When I was walking, I met Lili from the same community. Seeing her depressed look, I chatted with her for a while. She said she had a quarrel with her friend Ah Rong and finally understood what "plastic sisterhood" is.
She rushed to give a report in the afternoon, but Xiaorong didn't have much work today, and with the holiday approaching, she didn't want to work. He kept walking around next to her and kept saying some unpleasant things. She heard that she was upset, so she said to Xiao Rong, "Can you stop wandering around and exaggerating negative emotions?" Unexpectedly, A Rong suddenly became unwilling and yelled:
"Why am I so negative?
Don't I work hard?
Why don't you do it when I yell?
Does this kind of swaying affect you?
You have so little concentration?
Why do you still do it when you are so low? What kind of job..."
Lili was also angry. Why don't you change places with the colleague opposite you? Out of sight, out of mind. Ah Rong became even more irritated and asked again and again: "Why should I change? What's wrong with you because I just love to hang around you? Who stipulates that you can't chat or hang around in the office? Why did I seduce you? Why do you want to be influenced by me? You can't "Are you blind?"
Hearing what she said became more and more unpleasant, Lili was also angry, saying that Ah Rong "usually gets slapped so hard by others, but I don't see what happened to you. It seems that you can only do it once." It's just me."
Ah Rong felt confident, "I'm just going to bully you. Who would you bully if I didn't bully you? ..."
- So that's it, it's human nature to bully the weak and fear the strong. Even among friends. Lili just didn't expect that they had worked together for more than ten years and had regular contacts with each other, so they had a good friendship. But when they quarreled, she still spoke indiscriminately, was sarcastic, and was aggressive. It turns out that friendship also has such a fragile side, it is vulnerable and can be broken in one blow.
Lili said dullly, having known each other for many years, she had always known that Ah Rong was a well-rounded person who was particularly good at observing faces and catering to his liking. She can please anyone if she wants to. But she also knows how to follow the trend and seek advantages and avoid disadvantages. Who wants to hold it up, who wants to respect it, who can coax it or step on it... The door is clear. Therefore, most of the friends she made were from better-off families.
"It seems that she and I just have a plastic sisterhood. I am only useful to her occasionally, and she doesn't really regard me as a friend." Lili smiled bitterly.
"Friends are precious friends and can stand the test of time. Even good sisters are quarreling. It can't be fake, but it's a pity to be fake. - Maybe you feel sad here, but she doesn't take it seriously at all. ." I comforted her.
"But I'm really angry. You don't know. She was so aggressive and unscrupulous at that time. It was so hurtful..." Lili complained angrily and walked back.
At about ten o'clock in the evening, Lili sent me a message, "Arong sent me a WeChat message and said that she had delicious food at home and asked if she would like to bring it to me..." Then she added, "You really hit the mark. — "Is this just a step she gave me to show her kindness, or does she not care at all?" Before I responded, she said, "Forget it, forget it, just ignore her."
Unexpectedly, the next afternoon, Li. Li sent another message, "Ah Rong said to take my car to the work. - Forget it, I won't see you when you look up, and that's it." I also laughed. Although they are called "plastic sisterhood", they are still "sisters" after all. Some people break up after a fight, and some people remain friends after a fight.
Cai Shaofen, Hong Xin, Zhu Yin and Chen Farong have known each other for more than 20 years and are good besties in the entertainment industry. But Cai Shaofen also revealed in " Sister Treating Me to Dinner " that Hong Xin was in a bad mood one year, and Cai Shaofen felt very hurt by something they did together. At that time Cai Shaofen made up his mind to break off the relationship with her.
The two had no contact for a year, but this was just a unilateral breakup by Cai Shaofen, because Hong Xin said that she was "very nervous" and did not notice that she was being ignored by Cai Shaofen. Hong Xin also laughed and said in the show: "But I don't know." After the show was broadcast, "unilaterally announcing the end of diplomatic relations" was once on the hot search, triggering heated discussions and resonating with many people.
Lili undoubtedly "unilaterally announced the severance of diplomatic relations" with Arong.
The maintenance of friendship requires common interests as a bond and time and space as a carrier. Many friends fade away and disperse over time. It is not necessarily because their common preferences have changed, but more because there is no time and space carrier to maintain them. We are no longer together, and we no longer spend time working on it. As time goes by, no matter how good the relationship is, it will not fade away. This is true for couples, let alone friends?
This statement seems to be true conversely. If the friendship can be maintained by a common time and space, it will be difficult to break up unless the essence of the friendship changes. In the adult world, in addition to purity, there is also the tenacity of human nature. Just having a quarrel will not destroy a friendship without hurting the roots.
The recently popular " Meng Hua Lu " tells the story of the growth of three good sisters, Zhao Pan'er, Sun Sanniang, and Song Yinzhang.
Sanniang and Paner are partners in business, help each other in life, and have a deep relationship. Sanniang committed suicide because she was deceived by her husband and rejected by her son. She was eventually rescued by Pan'er and Gu Qianfan. Since then, Sanniang has been with Pan'er.
As for Yin Zhang, Pan'er takes care of her like a sister. Because Pan'er had been favored by Yin Zhang's sister, she took special care of Yin Zhang. When Yin Zhang went his own way, refused to listen to Pan'er's words, and was deceived into marriage by the scumbag Zhou She, Pan'er did not hesitate to use her beauty and tricks to save Yin Zhang from Zhou She's misery, regardless of the past grievances.
It stands to reason that these people are friends through fate and should get along harmoniously, but they still have conflicts. The three of them started a business together in Tokyo, with Pan'er in charge of the accounts, Sanniang in charge of the kitchen, and Yin Zhang in charge of playing the pipa.
Once they had a quarrel because of their different business philosophies. Yin Zhang and Sanniang kept talking, and the more they talked, the more harsh they became, and they were about to break up on bad terms. In the end, several people agreed that each should manage their own areas and respect the decisions of others. When a common decision is made, three people need to agree before it can be passed. This eliminates the dispute.
It can be seen that quarrels between friends are not terrible, healthy communication is the most important, and this is a good way to solve the problem.
Watching "'s longing for life ", I am very envious of the friendship between Huang Lei and He Jiong . Teacher Huang once said on the show that they knew each other when they were in their twenties. From eating together when they had time, to acting in the drama "Secret Love in Peach Blossom Spring" together, and then recording "Longing for Life" together... they have a lot of overlap. of time and space. When people have similar temperaments and temperaments, friendship is as natural as fine wine. The older it gets, the more mellow its aroma becomes.
Huang Lei said that they are very comfortable together now, without any content or formality.
This is indeed the best state of friendship.
What do you think?
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