In 2021, 57-year-old Yan Guilian went to the obstetrics and gynecology department for consultation. She wanted to have another child. Her daughter passed away unexpectedly seven years ago, which was a pain in Yan Guilian's heart.
But in vitro fertilization requires the unanimous consent of both husband and wife. Yan Guilian has been divorced from her ex-husband for 27 years. She found 's remarried husband and prayed for him to divorce her and have children with her.
"The child we gave birth to is like a daughter, I beg you." Will her ex-husband agree? Can Yan Guilian still be pregnant and give birth to a child in her body?
Yan Guilian
The daughter died unexpectedly
When Yan Guilian and ex-husband Huang Hongwei got married, the two had a good relationship. Yan Guilian had a bold and generous personality and kept the family in order.
Later, Yan Guilian became pregnant and gave birth to her daughter Huang Pingping (pseudonym) . The beautiful marriage was broken after the birth of her daughter.
The husband is the only child in the family. The mother-in-law dislikes her granddaughter Huang Pingping very much. She feels that girls cannot inherit the family business, and the peace of the family is broken.
Yan Guilian's daughter Pingping
Mother-in-law and Yan Guilian quarreled every now and then. Her husband Huang Hongwei would break up the fight at first, but after a long time, he would not get involved anymore.
Looking at her husband's attitude, Yan Guilian felt that there was no need to continue this marriage. In 1994, when her daughter was 6 years old, she filed for divorce and she would take her daughter Huang Pingping away.
Yan Guilian
For so many years, Yan Guilian has been raising her daughter by herself. Huang Pingping is also very sensible. She knows that her mother is working hard, so she has been studying hard.
The life of mother and daughter went by slowly. After Huang Pingping graduated, she chose to return to her hometown and stayed with her mother.
In 2013, an accident happened. When Yan Guilian and her daughter were out for a walk, a car accident occurred. Huang Pingping died unfortunately after a year of treatment in the hospital.
Yan Guilian could not get out of the shadow of her daughter's death. She always felt that her daughter had always been by her side to accompany her. Even though the child has been dead for seven years, her room remains unchanged.
Yan Guilian cleans the room every day and organizes the clothes in the closet very cleanly. even talks to Huang Pingping's photos every day when he goes out and comes home.
Photos of Yan Guilian caressing her daughter
Rekindled hope
A neighbor persuaded Yan Guilian, to ask her to find a wife again . She was only 50 years old when her daughter left, and she could enter a new marriage.
And her conditions are not bad, she has her own house and a monthly pension. But Yan Guilian couldn't do it. She felt that such behavior was betraying her daughter.
Time flies, One day in 2020, when Yan Guilian was watching TV, a piece of news attracted her attention.
Yan Guilian and Doctor
After losing her child, a mother remarried her ex-husband and gave birth to a daughter. The mother in the video looked very happy holding her child.
Yan Guilian rekindled hope. Maybe she could find her ex-husband Huang Hongwei and have a daughter again. She hurriedly contacted her ex-husband.
Yan Guilian's ex-husband
But Huang Hongwei's attitude was very clear. If his daughter left, she would leave. Even if she had another child, it would definitely not be her. Huang Hongwei rejected Yan Guilian's request.
Yan Guilian kept calling him, hoping that Huang Hongwei could change his mind. After repeated bombardments, Huang Hongwei blocked Yan Guilian's contact information and stopped talking to her.
Yan Guilian decided to go to the hospital for consultation first to see if it was possible for her body to become pregnant and give birth to a child, to solve the problems one by one.
Doctor
came to the hospital for consultation
Yan Guilian walked into the doctor's office: "I have consulted many places, but I still want to have a child." The doctor was a little surprised.
Dean Yao expressed his sympathy after briefly understanding Yan Guilian's story. But you don’t just want a child, you have to look at Yan Guilian’s physical condition first.
