The child of my friend’s family is in the second year of the junior high school. He does not do homework at home at night, and the teacher does not correct the wrong question if he sends the answer. The friend is angry and hit him twice and he is pushed down. Then the friend was frustrated and didn't want to care about him anymore.
I said this is definitely not acceptable. If you are a mother, let his father take care of it. The more boys grow up, the more the father’s role needs to be emphasized, because at least traditionally, maternal love is mainly Representing spoiling and tolerance, fatherly love symbolizes more responsibility and order.
But, according to my friends, this child’s father didn’t like to learn freely when he was a child. When he was in elementary school, he often ran out to play games and didn’t even care about going to school. Therefore, he almost doesn’t care about his son now. It's exactly the same as when he was a kid. Hearing what my friend said was too annoying, he pulled the child over and had a fight. As a result, the relationship between the father and son was also very tense, and the relationship between the father and the son was tired. But in any case, he was still a little deterrent when he was at home. This kid didn't dare to make too much noise, but he had to go to a night shift every two days and was not at home, so this kid would be lawless.
Okay, it seems that his father doesn't want to care, but he doesn't care. He didn't study hard since he was a child. Now he has no confidence to force his son to study hard. But fortunately, he is at least on your side. Even though you don't help to discipline your children, there is no resistance at all. Another female friend, who also had her son in junior high school, did not study well. As long as she took care of the child, the father of the child would quarrel with him, and then she changed from training the child to fighting with a couple. Later, the child went to a vocational high school. During the summer vacation of the second year of high school, the college entrance examination was required. It was of course a good thing to ask me if he wanted to study for the college entrance examination. At least people are still motivated. But when I ask about the score, my heart gets cold: Chinese, math, and English are all two to thirty points! What else can I make up for this level until the college entrance examination soon? It's obviously that you don't have to teach everything from scratch, okay? Even if I find a teacher who can teach you, the question is can you learn it? You haven't studied hard for so many years. Not only do you have no basic foundation, but more importantly, you don't have the ability to learn and the will to persevere.
As for the child of this friend's family, at least he was only in the second grade and he was still very young. You can't control it now. When he is in the third grade and the four heads are higher than you, aren't you more unable to control it? ? Now he is disobedient and doesn't want to study, so when he is a little older, can he not play truant? Therefore, the management is still to be managed, but it is time to strengthen the confidence and make up your mind before showing a little bit cruelty.
First of all, no matter how reluctant you are, you must first beat him up this time, at least it makes him feel painful and painful! Let him keep in mind that he can never do it with his mother! Otherwise this loving mother will become a terrible demon!
Next, we are about to start a period of cold and violent time. When you wake him up every morning, don't stop warmth and just lift the quilt! If he dares to get angry, you have to be more angry! If he dare to complain, you will scold him for a long time! Then, breakfast is steamed buns and pickles with boiled water, I like to eat or not, there is no pocket money! If you don’t want to go to school, you can only have cold steamed buns and tap water! All phablet phones will be confiscated, and computers will be locked and TV will be sealed. Every day it is either indifferent or indifferent! Anyway, you don't want to study hard, so you should quickly adapt to the hard days in the future; since you didn't intend to make me happy, why should I make you happy! Until he understands who is in charge of the situation in this family, he understands that parental pampering is limited and requires feedback, and he understands that he can't rely on pets and do whatever he wants, and that he can learn well but absolutely must not fail. Study hard and understand that you should lower your body and understand the hard work of your parents. Only by fulfilling your parents' wishes can you please your parents and have good fruit... Then, be gentle with him.
Anyway, he is only a teenager, and you two are both in their 30s and 40s at any rate. You really want to be cruel, why can't you control him? If you are not cruel to him today, the society will be cruel to him in the future; if you don't beat him severely today, the society will beat him severely. Missed the short time window of this year and a half, everything is too late.
Your parents abandon him today, and the teachers in the school will abandon him tomorrow. In the old days, people with no academic qualifications can live well if they mix well, but in the future, most people of the same ageWhen everyone is a college graduate, can you still find any decent job as a junior high school graduate or vocational school student? Why do other people, enterprises and institutions attach so much importance to academic qualifications when recruiting, not only because academic qualifications represent your professional level and learning ability, and you are suitable for becoming a qualified worker, but also because your self-management and self-realization ability is suitable for becoming a qualified society member.
seldom have good children born, most of them are born out of the day after tomorrow, of course, there are a few exceptions, their names are other people’s children, they are a rare animal. There are two by my side. One is from a neighbor's house in the same community, and is a classmate of my son. The little girl is straight and tall. She is always the top three in the class since she was in junior high school, and she is also in the top 100 in the city when she went to high school. She was admitted to the Beijing University of Traditional Chinese Medicine. Continuous reading. I have never seen her in a tutoring class, but I often meet her shopping outside. There is also a child from a neighbor's house in the same unit. The young man is tall and handsome and has very good grades. He is also very obedient and loves to learn. He never has to worry about being disobedient.
These two are the typical children of other people's family around me. Are they both born? I don't know this. But I know my family, he can barely be regarded as a child of a semi-individual family, but he was never a sensible child when he was a child, but I have never worried about it since I was a child, but it is hard to say... He later scored more than 600 points in the college entrance examination, and now we basically don't have to worry about it.
So I think that the children from other people's families that we see in our eyes are probably not all born. It is very likely that their parents also set an example and put enough thought into it. It's just that some parents are more qualified, and they are calm and easy to manage, and some parents have a lower level and teach them how to jump. So I often say that the term “parents” emphasizes parenting in the biological sense, and parenting is always relatively easy; the term “parents” definitely has more sociological education, while education is relatively difficult. Because you must first educate yourself first, and then educate your children. Therefore, being a good parent requires continuous learning, and being a good parent needs to keep pace with the times. Before a child reaches adulthood, no matter how old he grows, you must always stand taller and look farther than him. He is only qualified if he has a basic understanding and control.
