Article|Nine points of depth, write articles carefully, originality is not easy, and infringement will be investigated. 01 Introduction Falling in college is what we all longed for when we were young.

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01 Introduction

College love is what we all yearned for when we were young.

Growing up, whether it was parents, elders or teachers and friends, they all told us that after going to college, we can do whatever we want. Although college life is wonderful, we will also face many challenges as adults. Many things, especially love in college, may no longer be as simple and pure as we imagine.

Anyone who is sensible knows one thing. Falling in love can be a matter between a young man and a woman, but many times, if you want to get married, it is a matter involving the families of both men and women. This Sometimes, no matter how deep your relationship is, you have to go back and consider practical issues.

02 A Guangxi woman went to her boyfriend’s house for the first time. Two or three dishes were very sad.

This is a consultation submission from a female friend in Guangxi. During the consultation process, she briefly described to me some of the life and emotional problems she encountered. The problem, in general, is that when this girl and her college boyfriend were approaching the final step of their relationship, they felt the obstacles of their family. She believed that the boyfriend’s parents didn’t like her very much and didn’t know how to respect themselves. The reason was that the first thing during the summer vacation was The first time I went to my boyfriend’s house, the dining table was deserted.

is a little girl from Liuzhou, Guangxi. considers herself to be a cheerful and lively girl, because and her boyfriend are in the same local university in Guangxi and have been together for three years. Next year, she will consider the issue of finding a job after graduation. In order for the two of them to continue their relationship, they took advantage of the summer vacation to go to their homes to meet their elders. After all, it is best to get the blessings of their parents for many things.

This is the first time for the little girl to visit her boyfriend's house. Her boyfriend is from Guiping . . The feeling she got when she went to his house for the first time was that her boyfriend's parents didn't take her very seriously, including the way her parents treated her when she went to his house. Attitude, as well as many details during the chat, the most obvious one is that I didn't feel a trace of enthusiasm at my boyfriend's house. Even for an ordinary guest, there shouldn't be only two or three dishes on the table., after all This is where the whole family sits together.

Why do you think so? The little girl said that she has an older sister. Although her boyfriend's parents don't speak Mandarin, she can really feel the warmth or not. Just like every time her brother-in-law goes to her house, even though her grandma doesn't She doesn’t speak Mandarin, but her grandma’s enthusiasm for her brother-in-law is something everyone sees..

This girl thought that when she went to her boyfriend's house for the first time, even if her boyfriend's parents didn't like her, she should hide it a little. After all, she was still a guest, but she didn't have the feeling of being at her boyfriend's house from beginning to end. That is, I am like an ordinary classmate brought home by her boyfriend, maybe a relatively unfamiliar classmate, and even the family uses vernacular when chatting, which makes the little girl feel more and more like an unimportant outsider, and then in her heart Thinking, should not be in the room, but should be on the roof .

On the first night when she went to her boyfriend's house, the little girl felt very uncomfortable and wanted to go home by herself. However, if she left like this, she was worried that her boyfriend would be embarrassed, so she could only endure it by herself.

The next day I went to 's boyfriend's relatives' house. Different from my boyfriend's parents, the relatives' attitude towards the little girl was particularly cordial and friendly. This gave the little girl a big illusion, as if she had entered the wrong house yesterday. This should be my boyfriend's house.

But obviously not. My boyfriend’s relatives are very kind. It can be seen from the chats and some details that they like me. Even the seven or eight dishes on the table are very similar to the attitude of my boyfriend’s parents towards me. There is no difference between and this is how a normal family treats guests.

The next night, at her boyfriend’s house, the little girl took the initiative to say a few words to her boyfriend’s father. (The woman did not take the initiative to speak, and the boyfriend’s father did not intend to pay attention to her). It was only then that the boyfriend’s father asked the woman’s name. What's your name and where do you live? In short, when she went to her boyfriend's house for the first time, the little girl felt that her boyfriend's parents just didn't approve of her and didn't like her appearance in every aspect.

03Nine Points Talk

The little girl was also a little unsure, and even imagined that this was the custom in Guiping. After all, she and her boyfriend had been in a relationship for so many years, and she still wanted his parents' blessing.

At this point, the little girl especially wants to ask, I went to her boyfriend's house for the first time. Is the attitude of his parents normal? I would like to ask if there are any friends in Guiping, whether this is the custom there?

Of course, it is not ruled out that there may be some strange customs and cultures in some places. After all, we have a vast land and abundant resources, and there are still many cultural differences in various regions. But if you simply look at the situation described by the little girl, then you can’t help but sweat for the little girl. After all, the little girl’s feelings are real, and the attitude of her boyfriend’s family towards her is obviously not normal. of.

You must know that even if a stranger comes to your home, under normal circumstances you should take the initiative to chat and learn the details, such as what your name is, where you live, etc., let alone the girl your son brought home? But any elder who has some psychological problems should be able to see the woman's identity and feel that his son likes the woman. Wouldn't such an attitude only embarrass everyone?

The most important thing is, in my opinion, the attitude of a woman’s parents is a problem. Is the attitude of her boyfriend appropriate? As a boyfriend, when you bring your girlfriend home for the first time, should you give the family instructions in advance? If this situation still occurs after informing you, shouldn't you consider your girlfriend's face a little bit and try to smooth things over? At least on the surface, such a boyfriend is not qualified, but on the other hand, this little girl is always taking care of her boyfriend's face, resisting the urge to go home, and is so sensible that it makes people pity her.

If it were you, going to your boyfriend's house for the first time and encountering such a situation, what would you do? If you were a boy and you took your girlfriend to your home and encountered this situation, what would you do?

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