Good Family education should complement each other.
A family takes their own positions and performs their duties. The family will become more and more harmonious and prosperous, and education will be achieved naturally.
Author | Vivian
There is a topic on Zhihu: After having children, where does family happiness come from?
The answers collected are more heartwarming than each one:
"Happiness comes from my husband saying, go and rest, I will teach you homework."
"The happiest time is when the child holds his favorite snack and says he left it to me specifically."
"Happiness is because I find that the person I love also loves me, and love responds."
As Tolstoy said: "Happy families are similar."
I think the standard of a happy family should be that every family member can find his own position and keep his own position.
Dad is not missing, mother is not offside, and children know how to change positions.
Non-limited dad
is the best sedative for mothers
A while ago, I saw the vlog of Zheng Kai and Miaomiao on Weibo, recording the daily life of taking their daughter to a parent-child restaurant. Not long after giving birth to the dick, Miaomiao became tired after playing with her daughter for a while and collapsed on the seat beside her. Seeing his wife like this, Zheng Kai turned into a super dad. He carried Miaomiao's pink mommy packed and gently accompanied the child to play in the restaurant. When playing with the claw machine, Miaomiao wanted to take her daughter away to facilitate Zheng Kai to catch the baby. Zheng Kai was worried that Miaomiao would be tired and said, "Don't hug you, it's very heavy." Zheng Kai's responsibility and considerate made Miaomiao sigh: "It's great to have a father!" Looking through Miaomiao's Weibo, I found that every time I take my baby, Zheng Kai is never absent, and the family of three is always neat. With Zheng Kai's company, Miaomiao looked energetic and radiant, and had endless things to say to the camera. With a husband who knows how to accompany and share so much, Miaomiao must be extremely happy in her heart. British psychologist Winnicott said: "In the family, fathers are needed to make mothers feel physically comfortable and happy in their hearts." A father who is not missing is the best sedative for mothers and a catalyst for harmonious and friendly family relationships. There is a very popular parenting blogger on B station @Gangan . In the eyes of netizens, he is an all-round father who is proficient in coaxing to sleep, feeding, burping, and changing diapers. He proved with his strength that as long as he is attentive, it is also reliable for his father to take care of his children. Because I know the hard work and fatigue of raising a child, Gan Gan'an never bears letting my wife face it alone. In his opinion, a good father is to give his wife a certain amount of freedom so that she can control her time. Dad will take the initiative to share the heavy responsibility of parenting and housework, and the mother will not be so tired, will not have so much resentment, and will be able to face the trivialities of family life with a more positive attitude. Dad is not absent, and mother is not fighting alone, and life is no longer a mess of one person, but a whole family work together. A mother who is not offside is the best promotion agent for children
If a father who is not lacking is the best support for mothers, then a mother who is not offside is the best fulfillment for children.
by chance revisited the performance of Shen Wenyu , known as the "piano genius" .
became famous at a young age, and his piano skills were comparable to each other. Shen Wenyu was also the "child of someone else's family".
18 years old, Shen Wenyu was invited to return to China to perform. In an interview, he said wildly: "The masters are basically dead, I am the master."
For a moment, he became the focus of media criticism. People found that he was arrogant, arrogant, did not communicate with others, and could not take care of himself.
And all of this is because my mother has always been offside.
Whether studying abroad or returning to China for performances, the mother never leaves her, taking care of her son's daily life and taking care of everything for her child.
Shen Wenyu never brings money when he goes out. No matter where he goes, his mother will follow him to pay for him.
Shen Wenyu must obey his mother's arrangements from what to eat, drink, to what clothes to wear.
Finally, the mother's uninterrupted love for her child turned him into a life that doesn't even wash clothes, can't go online, and doesn't know how to communicate with others.
Li Zhongying once mentioned in his "Comprehensive Skills for Parent-Child Relationships":
"Every mother must be clear about her position in family relationships. If she always puts herself in the position of a dictator, it will inevitably lead to a confinement of her children."
A mother who is always offside will bring a strong sense of oppression to the child and make the child lose the energy to grow upward.
Only when the mother returns to an equal position with her children can she truly understand and respect her children and give her children space to grow freely.
