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From the moment everyone is born, there is only one way home. Time passes little by little, time slowly disappears, and all that is left to us is aging and sadness.
It can be said that all life contains inevitable death. And all life and death are like the "spring, summer, autumn and winter" in nature, reincarnating and reincarnating in an orderly manner.
In fact, we are all very taboo about the issue of "life and death". We always feel that it is unlucky, harsh, and heartbreaking. But we forget one thing, life and death are things that will eventually happen.
Being able to grow old naturally is a good thing. But if you leave midway, there's nothing you can do about it. You must know that life and death are determined by fate, wealth and honor are in heaven, and nothing can be forced.
You and I are just ordinary people, and what we want is just two words - "a good death". Before going back, everyone's behavior was actually very similar.
As the saying goes, "You will know the end of the year when you see a fallen leaf, and you will know how cold the world is when you see the ice in a bottle."
All departures are just like the withering of autumn leaves, which is inevitable after all. Just like a bottle that gradually freezes, only cold and frost are left, and there is no more life.
Before parents go back, they may do these things, and children should pay attention to them.
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Before parents go back, they will probably dream about their "returned" relatives.
The older we get, the more we dream about our old friends and relatives. This is closely related to human psychology and thoughts.
From a psychological point of view, people become more nostalgic as they get older, and the less they remember the current things, but they are particularly interested in the past. As people get older, they no longer have great expectations for the future, and their perceptual psychology arises spontaneously.
From a personal perspective, elderly people have only one pursuit, and that is to meet their "old friends" and have a good reunion. This is the saying "old people have old feelings".
Once people’s psychology and thoughts tend to be “nostalgic”, they are destined to often dream about their “returned” relatives. This situation occurs frequently especially when people are bedridden.
Many people are particularly afraid of dreaming about their deceased relatives, thinking it is an ominous sign. Of course, this is just us scaring ourselves.
people always have to leave. Wouldn't it be a blessing if you could dream about old friends from the past?
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Before parents go back, they probably want to "return to their roots".
We can find that many old overseas Chinese, once they return to their hometown, do not go anywhere, but live directly in their hometown, just like when they were children. They miss their hometown more than they are young or middle-aged. time calculation.
When we are young, we will especially like our hometown because we know that it is the place where we were "born and raised". When we are young or middle-aged, we will find that we like to develop in developed places.
In his later years, when he reached the age of seventy or eighty, this mentality changed again. became like when he was young and wanted to return to his "hometown". This is what we often call "returning to nature".
people, why do they still miss their hometown when they grow old?
I think the biggest reason is that we all have a heart of "falling leaves return to their roots". What you thought when you were a child is what you think in your later years. It has a beginning and an end. This is what we often call "a good beginning and a good end".
Hometown is, after all, everyone’s expectation and also everyone’s final destination. Life is like autumn leaves, falling into mud and grinding into dust, but only the fragrance remains the same.
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Before their parents go back, they will most likely "reflect on the past".
There is such a folk word called "returning to the light". The general meaning is that all things that are about to become dim will have a moment of light at the last moment.
When the oil lamp burns to the end, a dazzling light will appear in an instant; when the spring is stretched to the extreme, its toughness exceeds ordinary people's imagination; when the fireworks bloom to the end, it will light up the night sky in an instant...
All creatures or phenomena in nature will make people feel extremely "dazzling" at the last moment of their development. For people, the principle is similar.
When a person really runs out of gas, he will not fall down immediately, but will become more and more "energetic". The spirit here is to use up the last energy of the human body and give people a short period of time to explain their funeral arrangements.
From a medical point of view, the so-called retroreflection is nothing more than the human body's large secretion of , the adrenal hormone , which gives people a "flash in the pan" vitality.
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Before parents go back, they always explain the funeral arrangements to their children.
In fact, everyone is well aware of their own physical condition. If his physical condition is very good, then he will maintain his previous behavior; if his physical condition is really bad, then his behavior will be more "abnormal."
is like Zeng Guofan in the late Qing Dynasty. After lunch, he asked his son to help him go for a walk in the garden. When he realized that his time was almost up, he explained some things to his son, and then asked his son to help him to rest in the study.
After sitting on the chair for a while, Zeng Guofan left peacefully.
When parents tell their children about their posthumous affairs, it is not a random act on the part of the parents, but rather the fact that the parents know their bodies very well and know how far they have gone, so they express their thoughts to their children so that they have no regrets. .
It is better for us to accept the things our parents tell us calmly. This is not only respect for your parents, but also respect for yourself and your family. That's all.
text/Shushan Youlu
