For young children, parents are their own world. Moreover, the emotions in the world are the most selfless love of father and mother. In the eyes of children, nothing can compare to the happiness of parents around them.
But in a corner of life, there is such a little boy, has no father since he was a child, but after he was born, he was abandoned by his mother and became a "momless boy." Only years old, his name is Ayougafu.
Ayougaf has been living with his grandmother since he was a child. When his mother was pregnant with him, his father died unexpectedly. What's even more distressing is that when his mother gave birth to him a year later, he also chose to leave Ayougaf. From that day on, Ayougaf became a "nobody wanted" child.
Because grandma is also getting old, there is no source of income in the family, and grandma only makes a living by picking up waste products. The poverty of life makes grandma unable to take good care of Ayou Gaf wholeheartedly. Ayou Gaf walks barefoot on the road most of the time.
In Ayou Gaf's heart, his mother has always been the person he missed very much. In many cases, Ayougafu can't control his mother's thoughts, and will keep clamoring to find her mother.
Every time grandma sees Algarve, her heart is filled with distress, Sometimes there is really no way, grandma takes Algarf to the aunt's side, let her aunt hug him, let him feel the feeling of mother.
Many mental illness problems of adults are mostly caused by certain family factors in their childhood. In children who are abandoned by their parents, not only are they prone to psychological problems, they can even be deeply affected throughout their lives.
So what impact will parents abandon their children have?
1. Inferiority
Most of the children who have been abandoned by their parents since childhood have obvious inferiority. Because the abandonment of the biological parents since childhood will cause harm to the child's heart, the child will think that his own problem is his own bad, which leads to his parents not wanting himself.
This kind of thought will slowly be planted in the heart, causing children to always be in the low self-esteem mentality that they think they are not good. When they grow up, they will miss many things because of low self-esteem.
2. There is no sense of security
The child abandoned by his parents has never felt the love and protection of his parents since he was a child, in the heart of the child, he is alone His heart began to be prepared for the world, and his heart was extremely insecure. Most of the contributions to others were made in the form of temptation to get answers in his heart.
Children who are insecure in their hearts tend to have a sensitive and fragile heart, which is often the most vulnerable to themselves.
3. Desire to be loved
will have a desire to be loved and addicted to love. Children abandoned by their parents and lack of recognition have always had a psychological addiction to love. In the path of children’s growth, they will consciously or unconsciously "fill in" this hole.
Desire to be loved and to be recognized. Once you feel that you are not loved or recognized, you will have some negative emotions that have been affecting yourself and harming your physical and mental health. When I grow up, because I want to be loved, I often meet someone in my life who treats me a little better, and I will love each other desperately, but this is just a moth to the fire, and I will hurt myself if I don't get love.
4. Sensitive
When I lost my parents and did not grow freely under the care of my parents. Abandoned children have always been guarded against outsiders since they were young, and they are extremely sensitive inside.
I am afraid of being approached by others and also afraid that people I like hate myself. They are conflicted and entangled. They are sensitive and delicate. They are always observant of words and expressions, worrying about what will happen to them. People who are oversensitive in their hearts will be very tired.
In short, children abandoned by their parents from an early age will have many mental illnesses and sequelae.This kind of psychological shadow is difficult to eliminate in a short time, and the impact will last a lifetime, so I hope that parents will be born and raised, and will not cause harm to their children.
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