helps us take our children shopping, the children will encounter things they like. When we adults encounter something we like, we always want to buy it, but at we will weigh the pros and cons, and think about whether we need it or not. If we buy it, will it affect our economic life.
But in the eyes of children, they don't think of so much. They only think that if they like themselves, they should own them. So how do you control the children to buy?
When children want to buy and buy, parents usually use these three methods to deal with it.
Have you been recruited? These three methods are wrong!
1. Accept your fate, I will buy it!
When children see what they want, they always cry and beg our parents to help them buy it. However, many parents don't like their children crying. In order to reduce the crying and stop crying, parents will think that it is just a small thing for the child, and there is no need to care about it.
This is one of the attitudes of parents. But have you ever thought that if the child obtained this toy by crying this time, the child will still cry when the same thing happens next time. What should we do? Do we still have to accept our fate to buy it for our children?
So this is a wrong way to deal with it. When the child is crying, we don’t have to buy things for the child. We can let the child stand in our perspective and let the child think about whether he needs a toy or not. Let the child think about whether he has to do this toy? Is there an alternative?
usually says that our parents should think about problems from the perspective of children, so when appropriate, let children think about problems from our perspective.
2. Beating and scolding, rudely treating
Some parents also choose to beat and scold their children because they cry when they want this toy. Our parents believe that by educating children, children will not cry. As a result, many parents will beat and scold their children and treat them roughly.
Sometimes children will cry in the street, and parents will be very annoyed and even do something to the children.
These are all bad influences. If we treat children like this, they will feel that they are not worthy of owning this toy, which will cause psychological inferiority. This will have a great impact on children throughout their lives. Junior high school, high school, and even after entering society will have a very big impact, so our parents must not beat and scold children.
We must treat our children with gentleness. If we beat and scold the children ignorantly, they will hurt their self-esteem.
3. Talking empty things
Some adults always use their own thinking to imprison children.
He thinks that the child already has such a thing at home, and he no longer needs it, so he will tell the child a lot of truth, then the child will understand? Of course,
will not understand. We can think about it, when we have a lipstick at home and we want to buy another lipstick of a different color, but someone tells you that we already have one at home and can’t buy it anymore, will we be happy? of course not.
So many parents only tell their children some empty truths, so there is no way to solve this problem. The best solution for
is to communicate with our children and see if we can replace it.
If the child thinks that it is irreplaceable, we can form an agreement with the child, this time we buy it for the child, what should the child do next time? Only when we reach an agreement with the child will the child comply. There are three wrong ways above
, so I hope that every parent can avoid these ways and treat the children correctly and want to buy.
