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After several years of marriage, the relationship between the couple has calmed down. Some people are busy working around the trivial matters of life, and some people want to find some fun to satisfy themselves when they are busy.
In fact, who doesn’t want to regain the romance of the past when we struggle with trivial matters every day?
But life is not only about love, but also about responsibility.
Extramarital relationships are just temporary happiness. Sometimes, they can bring more pain, turn into the ignition of hatred, and ultimately make both the couple suffer losses.
Feng Chao (pseudonym) knew that his wife was in love, but he deliberately said nothing.
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Feng Chao When found out something was wrong with his wife more than ten years ago, his eyes went dark and he almost fainted.
That year, my son was in the third grade of a provincial key high school, and was about to take the college entrance examination. In order to take care of his son, the couple came from their hometown and rented a house near the school, and then they worked in this strange city.
things happened in this rental house .
That day was the first weekend when my son’s school was closed to prepare for exams. The school gate was crowded with parents who wanted to pick up their children and take them home to rest.
Feng Chao and his wife were no exception. After their son came out, his son said it was too hot and wanted some cold drinks.
Feng Chao thought about going home quickly to boil water for his son's bath, because the couple also rushed over just after get off work, and they didn't even cook dinner at home.
Feng Chao said: "I will go back and boil the bath water. You can have a cold drink and then go home and take a shower quickly. I will prepare the meal."
So Feng Chao rushed home smelly and sweaty. As soon as he entered the door, he found his wife's The cell phone was on the table without me.
In those days, everyone had not yet used smartphones, so not bringing a mobile phone was not a big deal. Feng Chao ignored it, but just as he was about to turn around, he saw his phone vibrating, the screen lighting up, and a text message came.
Feng Chao subconsciously picked it up and took a look at it. It was a series of unsaved numbers and said: "I miss you. Do you miss me?"
At that time, Feng Chao couldn't stand, his eyes went dark, and he helped him He slowly sat down on the ground, leaning against the wall.
He did not expect that just at the juncture of his son's college entrance examination, the couple worked hard to work in the city. When they should have shared joys and sorrows, his wife had an extramarital relationship.
Feng Chao felt that his son must not know about this, so he deleted the text message.
After all, it is not a strange thing that the SMS signal was not received due to signal failure.
Sure enough, when Feng Chao did this, his wife didn't notice and still kept in touch with that person quietly.
Feng Chao often pretends to be asleep, and then finds his wife secretly texting others. Sometimes my wife said that she worked overtime and didn't come home until 2 a.m. When I asked her, she said there were no buses after 12 o'clock and said she walked back.
Feng Chao endured three months for his son's college entrance examination. During this period, he endured the pain and lived in this rental house with his wife.
His son was admitted to a good university, and Feng Chao decided to work in the city where his son's university was located.
He asked his wife: "Are you coming with us?"
The wife hesitated for a moment and said, "The work I do here is quite easy. The store manager is also nice and he is not very tired. I won't wait until you stabilize. "Should I go there again?"
Feng Chao understood and did not force his wife to go with him. He did not want to see his wife, so he left with his son.
htmlTwenty-one years later, his wife came to the place where Feng Chao and his son lived. Feng Chao discovered that his wife seemed to have broken off with that person. But not long after, my wife made the same mistakes again in this new city.
Feng Chao no longer had the pain and anger last time. His heart had long since turned cold. He just wanted to confess his son quietly.
So Feng Chao continued to pretend that he knew nothing. He played games at home after work and pretended to be addicted to online games. As expected, his wife did not find anything fishy and thought he had concealed it well.
After Feng Chao saved enough money and his son graduated from college, both father and son decided to develop in this city.
So his son found a job, and Feng Chao used his savings to buy a house here.
The wife was complacent and thought they could enjoy happiness together. She didn’t know that her husband had known about her affairs a long time ago. Feng Chao directly took his mother home, and then asked his wife to provide for her mother-in-law in her old age.
The wife was stunned, but she needed to stay in this city because she was reluctant to break up with her extramarital partner.
So the wife has no choice but to work as a nanny for her mother-in-law at home, and also has to bear the housework of the whole family.
In addition to continuing to work every day, Feng Chao plays games at home and spends time with his mother, and his life is quite comfortable. He found that as long as he didn't care about his wife, her things would not hurt him.
In Feng Chao's eyes, his wife is no longer his wife, she is just a housekeeping aunt.
The wife gradually felt that she had no status in the family. Her husband was indifferent to her and became more and more indifferent. His attitude could be said to be extremely cold, and he would act as if he could not see her when he walked towards her.
The wife used to focus on her extramarital partner and didn’t care about her husband’s attitude at all.
But it has been 35 years, and the extramarital partner has not yet divorced, and has no intention of marrying her, so the wife is anxious.
The wife broke up with her extramarital partner and wanted to return to the family. Only then did she realize that her husband was as cold as ice.
She wanted to take the initiative to show her kindness to her husband, and said to her husband: "We are an old married couple, why don't we buy a double bed?"
Her husband glanced at her, sneered, and continued playing games without saying anything.
The wife was panicked now and didn't know what to do. She wanted to get close to her son, but his son was busy with work and didn't live with them. He also had a girlfriend and had little time to pay attention to her.
At this time, this woman who had been having an extramarital relationship for many years realized that she no longer had a home.
But she had no choice but to continue to be a nanny in this home, otherwise she would not even have a foothold. In this home, at least she still had room to live in and food to eat. If she went out, she would not know where to go. where.
03
Having extramarital relationships is a very unwise approach, especially those who do not plan to divorce, but just want to have extramarital relationships for fun.
They always feel that as long as they hide it well, they can never be discovered.
but there is no airtight wall in this world , Extramarital relationships are very risky, and the probability of being discovered is also very high. This is undoubtedly making fun of the rest of your life.
1: It is difficult for extramarital relationships to have good results, and they hurt people and money.
People who pursue extramarital relationships are all looking for the "feeling". They can't stand the dull life after marriage, and feel that without love, they will be miserable. Very boring. People like
have poor patience. They cannot persist in doing a certain thing or a certain job for a long time, and they cannot take care of their children for a long time.
It is precisely because of such character flaws that they will continue to pursue excitement.
Some people even pursue multiple partners outside of marriage, and there is almost no window for love.
But most of this kind of people will not have any good results. After all, it is really difficult to completely conceal an extramarital relationship. The spouse can always detect that something is wrong from clues.
Some people will choose to start a fight and embarrass each other, and some will choose to divorce and take away all their property.
Whether it is hurting the hearts of your spouse and children, or "losing money and avoiding disaster" and leaving the house by yourself, it is not a good outcome.
And usually people who fall to this point are unlikely to be taken in by their extramarital partners. After all, has no use value, will bring trouble to the other party, and becomes a burden.
Therefore, many people choose to hide their property privately before divorce, just to renew their relationship with their extramarital partner.
2: If you discover that your spouse has an extramarital relationship, give priority to protecting the interests of your children
When the original wife or husband discovers that their significant other has an extramarital relationship, they must restrain their inner sadness and do not show it in front of their significant other. Let your partner know you have discovered the truth too early.
Because at this time, you need to consider your children and your own future. If you fall out early and divide the property during divorce, a lot of money will be taken away by the cheater, which is very worthless.
You can consider transferring the joint property of spouses to the children as much as possible without the other half noticing.
Or make a will and leave money, house, and car to your children.
When you get divorced like this, at least the children will have a house, a car and assets, and the money will not be used by the cheater to enjoy the extramarital partner and become their consumption funds.
And as long as the children are old enough, they can distinguish right from wrong and will not follow the cheater just because he has money.
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