Foreword
" pays my children a monthly salary, and my life in the old age is very happy. " These are the words of an 80-year-old Ms. He.
Honoring parents is the responsibility and obligation of children and the traditional virtues of the Chinese nation. is worth learning and advocating for everyone. " raises children for the sake of old age, " Parents work hard to grow up their children and raise adults in order to fulfill their responsibilities and obligations. is also to live in their old age and be able to provide enough There is a sense of support for the old, and he is able to support him forever, and have children to support himself.
Some people may say that paying their children a salary to provide for the elderly, is not a money transaction? Money can be exchanged for service, but it must not be exchanged for true love. But Ms. He doesn’t think much. Anyway, after a hundred years, will leave all the money to her children. Now it’s just a little bit earlier. You can also get the filial piety of your children and take care of them with all your heart. Why not For?
Self-reporter: Ms. He, 80 years old, plans to never keep up with the changes.
I am 80 years old this year. I have three children in total, two sons and one daughter. My wife and I have a monthly pension of more than 10,000 yuan, and is more than enough to provide for the elderly. Nearly 80 years old, I planned to travel with my wife to see the outside world, browse the thousands of miles in the motherland, and miss the lost youth and time. I am happy just thinking about it. I chose this time because I think there are not many opportunities for the two of them to go out to play together. Go once less, and go outside while the legs and feet of myself and my wife are still flexible.
but the plan will never keep up with the changes, After all, my wife is getting older. When taking a walk after eating, he did not pay attention to the soles of his feet. Sent to the hospital for examination, the doctor said it was a fracture, and a steel plate needs to be nailed to the foot for fixation. The anaesthetic was over, and his wife’s feet started to hurt. The pain made his tears flow, and his mouth was still muttering: " never went to the hospital when he was young. When he was old, he went to the hospital. I'm too old to use it. "I am also distressed by my wife's side, watching the cars coming and going outside the window, and can't say a word...
As the old saying goes: 100 sky. After the operation, the most important thing is to recuperate. But after all, I am also older and my body is not better than before. I can’t take care of him all the time. I didn’t want to bother my children. Now I have to call my three children. , See who can take time out to take care of his wife. Unexpectedly, when the children heard that their father had injured his foot, they all rushed back and waited by their side. My wife and I looked at our three children guarding our side, and felt very relieved, and felt that we really didn't live in vain in our entire life.
finally negotiated with the children and decided that the three children take turns to take care of the elderly and give them 5,000 yuan a month. They have just made living allowances, and they cannot be allowed to contribute money and effort.
Taking care of my wife is not a matter of one day or two days. We need to make long-term plans. My wife and I are old after all, and we also need to have a personal support for them. My wife and I plan to live in a nursing home, and some people take care of them, and some are old-aged. We can also chat with people of the same age to relieve boredom. The more I think about it, the more I feel that this is a good way to solve the current problems.
I went to the nursing home and found that the conditions there were not as good as we thought, especially not conducive to the feet of the wife’s rest. The place where we live is on the third floor, and I need to climb up and down, which is particularly inconvenient. The wife’s wheelchair I couldn't get out, and I could only stay in the room. I couldn't quit to relax, which was not conducive to recovery, so I moved back again.
The children deliberated, and in the end, decided to take care of the three children in turn, each for one month. The children are very filial, rushing to take care of their wives. We also see these in our eyes, but we feel that children have their own families after all, and there is a family of children to support, so they can’t help and contribute. money. finally discussed with his wife, decided to give the children 5,000 yuan a month, who takes care of who takes the money, of course, we are not talking about using money to force the children to be filial and take care of us, just wants to give the children Let's reduce the pressure. ”
At the youngest daughter and son-in-law’s home
The first one to go to is the youngest daughter’s house. The younger daughter and son-in-law are not very wealthy and do not have stable jobs. The son-in-law makes a living by delivering food and spends all day outside. On the run, the daughter will take care of the children at home, clean up the housework, buy vegetables and cook. After Ms. He and his wife went, the younger daughter has another task to take care of them. In fact, to take care of the father is to add to the meal. Two sets of chopsticks. When the father wants to go outside to relax, he can help him in a wheelchair. The rest are just the same as usual. The little daughter is good at it. Ms. He and his wife see the little daughter's hard but satisfied look , I don’t know what to say.
