People living in this world, there is nothing wrong with having a little scheming. Of course, the intention here is not to do things that benefit oneself at the expense of others, but to ensure that you can love yourself well and safeguard your own interests without harming the interests of others.
This world is full of strange things, especially after entering the adult world, intrigues and deceit are commonplace, and without scheming, it is easy to become cannon fodder.
The same is true in the relationship between the sexes. It does not mean that we are sincere enough and can be sincere in exchange for being sincere to others.
In fact, none of us know what this relationship will develop into in the end. It may be just you and me at the beginning, but in the end it will be everyone's own agenda. No one can say for sure.
In order to prevent us from getting hurt in love, we must have the scheming we should have. After all, we must not have the intention to harm others, and we must have the intention to guard against others. This is the best way for us to protect ourselves.
Psychological research shows that as a woman, you need to be "stingy". No matter who you are married to, you must remember this truth.
You should live a "stingy" life, know how to measure, and don't be greedy for big things and seek quick results.
The stinginess here actually refers more to the time and energy spent on men.
Due to their perceptual thinking, women tend to fall into a relationship faster, which makes them obsessed with each other and particularly dependent on each other.
In this way, women will lose themselves because of being too enthusiastic.
If a relationship loses the distance and rationality it should have, it means that it will face many contradictions.
Zhou Guoping said: "All interactions have a final limit that cannot be crossed. Between two people, this limit is not clear, but it is certain. All troubles and conflicts arise from unintentionally trying to break through this limit. "
Therefore, women need to understand one truth, that is, no matter who they are with, they should not focus all their time and energy on the man, especially if they are married.
Regarding the allocation of time, you should be more "stingy" when you spend it on men, be more generous when you spend it on yourself, and focus on pleasing yourself.
In this way, we will not cause conflicts because we are too close, nor will we lose ourselves because we are too close, nor will we bring bad feelings to ourselves because we lose our sense of proportion.
You must guard your money, there is nothing wrong with being "stingy"
In the TV series " Who said I can't get married ", Tian Lei is a particularly rational person, and she also has a very classic line -
" With the same knife, you want to cook, but I want to fight to get more of what I want. "
Tian Lei's principle of doing something is very simple, that is, whether to do it based on profit;
If we start from the risk, we should decide whether we should fight; if we start from the ability, we should decide whether it can be done; if we start from the result, we will decide whether it is cost-effective.
Some people may think that being too rational will lead to selfishness, but for women, there is no harm in being selfish, especially when it comes to money.
When it comes to money matters, it’s okay to be stingy.
Because we can only guard our money by being stingy.
Don't be soft-hearted and borrow money from others when others cry out for poverty;
Of course, don't be too stingy. Pay when you should pay. After all, husband and wife are one and the same, and they should always support each other to live a life;
Don't show off, You have to control your "mouth" and be stingy. At most, you will get others' ungenerous comments about you. But after you show off, you will be asked to borrow money and you will have more troubles.
Therefore, be stingy and guard your own money. Having money in our pockets is the best protection for ourselves.
Exit the circle if you should, be "stingy" and don't be greedy for too much
A host once interviewed the linguist Mr. Zhou Youguang. The host asked him the secret of longevity. The gentleman replied like this - "Everything "You have to look forward and think broadly."
The host joked - "What if I can't think about it?"
Mr. Zhou replied: "Just turn around and think about it!"
Our life should be like this too. Yes, when you encounter a dead end and you can't get through it, don't go all the way to the dark side. Try to turn around. If you can't go down a dead end, then turn around and you will see a bright future.
In daily life, each of us has limited energy, and it is impossible to allocate limited energy to everything just right.
Therefore, there are some things that we need to give up, such as meaningless social circles, such as the circle of relatives who dislike the poor and love the rich, etc.
We must know what is the center of our lives, and do not think that friendships and family ties are particularly important. In order to maintain them, we have to pretend to be "generous".
But in fact, what we really need to be "generous" are our families, ourselves, and the people and things we care about. In this way, we will spend our energy on meaningful things because of being "stingy". In this way, we can gain happiness.
