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Since the arrival of the second child, many families have decided to have a second baby. There are many reasons for
. For example, parents don’t want their children to be lonely and difficult to support after they are gone; parents want to have another son/daughter to achieve both children; parents like children very much, and now they have enough energy to raise a second A baby...
However, many people at have a misunderstanding about having a second child-raising a second child will save money than having a first child. Since has already given birth to a child after all, he knows what unnecessary expenses are, so he will not spend money indiscriminately, not to mention Dabao's things can also be used for the second treasure.
In fact, this is a completely wrong view. The second child spends no less than the first child.
Then, let’s take a look at the unbelievable rumors in reality:
1, clothes can be recycled
Some parents think that Dabao has a lot of clothes that they can’t wear when they grow up, and they can’t throw them away. Erbao wears.
But Dabao's clothes are worn through after all, and there may be stains or signs of wear on them. Besides, I don’t know how long Dabao’s clothes have been left for a long time. They are not glamorous and look very old. Are parents really embarrassed to let their children wear them? The most important point of
is that Dabao and Erbao may not have the same gender. If Dabao is a girl and Erbao is a boy, parents can't let the younger brother wear her sister's red, pink, pink and lace skirt?
Let’s talk about shoes. Let’s not say that the feet of two children cannot be exactly the same size. Even if the feet of two children are the same size, the soles of Dabao’s shoes may wear out for so long. Where can they be recycled?
Therefore, it is unrealistic for to let Erbao wear Dabao's clothes. , the money to be spent still has to be spent. But you can't stop after spending money. After all, it is impossible for parents to buy clothes for Erbao and not for Dabao.
2. Dabao's toys can be used for the second treasure to play
. We know that children are with exclusive desires. Before giving birth to two treasures, Dabao was an only child, and all he received was the love of his parents. After Er Bao was born, because of his young age, his parents would inevitably pay more attention to Er Bao and ignore Da Bao.
Dabao has been wronged enough about this. If even the toys are given to the second treasure, even if it is the toys he does not want, he is not willing.
Dabao may feel that his younger brothers and sisters have robbed mom and dad from themselves, and he/she can no longer snatch toys from him/her.
stepped back and said, even if Dabao is willing to share toys, those toys may not be able to continue playing. After so long, they might have lost their arms and legs.
Therefore, parents still have to buy toys for Erbao, but if they only buy it for Erbao and not for Dabao, there may be a war at home. Dabao feels that his parents are partial and grab toys with Erbao. Therefore, at this time, it is inevitable to spend double money.
3, the elderly can bring a baby
If you are having a child, the elderly can indeed help bring them. But having two children, especially those whose ages are not too different, may be a little overwhelming for the older generation.
There are two solutions at this time:
One is to hire a nanny. This is a costly task, and the nanny is not necessarily dedicated. We can often see some social news on the Internet such as "Nanny abuses children" and "Nanny secretly changes children." "Wait, it is shocking.
Two is that one of the parents resigns to take care of the child at home, but in this way, the income is less, but the expense is more.
So, giving birth to a second child is not saving money, but burning money!
In short, parents must consider various factors when deciding to have a second child, instead of saving money. Otherwise, you will only find that the money is spent more and more, and it is completely different from what you expected.
