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"If people want to maintain a long-term and comfortable relationship, they rely on commonality and attraction, rather than oppression, binding, flattery, blind giving, and moral kidnapping self-impression." This sentence applies to All relationships.
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Nowadays, more and more reorganized families actually do not obtain certificates. Some even hold weddings and are always addressed as husband and wife to the outside world, but they absolutely do not obtain certificates.
This is mainly because both men and women do not want the other's children to inherit their property, nor do they want their children to bear the burden of supporting the other. If these are relatively distant things, the more imminent reality is that once the other party or the other party's family has any problems, such as serious illness or debt, he can quickly pack up and leave without any responsibility, and run away cleanly.
Don’t think that people who play this way are not very popular. I have met several pairs of professors and families reorganized within the system, and this is the case. No one except the HR department knew that they were both currently legally single.
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If there is no real strength to support, the so-called self-esteem is a poison-like extreme inferiority complex. Such people desperately hope that someone can help them, but they stop at false self-esteem. They claim to never ask for help, but in fact it is fundamental. People who don’t know how to get help from others; such people either become flattering due to low self-esteem, or become trolls due to constant frustration. Longing for an illusory sense of respect is the most fatal weakness of people at the bottom.
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Many parents like to compare their children. When they were young, they compared their grades and when they grew up, they compared their work. Therefore, many people have become such people when they become adults. They compare everything and their focus is always on others. rather than on oneself.
But in fact, this kind of comparison is meaningless. Just like showing off wealth, the comparison is just an inner drama. In fact, it is useless. People who are stronger than you will not look down on this little trick.
I have also met people who are better than me in all aspects. My first reaction when I see them is to find what they are better than me. If it is useful to me, then learn it and then master it. It’s not that if you see someone who is better than you in some aspect today, you will treat the other person as an imaginary enemy, be very aggressive, and feel like you are being robbed of the limelight.
If you want to improve yourself, you must humbly learn from the strong. Even those who are at the same level as yourself must learn to appreciate the advantages of others.
Being too hostile will only make you look small.
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wants to increase energy: speak less sarcastically, don't ridicule others, don't blame yourself, set goals and go all out to complete them, "try the feeling of winning after fully investing once." As your self-confidence increases, your energy will naturally increase.
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There are two things that money cannot buy: time and love. I have always valued these two things very much. In my life, I am very, very lucky because I have great freedom and can completely control my own time.
- Warren Buffett
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read: "She said age is not ordered by time, but by mental attitude. You can get tired of everything at the age of 20, or you can restart what you love at the age of 70. Career. Time will gradually change all the irrelevant people, and you will realize that anyone’s evaluation and definition of you are fleeting and unimportant.