After a month, the little daughter has become a lot of haggard, and she has to take care of the children and wife, and she has to take care of the housework and trivial matters. Good people can't bear it. The little girl looks at the 5000 yuan in her hand. Suddenly, I felt that the money became heavy and it had weight. Taking care of my parents is my responsibility. How did it become a money transaction? My wife and I looked at the little daughter puzzled, and told her: yours I know my mind, but it’s not easy for you. Your money is also hard-earned. Your dad and I still have some savings. We also have a retirement pension of 10,000 yuan a month. We are richer than you. Take it!
Caring for the elderly at the eldest son and daughter-in-law’s home: The daughter-in-law treats us as parents and mothers
I arrived at the eldest son and daughter-in-law’s home in the second month.The eldest son's family is relatively wealthy, and the two have opened a hotel in partnership with a good income. In order to entertain us, my son and daughter-in-law took us to the restaurant and had a nice meal. During the meal, the daughter-in-law was afraid that we would not be comfortable, so she always gave us some vegetables, for fear that we might not have enough to eat, the eldest son also watched with a smile. NS.
After returning home, my daughter-in-law reorganized the bed for us, put on a new sheet and quilt, fearing that my wife’s feet would be uncomfortable, and I don’t know where to find a foot box, so my wife can have a good night’s sleep. NS. Early in the morning, the eldest daughter-in-law got up and worked in the kitchen. She made a large table of dishes. She was afraid that we might not be used to it. She also made special meals that suit our tastes. I have to say that the eldest daughter-in-law is really very careful. My son had to go to the shop after eating, and the shop couldn’t be left unattended. My daughter-in-law took our old couple to a nearby park and bought a few sets of clothes for each of us, both inside and out. Just here, I also asked if we were missing something? Since it's here, let's buy it together. Our family has cultivated the blessing for several lifetimes before we marry such a good daughter-in-law.
One month later, the eldest son and daughter-in-law saw that we had put out 5,000 yuan, and they said quickly: " parents, the family does not need to be like this. It is our duty to take care of you. Talking about money really hurts feelings. Besides, we don’t lack this little money. If you really want to give it to me, then I think you look down on us. I mean, I just want to give you some compensation. Your dad and I have a pension. There is still some money. We can't let you pay and contribute, so we can't make it through our conscience. Take it!"
Retire at the youngest son and daughter-in-law's home: The money was originally reserved for you, but now it's just advanced.
In the third month, I came to the youngest son and daughter-in-law's house. The conditions at home were not very good. The youngest son ran a taxi and was away from home for a day. There were only daughter-in-law and two children in the family. After we passed, we could help the daughter-in-law. Bring the children to reduce their burden.
My daughter-in-law was afraid that the conditions in her home were poor and would not be good enough to entertain us. In return, she would let us eat the best meals and live in the best bedroom. However, their family only ate very simple meals. Four people squeezed into a big bed. I felt very sad every time I saw such a scene.
In a blink of an eye, a month has passed. During the period of staying at the youngest son’s house, they were reluctant to give us what they could eat, and they were reluctant to give us what they used. They really didn’t know what to say. Seeing that we took out the money, the younger son waved his hand and resolutely did not. I handed the money to him fiercely and said, ", take it! The other two are taken. We all see your filial piety. Besides, isn’t the money for both of us left to you in the end? Now it’s just given to you in another way, it doesn’t make a difference ."
Summary
Some people may say, This only applies to wealthy elderly and children. Indeed, there is no accurate answer to everything. It varies from person to person. The physical and economic conditions of the elderly, the physical and economic conditions of their children, and many factors determine the elderly’s health. Ways of pension. But the ultimate goal is to make the elderly and children happy and comfortable.
Actually, how good is the old man? It depends on the elderly themselves. Old people who have a hearty personality and can understand, no matter how much money they have, they will live a particularly happy life in their later years. If the elderly can think for their children and solve problems from the perspective of their children, their children will not be ignorant. , Will remember the good of the elderly for a lifetime, provide them with old age, give them filial piety, let them live a happy and comfortable old age, and have a sense of support for the elderly. In short, the rich and understandable old people will never get worse when they are old. I hope that all the elderly will be able to depend on their old age, and their children will always be by their side.
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