Some people say: "Those who help you do not owe you; those who help you are not afraid of you."
In life, some people not only do not appreciate others' efforts, but think that the other person is "flattering" them; When faced with other people's concessions, instead of reflecting on themselves, they intensify their behavior. People like
are people who consume the kindness of others and are also stupid people.
People who consume others’ kindness are not grateful.
"The Book of Songs " says: "Throw me a papaya, and repay it with Qiongyao. A bandit will always think it is good."
Facing the contributions of others, those who have a conscience People will be grateful and express their gratitude through actions.
We often say: "A drop of kindness should be repaid with a gushing spring."
Why?
Because when we are in difficulty and helpless, it seems to the helper as a "drop of grace", but to us, it is a "gushing grace".
Therefore, we should "repay each other with the spring of spring".
If a person faces the "drop of kindness" from others, he will "repay the favor". Then, when he is in trouble again, there will be more people to help him out of the predicament.
Some people have no sense of gratitude at all when faced with other people’s assistance. People like
think that they are smart and don't have to pay, but in fact they are the "stupidest" people.
has seen such a story.
There was a young man who felt sorry for a beggar on the roadside, so he would give him 10 yuan every time he passed by.
After a while, the young man gave 5 yuan to the beggar every time he passed by.
After a while, young people gave 1 yuan to beggars every time they passed by.
The beggar asked: "Why are you giving less and less? It was 10 yuan at first, then became 5 yuan, and now it is 1 yuan."
The young man replied: "From 10 yuan to 5 yuan, yes Because I got married; from 5 yuan to 1 yuan, it’s because I have a child.”
The beggar said angrily: “How can you use my money to support your family?”
If a person is faced with the sacrifices of others, , not only are they not grateful, but they take it for granted. Doing this will only make others feel cold and stop giving.
Some people tear down the bridge when they cross the river, feeling that they can no longer use others.
In fact, in life, you will always encounter ups and downs, big and small, and you will always need help from others again.
If he becomes an "ungrateful" and "burning bridges" in the eyes of everyone, then when he is in trouble again, who will be willing to lend a helping hand?
Gratitude is not only to be grateful to others, but also to make your own future path smoother.
Those who consume others’ kindness will repay kindness with hatred
Some people say: “The greatest evil in human nature is not being grateful.”
In fact, a greater evil than not being grateful is “repaying kindness with hatred.”
People who are not grateful will only It's just that our "paying" is in vain; however, those who retaliate with kindness will make us hurt because of our "paying".
For example: Some old people fell to the ground intentionally, and indifferent people turned a blind eye, so they could not hurt the other person; enthusiastic people tried to help him, but were blackmailed instead.
Enthusiastic people will not be rewarded for their efforts, but will be hurt instead.
Taking advantage of the other person's goodwill toward you to harm the other person is "repaying kindness with enmity."
As the saying goes: "A friend's favor is worth a pound of grudge."
Some people, when faced with the large amounts of contributions made by others, not only do they not feel grateful, but instead push themselves to the limit.
Sun Li once sponsored a student.
This student was admitted to university with the help of Sun Li.
However, after entering college, this student began to spend money unscrupulously, even skipping classes, playing games, and wasting his studies.
Later, he was dissatisfied with Sun Li's monthly living expenses of only 500 yuan and asked for more money many times.
After Sun Li learned about his situation, she stopped supporting him.
Unexpectedly, this student actually posted a long article accusing Sun Li, which caused Sun Li to receive a lot of negative comments.
Later, the truth surfaced and Sun Li was cleared. This student
eventually encountered obstacles in finding a job because of his behavior of "repaying kindness with hatred".
If a person can act mercilessly against those who have helped him, then how can he be merciful towards others?
A person who "repays kindness with hatred" only gains the small profits in front of him, but loses his own "reputation", as well as various "possibilities" in the future and everyone's trust.
Conclusion:
The biggest stupidity of a person is to think that he is smart and regard the kindness of others as "stupid." If someone is "repaying kindness with hatred", then he will gradually put away his kindness.
Mencius said: "Those who love others will always be loved by others."
Those who treat others well will always be treated well by others; those who consume others' kindness will ultimately only gain the indifference and disgust of others, making themselves "lonely". .