The hospital arranged a series of physical examinations for Yan Guilian. Yan Guilian sat in front of the blood drawing window with a hint of expectation on her face. She expected that her body would be able to conceive and give birth to a child.
Yan Guilian checked her body
The doctor asked her next to her: "You hope that your body will allow it, but what if it doesn't allow it? Are you mentally prepared?"
Yan Guilian's expression was stunned for a moment, and she was filled with joy and thought for the best. result, but she still said: "If you don't allow it, give up."
"I miss my daughter so much, I just want a child." Yan Guilian said after watching the nurse draw blood This sentence.
Yan Guilian
When the doctor asked Yan Guilian some basic information, he discovered a very important question.
Yan Guilian is currently single, and single people are not allowed to do in vitro fertilization. Relevant laws in our country stipulate that in vitro fertilization must have a marriage certificate from both spouses.
Yan Guilian
After Yan Guilian divorced her ex-husband, she never remarried. She devoted all her body and mind to her daughter, so her world collapsed after her daughter left.
On the way home, Yan Guilian thought of someone. Her ex-husband Huang Hongwei, who had been divorced for 27 years, wanted a child similar to Huang Pingping. Huang Hongwei was the best choice.
A photo of Yan Guilian and her ex-husband
Her ex-husband has remarried and is unwilling to provide help
"I really hope that my ex-husband can help me. After all, the child will still look like him when he is born. This is the best." Yan Guilian smashed in front of the camera Said this sentence.
She hoped that the program team could help her, and asked her ex-husband Huang Weihong to agree to do in vitro fertilization. Yan Guilian got in touch with her ex-husband again through a mutual friend with Huang Weihong.
Yan Guilian
After getting through the phone, the reporter asked Huang Weihong if he had considered Yan Guilian's request? Huang Weihong gave an answer very definitely: "I won't do it. I am already over 60 years old and I don't want to have another child."
Huang Hongwei revealed to reporters that Yan Guilian had actually proposed it to him a long time ago. This requires , and I also approached the program team for help at that time.
Yan Guilian in 2014
In 2014, not long after Huang Pingping passed away, Yan Guilian seemed to have completely changed. She was very emotional and forced Huang Hongwei to have a child with her.
even knelt down to beg him, but Huang Hongwei felt that having another child would not be his daughter Huang Pingping. Huang Hongwei: "She begged me that if we have another child, she will be at least 80% like her previous daughter."
Huang Hongwei could understand Yan Guilian's mood, but he did not agree to have another child. Her daughter has been gone for so long, Yan Guilian should start her life instead of immersed in sadness.
Yan Guilian's ex-husband Huang Hongwei
Huang Hongwei revealed on the phone that he has remarried now and it is impossible for him to remarry Yan Guilian. As for in vitro fertilization, it is even more impossible.
Yan Guilian felt a little sad after hearing the news that Huang Hongwei had remarried. Huang Hongwei had promised her before that he would always stay with her and her daughter and not marry another woman.
Yan Guilian: "He also hid it from me, saying that they didn't get the certificate and kept lying to me." Her ex-husband Huang Hongwei couldn't marry her and have children, so Yan Guilian had to find another way.
Yan Guilian
is preparing to go on a blind date, get married and have children
While waiting for the results of the hospital examination, Yan Guilian started making friends on the blind date website. She now wants to find a suitable marriage partner through blind dates.
In order to confirm the other party's thoughts, Yan Guilian would ask if the other party still plans to have children as soon as she comes up. This request scared away many netizens.
They are all in their fifties or sixties, and some have even become grandfathers. The blind date is just to find a wife, and they have no intention of having children.
Yan Guilian
The neighbor who originally planned to introduce Yan Guilian to her partner felt helpless after knowing her thoughts. Yan Guilian has been single for so many years, but there are still people pursuing her.
Ke Yan Guilian only wants a child, and her neighbors can understand her difficulties, but she still hopes that Yan Guilian can stabilize and open up.
Yan Guilian: "I have always wanted to find a partner, but if you don't want to have a child with me, I won't find you no matter how good the conditions are. I just want someone to have a child with me."
