Text/Lang Lige Lang
My friend Lao Li once met a netizen Dayang on the Internet. The two people who had a good chat met in reality. After introducing each other, they found that they were in the same village and school. , The relationship immediately got close. There are countless times coming and going in half a year, and Dayang also intends to make a business for Lao Li, who is doing transportation.
was actually a good thing, but everything changed after Lao Li went to Dayang’s house for a visit.
It turned out that when Lao Li was a guest, was empty-handed, and he didn't bring . Lao Li has always been big-hearted, but Dayang has alienated Lao Li ever since. Business matters were never mentioned again. Not only that, but after the fight, Dayang had repeatedly turned away from Lao Li's appointment, and the two finally drifted away.
Every time Lao Li talked about Dayang, he was very confused and wondered where he was upset by Dayang. In fact, the reason is very simple- In Dayang's view, Lao Li is not "knowledge of etiquette", so he can't get close to each other.
Home is the most private place for people. Those who are willing to invite you to be a guest at home must regard you as important and treat you as a friend. Inviting you into your home also means taking you into the circle of other people's lives. At this time, you must "knowledge".
China has a history of more than 2,000 years, and it also has a culture of etiquette for more than 2,000 years. When Chinese people interact with others,The most important thing is the word "li".
Politeness, etiquette, gifts, all indispensable.
Don’t think that this is the “old-fashioned” red tape. In fact, when you visit someone’s house for the first time, your performance, in the eyes of many people, often means whether you are a person worthy of continuing to associate.
Inviting you to be a guest at home is not only a recognition, but also a further investigation of you.
Therefore, if you live forever, some people must be so sophisticated. No matter who you associate with, you must remember this thing: go to someone else's house, don't go empty-handed, especially the first time.
Being a guest and not empty-handed, it reflects your respect
When interacting with people, mutual respect is the prerequisite. Respect is an attitude, and attitude needs to be reflected in your words and deeds. Not being a guest empty-handed can just reflect your respect for others.
To put it bluntly, after decades of development in the country's economy, family life is not difficult. There is no shortage of the melon and fruit gifts that you bring when you are a guest, but they can reflect your heart and convey your respect and importance to this friendship.
Chinese people pay attention to "communication and communication". This kind of communication, its function, is actually to express an attitude of respect and value.
You are invited to be a guest at home,That is to value you and treat you as a friend. Bringing a gift when you are a guest shows that you understand your friend's mind and at the same time value your relationship with your friend just like your friend values you.
This is called reciprocating peaches and repaying plums. It is the most basic human affection. It not only shows respect for the other party, but also shows the willingness to communicate further, doing multiple things in one fell swoop.
If you go as a guest empty-handed, your friend may not say anything on the surface, but in your heart you will feel that you don’t value his invitation, and you will feel disrespectful, so you will also re-evaluate your opinion of it. This kind of judgment is likely to affect your relationship.
Being a guest is not empty-handed, it reflects your education
Education is usually reflected in the details. Knowing how to say hello when seeing people, knowing not to say a word when eating, and knowing how to communicate with people, all these are education. Being a guest is not empty-handed, it belongs to this kind of small detail that reflects education.
Don’t look at it as just being a guest and not empty-handed, the knowledge in it is actually great. A person’s upbringing, to be clear, is actually a kind of consciousness: Respect for others, respect oneself, don't trouble others, don't let yourself get into an embarrassing situation, this is education.
Your friend invites you to be a guest at home, and you will definitely make some preparations to entertain you. Your arrival is actually "troublesome" for your friend. Therefore, prepare some gifts to show that you know that this is causing trouble to your friends. It can not only express your apologies for the trouble, but also express gratitude to your friends for warmly entertaining you.
and friends who received gifts,Through this behavior, I have reached a conclusion for you: knows mutual respect, knows how to communicate with each other, is grateful, and behaves well. This friend will naturally feel that he did not invite the wrong person, and thus will come to the final definition of your friend worthy of association.
If you are empty-handed, your friends are likely to think that you do not have the consciousness of "relationships" and are not well-educated, and will doubt whether you are worthy of him to continue to associate.
Being a guest is not empty-handed, it reflects your character
Which kind of person do you least like to associate with? That is a person who "has no eyesight to see", in other words, a person who does not know how to empathize. As mentioned earlier, not being a guest empty-handed means that you know that you respect your friend’s intention to invite you to come home. In fact, this is a manifestation of "sightful vision".
People who do not understand empathy are usually selfish. Selfish people tend to be profitable, stingy, greedy for cheap, and not grateful. We know that many personality traits in the interactions between people are actually judged by observing the details of handling things.
Because once you are empty-handed, you leave your friends with a bad impression of "selfishness" , so as to reduce the contact with you, in the "friends have more roads, easy to walk" adult society Here, it can be said to have suffered a big loss for no reason.
was invited to be a guest at a friend’s house,Bring gifts with you. Although you won't be admired for this, your friends will at least think that you have a good character and are worthy of further contact. On the contrary, you may wonder if you only think about yourself and are too selfish, thus dispelling the willingness to make friends with you further.
The details of how people get along can often determine success or failure. This kind of impression of character derived from trivial matters may be inaccurate, but it is usually difficult to eliminate, so you must pay attention to your own handling of details when interacting with people.
Nowadays there is a saying that Chinese people are reserved and not good at expressing what they think.
But in fact, the Chinese expression of friendship is hidden in action. As a nation of etiquette, we hide our attitudes, habits and behaviors under every action we give. At the same time, through this interaction between behaviors, to feel and judge others.
This kind of insignificant cognition and the gentleman's style of "moisturizing things quietly" is the true color of the Chinese people, and it is also a cultural heritage that has stretched for thousands of years.
Human feelings are practiced and written, and the world is knowledgeable! Doing things with others is a lesson to be learned in a lifetime. At the beginning of the interaction between people, what we care about is actually attitude, education and character.
Once as a guest, go away empty-handed, return in a grievance, and make friends misunderstand themselves, why bother?
Therefore, if you live your life, you must understand this truth: you must not be empty-handed when you visit someone else's house.
You thought it was just an empty hand,But in fact, what you lose is your image and friendship with your friends, so remember.
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