I once read a sentence on the Internet: "Happy marriages are the same, but unfortunate marriages are strange." I think so! Whenever they talk about marriage, most people look like a tiger, especially female friends. They are even more afraid of marriage, because they feel that no matter how sweet and happy before marriage, their life after marriage will be a mess, especially when it comes to finances. When problems and family conflicts are intertwined.
Like most girls, Li Min is full of fantasies about love, especially when she was in college, she secretly promised her classmate Zhang Hui, and soon confided her heart to Zhang Hui. As the saying goes, "men chase women across the mountain; women chase men's interlayer yarn." Li Min's initiative quickly settled this relationship.
During the years of love, the two people occasionally had conflicts. Although Li Min provoked them in most cases, Zhang Hui took the initiative to admit his mistakes every time. After the curse of breaking up after college graduation, the two cherished this relationship even more. For this reason, Li Min did not hesitate to give up the job that her parents had arranged for her, and insisted on following Zhang Hui to develop in the big city.
For Zhang Hui, who has no connections and not outstanding ability, it is impossible to take root in the big city, so the two quickly decided to return to their hometown to develop. The relationship between the two was also caused by their parents after they returned to their hometown. After learning about Zhang Hui’s family conditions, Li Min’s parents resolutely opposed it because Zhang Hui’s father passed away a few years earlier, and his mother treated Zhang Hui and his younger sister. Pull big alone.
Li Min did not compromise on the opposition of his parents, and even let out ruthless words that he wanted to sever ties with his parents. In the end, Li Min's parents chose to compromise. Although they said "no daughter", they still prepared a 200,000 dowry for Li Min when she got married.
Not long after the two got married, Li Min discovered that his married life was completely different from what he had originally thought. When they were buying the wedding house, the mother-in-law did not do much, and Zhang Hui was the only child, so the mother-in-law moved in naturally. Since the mother-in-law moved in, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been very tense. Although Li Min tried his best to maintain it, the relationship was still tepid. What made Li Min annoyed even more,Every time he had a dispute with his mother-in-law, the husband always asked himself to apologize.
In the following years, Li Min felt more and more regretful, regretting that he did not listen to his parents. Because in the past few years, the husband has never considered her for her. Regardless of the size of the family, the husband will seek the advice of the mother-in-law, and also hand over all the salary to the mother-in-law. For this reason, Li Min and her husband often quarreled. People's feelings are also drastically deteriorating.
Until that day, Li Min learned from her mother-in-law that the sister-in-law was going to live in her natal house for a while. Although Li Min was not very happy, she did not say anything against her. Just when she got up to tidy up the guest bedroom for my sister-in-law, the mother-in-law said: "You should tidy up the guest bedroom, and then move your things in. Cui Cui (little sister) said that she wants to live in the master bedroom. There is a lot of space and good light. "Hearing this, Li Min quit immediately and quarreled with her mother-in-law.
When the two were arguing very hard, Zhang Hui came back from get off work. At this time, Li Min told the matter again, ready to let her husband judge. Li Min originally thought that her husband would definitely refuse this time. After all, it was his own concern. He didn't expect that his husband would not say anything, so he turned and went to the study. My husband’s "silence" made my mother-in-law more upright and confident. She insisted on asking me to leave the master bedroom, looking at her unreasonable face, and thinking about her husband’s silence, I instantly became sober.
Then, I shouted at my mother-in-law one by one: "No problem, I will move out of the master bedroom now and leave this home. After my son and your son are divorced, what will your family want? Whatever you want to live in.” After saying this, Li Min turned around and went back to the room to pack things, and despite her husband's obstruction, went back to her family's house overnight. In the end, the husband repeatedly apologized, and the mother-in-law repeatedly promised, but Li Min still chose to divorce.
I saw this question on Zhihu : "What kind of man does a woman marry to be happy?" Some people answered materially, some answered that they were handsome, and some answered yes. Family background, the answer of one of the netizens resonated with me. This netizen replied: "A woman's greatest honor is to meet a man who protects herself, understands herself, and always considers herself."Although this answer is not a classic, it is the most realistic.
Just like Li Min in the story, if Li Min's husband can protect her once, I don't think Li Min will be hurt so thoroughly. Many female readers are unwilling to do so. Entering into marriage, more or less conflicts with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law cannot escape the relationship. Many people regard the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law as a problem of the century. They do not know that the key to solving this problem lies in the man caught between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. What do you think?
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