Author: Tang Yi
Imagine, if you work overtime until 10 pm one day and want your boyfriend to pick you up from get off work, and the boyfriend says he is too tired and doesn't want to go, what would you think?
If you think about it for yourself, you can understand the mood of boys being rejected for seeking pleasure.
To tell the truth, there is really no accurate answer to this question. Different people will have different feelings, and even the same person will have different feelings in different states.
Situation 1:
If you are the kind of immature girl who regards love as the most precious thing in life, you may feel that this boyfriend doesn't care about himself at all, and he refuses to even pick him up , I must be blind to like him;
Similarly, if a boy is immature, if he asks you for love and is rejected, he will roll around like a child, saying that you don't like him anymore. He felt very sad, and that sort of thing.
Situation 2:
But if you are a more mature girl, maybe you will understand 's boyfriend's approach - yes, he is quite tired from work himself, I should go back by myself, this is just a trivial matter and cannot be summarized The line said he didn't love me anymore.
is the same, if the boy is also more mature, he will be able to understand your mood after being rejected, and then take care of you, and then do it when you want.
Situation 3:
Of course, the same person is in different states, and the feeling of in is also different.
If you have a hard day in the company, you have worked hard for more than half a year on a project that fails, you are severely scolded by your boss, your colleagues are also sneering at yourself, and you have to work overtime until 10 pm.
At this time, you especially hope that your boyfriend will pick you up and take you home, so you feel that there is someone to accompany you, but the boyfriend says: "I am also very tired, go home by yourself!"
Even if you are mature and emotionally stable , I guess it will be very uncomfortable.
is the same, if your boyfriend usually works very hard, he will be scolded by his boss and pushed out by his colleagues, and he wants to do it with you once when he comes home, but rejects , and his attitude is not very good, then no matter how mature and rational he is, Also feel sad.
is not only because his sexual desire is not satisfied, but also because he will feel that his is not accepted by you at all, his pain is not seen by you, and you don't care about him at all.
Case 4:
There is also a possibility that this incident will become a fuse.
Just like your boyfriend doesn't come to pick you up, you may suddenly realize that your boyfriend doesn't care about your things for a long time, he won't understand your pain, and he won't come to pick you up for the sake of sharing your worries. A small example. When
is replaced by "rejecting courtship", boys may think that you will not only reject his courtship, but also don't care about him in life, nor consider his ideas .
In this case, it means that there has been a problem in your relationship for a long time, and sexual discord is only the result, not the cause.
If there is really any problem to solve, it has nothing to do with sex, but with your intimacy .
I am the main
Think more about whether you want
All in all, if you reject your boyfriend's request for love, there will be many different ideas for boys. Only by considering the actual situation can you judge the idea of a boy.
But I still want to persuade you: Don't always think about what boys think, think more about what you think.
Why you don't want to have sex with your boyfriend? The question
can actually reveal a lot of interesting points.
Possibility 1: Your is purely is very afraid of this matter
Many girls trust their boyfriends very much, and the two get along very well. It is not that they do not love him if they refuse to do it. Things are scary.
After all, , they have never been exposed to this kind of thing, their attitude towards sex is actually shy, afraid of pain, and even afraid of being humiliated by sluts.
If this is the case for you, don't worry about your boyfriend leaving you, because your relationship is already very solid, and you can show that you care about him through other things.
Because you are definitely not only worth having sex for your boyfriend, even if he feels uncomfortable for a while, he will be able to recover and understand what you are doing, so he will not be dissatisfied with you.
Of course, if you refuse, you must be artistic. It is best to give the boy some comfort. After all, even if he loves you, it will be very hard to be rejected by the person he likes.
How to do it in detail, the previous article has already said, you can read:
"He wants to sleep with me, I like him and think it is too fast, how should I politely refuse?" , Will there be any thoughts of not cherishing it?
Of course, if you have explained it, and compensated , and he still refuses, he can get out of here.
Possibility 2: You are insecure about this boy
Many times, women's sixth sense is relatively accurate, they don't want to have sex with their boyfriends, because their subconscious can't trust a boyfriend at all.
After all, there are some boys who are going to have sex with a girl just after confirming the relationship , and the girl will definitely mutter: "Are you here to cheat?" , If you are more resistant to his approach, you will be uncomfortable when he is close to you, then you must follow your own instincts.
Because that's probably what your sixth sense is trying to tell you.
Possibility 3: Your relationship has entered a dull period.
Some couples used to have sex frequently, but after a long time, the two of them will gradually calm down and their sex life will decrease, maybe once or twice a month.
This situation is actually quite normal. After all, plainness is the normal state of a relationship, which does not mean that there is a problem in your relationship.
In addition to being so tired from work, it is normal to not want to have sex. Boyfriend is understandable, don't worry about him being unhappy, you can just compensate him elsewhere (but not too much, otherwise boys will think you owe him).
Possibility four: Your relationship has gone wrong
You are very annoying when you see him, you don't want to stay with him, and you even start thinking about breaking up. In this case,
, in fact, has nothing to do with sex. It is purely your relationship that has a problem. As for whether to repair the relationship or stop the loss in time, it depends on you.
All in all, if you don't want to do it, don't do it, it's your right, and you can safely refuse.
If you are afraid that the boy will be unhappy, then you express your love to him in other ways, so as to show him that if you don't have sex with him, it's not that you don't love him, but that you can't for the time being.
As long as it is a boy who loves you, they can feel your love for him in other ways, and they will not babble on the level of sex.
If you have already expressed your love for him, and he still wants to break up with you because you don't have sex with him, it means that your only use for him is to have sex, and he doesn't appreciate your other advantages at all. Also doesn't respect your ideas.Boys like
, even if they are together, you will not be happy.
The way to go is up to you, good luck.
