once saw a topic on a forum:
People who have an object and still rely on watching porn to solve it, are they normal?
There are many angles of discussion on topics below, but one of the answers that caught my attention the most was:
"Have you ever used this relationship?"
is different from others regarding this matter The discussion, the ID that issued this comment, has obviously affected the normal intimacy because of this trouble.
Does not watching movies really affect intimacy in real life?
01 The impact of watching movies on intimacy is much more than you can imagine
There was once a survey of more than 20,000 adults in the United States, tracking respondents watching A for 8 consecutive years One of the obvious results of the frequency of movies and their marital status is that the frequency of men's viewing of A movies can be used as an influencing factor in predicting the divorce rate.
Even in China, most people already know that proper masturbation and watching movies will not cause physical and mental damage, and most people do not think that this matter will have any serious impact on intimacy.
However, judging from the research results, it is clear that it is different from general perception.
Even in the United States, there are survey results that show that nearly one-third of American women will see their other half secretly watching porn as their dissatisfaction and mental cheating.
Angry, injured, rejected, and frustrated, these emotions often appear in those who find that the other half releases themselves through watching movies, rather than through relationships with themselves.
Don't underestimate the damage that watching the movie can cause to your intimacy. Perhaps just because of such an influencing factor, it may make your significant other "don't want to live with you."
02 Unsatisfied desire, turn to other ways to release
I don’t know how many people remember,When did you first come into contact with porn?
Pop-up advertisements, websites, or other means of accidental contact?
In short, most children start to watch movies "accidentally".
And these "accidentally" information is the most important sex education enlightenment for most people.
Boston University Once there was a researcher who conducted a survey of young people aged 14-24 and analyzed the situation of 357 young people and 324 young people. The results showed that 1/4 of them Young people say that pornography is the most useful source of information. There are only a very small number of people. The formal sexual enlightenment comes from partners, friends, parents or professionals.
Watching movies is the only way for them to understand sexual relations, and the information obtained from these channels often lacks interaction and feelings, that is, they can’t learn to respect each other’s feelings and don’t know how to explore themselves.
I learned how to release desires, but I can’t learn how to better promote intimacy and explore each other better by releasing desires.
Over time, neither party in the relationship can get the way they want to be satisfied, and gradually turn to another way.
According to data from the "Global Sexual Welfare Index Survey", 70% of Chinese people are not satisfied with their sexual life, regardless of the frequency of their sexual life, or changes in their sexual pleasure and style.
Last year, 9.471 million marriages were registered nationwide, and 4.154 million were divorced. Among them, derailment leads to the largest proportion of divorce, and among them, about two-thirds of divorced couples admit that their derailment has a great relationship with the disharmony of sexual life.
And watching movies is also a means of trying to satisfy themselves for the party who cannot be satisfied in the relationship as the popular concept gradually opens up.
03 What separates the relationship is not the A film, but the "back view"
Actually, it is not the beginning.The impact of porn on the relationship is bad.
Although most long-term data surveys have shown that watching movies for a long time will have a negative impact on relationships, watching movies is not the most direct factor leading to the separation of an intimate relationship.
makes this relationship change qualitatively because it has long resorted to third-party means of one's own desires and emotions, and is unwilling to share one's true emotions and thoughts with the closest object, which makes the relationship with the partner Produce fragmentation.
affects the relationship, not the existence of A film, but the means of "carrying".
Indeed, A-films can provide a steady stream of novel, weird and even fantasy effects, allowing most people to be satisfied quickly. Viewers only need to open the video and substitute to be excited with the plot to achieve satisfaction. You don't need to communicate and cooperate with your partner in real life, or even constantly explain your illusions that you are not known or even deviate from reality.
However, it is precisely because of these means of escaping from reality with the help of a third party that people truly feel detached from themselves.
is like the ID at the beginning of the article. It is impossible to accept the other party's back to watch the movie. In fact, it may also be because you can't feel that the other party is really getting along with you.
If you still have expectations of the other party, it is better to try to tell the other party your emotions due to his behavior, and tell the other party what kind of psychological process you have had and what you have experienced under the influence of his behavior Kind of struggle and discomfort.
Then, appropriately ask why the other party would alleviate their desires by watching the film.
Everyone has expectations for their intimacy, but most people, especially those who are unwilling to tell their desires, often lack such an opportunity, in a relationship, to speak frankly Express your own needs and feelings.
Perhaps, it is not that he is unwilling to release his desires through intimacy, but that those desires make him feel too ashamed to speak.
Or maybe, he had too much dissatisfaction in this relationship, and watching movies is just a means for him to transfer pressure and release his dissatisfaction.
In any case, the part that is hidden by the other party and may represent his/her self is indeed a part of the other party's true self. It is indispensable, but it is also the other party's truest self.
Find him/her, perhaps, you have found the key to intimacy.
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