maintenance of interpersonal relationships.

It is said that there is no speculation. When you are with people with different magnetic fields, you are bound to end up unhappy because it is difficult to hold the same views and communication takes too much energy.

Everyone in society is your shadow. When you can get along well with yourself, how can you not be able to get along with others? When we experience such an experience, we will feel relaxed and comfortable.

The people and things you encounter every day are the current frequency of your life.

About the author: Teacher Xianhong

psychological counselor, tarot card diviner , planetary energy singing bowl healer, freelance coder, and trainer.

Listening to people's warmth and warmth in a humble room, and being affectionate and comfortable are all fate.

The world of mortals comes and goes without a trace, cooking words heals people's hearts.

I met you, and then I met myself. Destiny is like a knife. Let me and you learn together. ——Practical Psychology