Women, if they can achieve these 3 points, they will have a good life regardless of whether they are married or not.

Movie "Miss Potter" stills

In the TV series "I Really Love You", Xiao Yan said:

"Women, it is wrong to choose a family. They will say You don’t want to be motivated, and you rely on men with yellow faces. When you pursue a career, they will say that a strong woman is destined to be unhappy, and it is better to marry a good job!"

But being born as a woman, do we really want to be depressed in such a dilemma?

Of course not.

Throughout the history of human development, although women still have a lot of helplessness in social and family life, they have to admit that women's rights are gradually improving. Especially now, women are getting more and more job opportunities, and their performance in the workplace is getting better and better. Some people even say that "her time" is coming.

This article would like to combine the movie "Miss Potter" to talk about how women live their lives well.

Women who have become mothers should all know a rabbit named "Peter". Even if I didn't read it when I was a child, I still know "The Story of Peter Rabbit" in order to tell my children a picture book.

In fact, more exciting than "Peter Rabbit" is the life of its author Miss Potter.

Woman, if she can live this life like her, it is worth it.

Women, if they can achieve these 3 points, they will have a good life regardless of whether they are married or not.

01 Have their own hobbies and spiritual pursuits

Porter lived in England at the end of the 19th century and the beginning of the 20th century. In that era, a woman's destiny was to marry and to manage family life. In the words of Mother Potter—"Planning dinners, participating in social events,I have to endure a man who doesn’t know what is on time.”

It is in such an environment that Potter was lucky to find his hobby and spiritual pursuit, maybe Inheriting his father's talent for painting, Porter loves painting very much, and the rabbits she drew were already vivid at a young age.

But Porter's parents always believed that painting cannot be a career, and that women must marry. When he was young, Porter’s father gave up painting due to family depression and switched to law.

The 32-year-old Porter is still unmarried. Of course, she is under more "stress" than she is now called "leftover girl". The girls are much older.

But Potter is very firm, and she really doesn’t want the blind dates arranged by her mother. In fact, when Potter was 10 years old, she clearly said to her parents that she could If you don’t get married, “I have my little animals. It’s enough to have them with me.”

People are most afraid of being bored.

But getting married and having children will make a woman stay on the ground for a lifetime She’s always busy with her husband and children, but she never has herself. Is she really lost because of her busyness? In fact, many women who have no spiritual pursuit, even if they are not busy with their husbands and children, do not have themselves. At that time, I felt emptied and time difficult, so I could only seek low-level tastes.

is not that marriage is a cage, but that many women do not have a spiritual pursuit and love of their own.

When it comes to spiritual pursuits , Seems to be very large, very empty, far away from us, and even some so-called "pragmatists" will call it "hypocritical".

But even the most ordinary woman needs spiritual pursuit, or Why is square dancing so popular?

However, the spiritual pursuit advocated here still hopes to be "higher" and free from the physical and psychological "low taste".

Once a woman has a spiritual pursuit like Porter, she has a passion like her love of painting, no matter whether she is married or not, she will have herself, and she will not care about the eyes of the people around her and suffer from gains and losses, which will affect her mood. She will live her life well and feel very fulfilled in this pursuit.

02 rich

I just want to use the word "rich" to summarize this point.

We can say that Potter is lucky. Her books are selling well and she is very rich. But don't forget, she also met publishers everywhere with her manuscripts in her arms, and bumped into walls everywhere.

Although Potter was born in a wealthy family, she did not have the idea of ​​"realizing" her paintings at first, but she got this result. With this strong financial support, Porter is invincible in the "struggle" with her parents. She can live on her own. She bought a farm in the country to live her own life.

In fact, in the process of turning children into adults, the first authority to defeat is "parents." Some writers have said: "Sooner or later there will be a war between children and their parents. It is a tragedy for a parent to win. Winning is success."

Porter didn't want to get married, and his parents forced the marriage. Porter met his true love Norman, and his parents disliked him as a publisher, and blocked Porter from marrying him. But Porter has the career of painting, and the opposition from her parents has very limited ability to "interfere" her life.

As early as the end of 1923, Lu Xun pointed out in his speech "How did Nora leave ". Women who want to emancipate should use "vigorous fighting" to fight for economic rights. "If the economic system is reformed, then of course the above is completely nonsense."

Women, whether married or not, cannot give up this "economic right". Because now we have this right, Potter can paint, and we can do too much. They are collectively called-work.

Tang Jing said in " my first half of my life ": "The ring is beautiful,I can buy it myself. "

When we have this guarantee, life will not get worse.

03 Follow the fate, but take the initiative to seize happiness

In life, some girls really don’t have the so-called “leftover women”. Problems”, but why are they left? In fact, many of them are only at the stage of marriageable age. They all slipped away quietly.

32-year-old Porter and his "Peter Rabbit" met the person who appreciated them the most-Norman, in order to let readers see the color Peter Rabbit, in order to satisfy Potter, Norman invited Porter to the factory to check the printing in person. In that era, such behavior was "surprising", and no lady would walk into the workshop.

What is love? What?

First of all, let’s take a look at how it happened.

In various literary works, both ancient and modern, good love started like Porter Good Norman, even though that word has been used badly, But I have to say that they are like-minded, have the same emotions, can get Peter’s "point" with each other, and Peter can appreciate the "light" in each other.

After being tempted by Norman, Porter hesitated, and she didn't want to give up His own "non-marriageism", but some advice from his friends finally allowed Porter to open his heart and embrace love.

Even if his parents objected, Porter was very firm and firm. He took happiness in his own hands.

But the illness took away Nomo’s young life. Potter was so desperate and missed. Although they are not married yet, their lover is their lover.

There is always such a thing in life. Things are beyond our control, just like Potter finally met Nomo, but lost him in an instant. This kind of accident, our little individual cannot control.

After Nomo passed away, still The "little animals" redeemed Potter.

Potter came to the country, in front of the vast time, the beautiful rural scenery slowly healed Potter.

Until the age of 47, when Porter was in the process of protecting the lake area, he met the rural lawyer William. The common pursuit brought them together, and Porter opened his heart again. But her parents still disagreed, feeling that a small local legal counsel was not worthy of her daughter.

Finally, Porter and William entered the palace of marriage.

Porter's two feelings come along with the fate, but each time they are inseparable from Porter's own persistence and hard work.

I think this is the best attitude for women to face emotions: self-reliance, self-reliance, no rush, no begging, but when love comes, they can hold on to it tightly.

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