Yan Guilian's daughter Pingping
Yan Guilian is chatting with a 2-year-old netizen , who is also Zhuzhou . She has been single for many years without children. The two of them made an appointment to meet.
Yan Guilian met this netizen in the park. After Yan Guilian briefly introduced her situation, she went straight to the topic: "If I come to you, I want another child. Are you willing?"
The netizen was stunned for a moment, and replied vaguely: "Yes." Yan Guilian seemed not to notice the man's hesitation and began to ask him about the details of his family.
Yan Guilian meets the netizen
The netizen currently has no job and only needs a house in the countryside. His various circumstances do not meet Yan Guilian's requirements, but Yan Guilian still puts this netizen among the candidates.
Yan Guilian discussed another matter with netizens. She currently has a monthly retirement salary of 3,000 yuan, but IVF requires tens of thousands of yuan in surgical fees.
Yan Guilian
Netizens didn’t understand what in vitro fertilization meant at first. After Yan Guilian explained it to him, she asked: “Can we share this cost?”
When netizens heard that there was still this cost, they were a little confused. Hesitating, he asked: "Do I have to have this child?" Yan Guilian answered in the affirmative.
After this netizen left, he did not contact Yan Guilian again. Yan Guilian also understood that her request was a bit embarrassing, but she still insisted on having a child.
Yan Guilian
Can Yan Guilian still be pregnant with her body?
The test results that she had been waiting for for a long time finally came out as . After the doctor called her to inform her, Yan Guilian hurried to the hospital. She was a little nervous and kept rubbing her hands.
But this report poured cold water on Yan Guilian: Her body is not capable of pregnancy.
7-year-old Yan Guilian's uterus and ovaries have atrophied. In addition, her physical qualities did not meet the requirements for in vitro fertilization.
Yan Guilian
The doctor advised Yan Guilian that not only was her body not allowed to get pregnant, even if her body allowed in vitro fertilization, the hospital did not recommend her to try it.
She will face many problems when she is pregnant at this age. Hypertension, diabetes and other complications that are very easy to occur during pregnancy.
These symptoms are not fatal for young pregnant mothers, but for 57-year-old Yan Guilian, they may be fatal.
The doctor advised Yan Guilian
Doctor: "Even if your child is still there, she definitely doesn't want to see you like this. You have to get out."
Even if Yan Guilian really has another child, then she What will we face in the future? When the children were 20 years old, Yan Guilian was already 77 years old. One was in their youth and the other was getting old.
Yan Guilian
Raising a child requires not only energy and financial resources, but also long-term love and companionship, which is very difficult for Yan Guilian to achieve.
Under the guidance of the doctor, Yan Guilian came to understand the reality. Giving birth to a child at this age was not a good choice, so she decided to give up the idea of in vitro fertilization.
Yan Guilian
Epilogue
Yan Guilian has been unable to get over the grief of her daughter's death, so she has completely lost her own life. believes that her daughter Pingping does not want to see her mother like this.
Yan Guilian's idea was a bit biased from the beginning. She should not have the idea of using one child to replace another, as this would be unfair to the subsequent children.
The picture comes from the Internet
Even if Yan Guilian really succeeds in in vitro fertilization, can this child replace Pingping? Once she is different from her sister in any way, Yan Guilian will step into another corner.
When the child grows up and knows that she was born to replace her sister, she will definitely blame her mother Yan Guilian in her heart.
Families who have lost their only child can have another child so that they can get out of the shadows faster, but they should not regard this child as the shadow of another person.
Pictures come from the Internet
Perhaps ordinary people cannot understand their pain, but parents also need to work hard on their own, step out of the shadows, and trust their loved ones, and do not want to see them immersed in sadness for the rest of their lives.
Family and friends can help parents like Yan Guilian to rekindle their passion for life. Perhaps they can replace their children to do what they want to do and experience another kind of life.
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