Text/Qing Shui Wuchen Edit/Xiao Xiao
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c明想想一個見大這記, When he took his mother to live in the city for a while. Xiao Wei was obviously taken aback for a while, her instinctive reaction was to say "no".
I can see Da Ming's pleasing eyes, thinking of her husband's goodness in the past, and thinking of her husband's saying that her mother-in-law is in the terminal stage of cancer, and it hasn't been many days to put it bluntly. Xiaowei can't say it. During the silent time, she was noncommittal, said nothing, neither agreed nor refused.
A few days later, Daming still took his mother over. She hasn't seen her for more than ten years, and her mother-in-law, who was once dazzling and powerful, is already crumbling like a candle in the wind.
Xiaowei has cursed her mother-in-law to die countless times in her heart, but when she really saw her mother-in-law like this, she was actually not feeling well. Even though there is great hatred and great resentment, her husband and her children cannot be separated from the mother-in-law. After all, everything is fate.
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Xiaowei is my cousin, she has not studied much, she got married and had children very early.
Although the old saying goes, the emperor loves his son, the people love the son. But because Xiaowei already has three older brothers, this makes her the youngest, the most unwelcome and overlooked one.
When Xiaowei and Daming got married, she took the initiative to take care of the housework without being ordered by anyone. She took care of the house in an orderly manner. Xiaowei is also very sensible. There is a bit of delicious food at home. She always eats first with her husband and mother-in-law.
can be so sensible, the industrious Xiaowei is not treated well by her in-laws. Xiaowei's mother-in-law is a very powerful woman, notoriously tricky, mean and shrewd in the village.
Originally, my mother-in-law married Xiaowei and came in, hoping to give birth to a boy in their family as soon as possible and pass on from generation to generation. However, Xiaowei's stomach was unsatisfactory, and she gave birth to a girl at the first birth. This disappointed her mother-in-law and made Xiaowei's situation worse and worse.
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Someone else’s family gave birth to a child happily, set off firecrackers, and sent happy eggs to celebrate. But after Xiaowei gave birth to a daughter, her mother-in-law sneaked back home from the hospital on the same day.
During the whole month, other people's mothers ate five or six meals a day, and Xiaowei's three meals a day, depending on the face of her mother-in-law.
What makes Xiao Wei sad the most is that her husband, Daming, went out to work. It doesn't matter if the mother-in-law scolds Xiaowei at all times, and even scolds her daughter.
One night, Xiaowei's daughter had a high fever and cried. Xiaowei cried and begged her mother-in-law to ride a bicycle and took them to the town hospital health center. As a result, the mother-in-law was too quarrelsome for her to sleep. Not only did she not send them to the hospital, she also yelled at her, saying that Xiaowei's daughter was a money-loser, and it would be better to die early.
Xiaowei completely hated her mother-in-law at that moment. She hated her mother-in-law's cruelty and her inability to protect her daughter.
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really let Xiaowei completely break with her mother-in-law, so that she did not enter her mother-in-law's door for more than ten years, which happened in 2008.
At that time, Xiaowei's eldest daughter was 5 years old, and the youngest daughter was a little over two years old. It was the age when cats disliked dogs and loved climbing.
On that day, Xiaowei took her 5-year-old daughter to the market to sell agricultural products, and put her daughter in the care of her mother-in-law.
As a result, when Xiaowei came back from the market, he almost passed out. Her little daughter left the adult's sight and drowned after playing in the pond at the door. And her mother-in-law, unconsciously yarding on the Great Wall at someone else's mahjong table.
After finishing the little daughter's funeral, Xiaowei, who was extremely angry, discounted her mother-in-law's arm. Then he forced his husband Daming to go to the city to make a living, and since then broke all contact with her husband's family.
For more than ten years, the Xiaowei couple bought a house by selling vegetables in the city, which also allowed their eldest daughter to attend a good school. But Xiaowei's heart hurts, thinking about it for so many years, it is still aching.
so much so that every yearDuring the Spring Festival, Xiaowei did not oppose Daming's return to his hometown, but he was determined not to let his eldest daughter and himself go back to his hometown. Of course, in order not to irritate Xiaowei, even if Daming returned to his hometown, he would never dare to mention a few words about his mother.
It can be said that Xiaowei is using this most tragic way to avenge her mother-in-law and punish herself.
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Xiaowei's mother-in-law died in the city three months later. A few days before her death, she had trembling hands and took out her private money passbook that she had hidden for a lifetime, and the old tearfully said "sorry" to Xiaowei, repenting for her meanness to Xiaowei.
Xiaowei said that she was completely relieved after her mother-in-law passed away. After all, the debts are cleared, and all the grievances and hatreds are over. Over the years, she punishes her mother-in-law, but is she actually punishing herself? In the final analysis, it's all about losing.
Xiaowei’s tragedy also gives us some vigilance. Warn us:
(1) Getting along with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is important.
The mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, they were originally two people who couldn't fight each other. It was because of the common man that they came together.
When getting along too close, it is easy to knock, bump, and concentrate conflicts. Too far, invisible and intangible, easy to make a difference. How to grasp a proper boundary and distance so that both parties are comfortable, really need to carefully consider and grasp a degree.
(2) Men and women are the same, don't let the patriarchal preference ruin the relationship of a family.
In the past, because of backward ideas, many elderly people had the idea of raising children to prevent old age. But now, the times have long been different, and equality between men and women has long been a consensus. Rather than patriarchal patriarchal, there are many contradictions. It would be better for the family to work together to live a good life and educate the children well.
(3) The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is still the inaction of the man.
Whether it's a strong mother-in-law bullying a weak wife, or a strong mother-in-law embarrassing the weak mother-in-law, in the final analysis, it is the man who has become a deserter and has become a hollow person. Only then will the two most important women in his life go to war for this.
Family and Wanshixing, between family members, there is only mutual respect and love and mutual understanding. Only by working together can we twist the rope together to live a good life and prevent the seeds of tragedy from growing in unhealthy relationships.
