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The former hope to get rewards through their efforts. Most of them appear to be more sensible and gain the attention of the other party through caring and caring for the man.
Energy cannot deceive people, because people's hearts are connected, and he will inadvertently feel the energy of lack, the energy of asking.
A man will protect and cherish a weak woman, but he doesn't like to be close to a woman who asks for something from him, even if it's just a spiritual request.
When you are weak and helpless, you don’t want to get anything from others. You just live tenaciously on your own. On the contrary, it is easy to attract a responsible man who wants to take care of you.
When you take responsibility for yourself, there will be someone who wants to be responsible for you. This is the law of the universe . How you treat yourself will be treated by others.
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People who lack love are easily indifferent and selfish. In fact, such people are also very pitiful.
I once had a female student. She told me that her native family was not good and that boys were valued over girls. She had a younger brother who was very favored, but her parents had always been indifferent to her.
She has never had a partner. She knows that she is selfish and not willing to help others, but because she has not even lived well herself, she has no ability to give.
I felt at that time that I quite understood her. She had no love in her heart, so what could she give to her?
I have a friend, Xiaoyan, who works two jobs every day. In addition to trying to support her family, she also does all the housework. She also has congenital heart disease, but she works hard for her husband and hopes to maintain this relationship. marriage.
But her husband was very disgusted with her. If he hadn't found a new home, he would have divorced her long ago.
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She has paid so much, why can’t she get the respect of the other party? Due to a congenital disease, she was not welcomed at home since childhood.
But my younger sister was doted on by her parents. She resented her younger sister from childhood to adulthood. She was filled with resentment, fear, jealousy, insecurity, and emotional instability.
No matter how much effort she puts in, people who live with her can feel her mental state, and will also be affected by her, becoming fearful, restless, and full of resentment.
If you want others to treat you well, you must first know how to live a happy life. This is an eternal law. I have never been able to figure out why some people with high paraplegia can achieve wonderful love and marriage.
I once saw in the newspaper a writer who was a paraplegic. He was physically disabled but strong in spirit, and he wrote many excellent works.
Then there was a young, kind, beautiful and generous nurse who was willing to marry him and take care of him for the rest of his life. They had a harmonious relationship and were happy.
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In fact, it seems very reasonable now, because he has not given up on himself, he respects himself very much and knows what he wants?
knows where his talent lies, and he works hard to bring it out, which will naturally attract a beloved person to love him.
If you bloom, the breeze will come. The only way to get others to treat you well, to love and value yourself, is to treat yourself and others the same way.
In fact, love can be created by oneself. We cannot live forever in the state of our original family lacking love.
You can't change this established fact, but by respecting your own wishes, you can find your own talents, love your work, and accept your own misfortunes and shortcomings.
Put aside all the disappointments in the past and live hard, and the love in your heart will naturally rise bit by bit.
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Then give a certain amount of care and dedication to the people around you to the extent you can, if all you can do now is a greeting.
Just a greeting, love is regardless of the importance, but the premise is that you must not ask for anything in return, otherwise your contribution is a kind of request.
Every little bit you can give is good, and it accumulates slowly. When you can give love to yourself and others, love will flow to you, and there will definitely be a man who loves you by your side.