Not long ago, .com launched a documentary, recording every detail of a Chinese boy named Yin Yuguo studying abroad in Romania .
Boys have loved reading since childhood, especially poetry from Central and Eastern European countries.
His mother did not stop him because poetry was outside the textbook and non-mainstream, and also encouraged him to persist in reading.
The boy said that no one in the world can understand his language.
Mom did not criticize him for being unsociable or demanding that he change.
On the contrary, she praised her son's romantic traits and called him "the caregiver of the stars."
The boy just started high school and proposed to study in faraway Romania.
Mom understands his choice and believes that "he is completing his mission."
The boy’s relationship with his mother is more like a close friend.
After he went to Romania, he contacted his mother almost every day.
He will post videos to tell her about her life and share her joy.
Mom gave boys equality and respect, and the boy's spiritual world was also full of vitality.
He is always full of enthusiasm for life and sticks to the end with what he loves.
He insists on reciting, writing poetry and photography, and he even loves Romanian culture more than the locals.
His language talent and literary literacy amaze everyone, and even the teacher praised him as an "otherworldly figure."
Pe Shangan Qiumi said:
"No matter how young the child is, he cannot be regarded as a child, but as a person who is equal to you.
Your raising of children should not be a control and requirement, but a mutual companionship between souls.
each experiences their own experiences and fulfills their own lives."
Mothers know how to let go, so that children can be liberated from oppression.
Only when the mother is in the right position can the child have free space to grow and burst out with infinite self-motivation.
A mother who is not offside is the best growth promoter for her children.
A child who knows how to change his position
is the best heartwarming agent for parents
In a family, if the father is not missing and the mother does not offside, the children raised will definitely not be much worse.
Two days ago, Brazil lost to Croatia , and Brazilian superstar Neymar cried bitterly.
Just as the whole Croatian team was celebrating the victory wildly, a Croatian boy chose to go straight to Neymar. He first held Neymar's hand and then gave him a comforting hug.
The stadium is not a battlefield. What is more important than the victory or defeat is to understand and empathize with . This heartwarming move by the boy made countless people break the defense.
It turns out that the boy's name is Leo, and his father is the famous Croatian general Perisic .
Perisic is a well-known good father and husband in the football world. He met Sipa and his wife for more than 20 years, and their relationship has always been as sweet as before.
In addition to competitions and training, Perisic spent almost all his time with his wife and children.
He and his wife took the children to ski, swim, and play golf, and visited museums around the world.
With the careful company of parents, the two children are also versatile, positive, and warm and kind.
Once on Father's Day, Leo left a note for his father, which read:
"Dad, I am really glad that you are my father. I want to kiss you, hug you again, and then tell you that you are really good!"
So I think, maybe only parents who know how to love and be loved can pass on love and raise children with loving and empathy.
Do you still remember the 5-year-old boy who felt sorry for his father and took the initiative to help him unload the goods?
Just as the father got back from pulling the goods, the boy said to his father:
"Dad, go do other work. There is too much work, and you can't finish it alone."
After saying that, the boy took off his shirt and walked towards the truck.
He used his tender hands to move the goods down from the truck one by one, and once he moved them, he moved 30 boxes.
A child who knows how to change his position, is caring and empathetic, is always willing to put himself in the shoes of others.
Because of this, they can keenly capture their parents' emotional feelings and transform into their parents' caring little cotton jacket.
The movie " Find You " has a line:
"What we want to thank the most is actually the children. They are the ones who bring their parents to grow up, allowing us to experience a kind of unsuspecting love that can even give our lives."
A child who knows how to change his position and is soft and kind in his heart is the best heartwarming agent for his family and the greatest blessing for his parents.
As stated in "Sublimation in Love":
"When every family member puts his or her position and manages every relationship with care, the couple is loving, and the children are filial, and the family atmosphere will be happy."
Dad is not lacking, it is the love of the father to his or her mother;
Mothers do not overstead, it is the love of the mother to his or her children;
Children know how to change positions, it is the love of the child to his or her parents.
The so-called home is not a house, but the sum of love.
Let love flow and emotions be conveyed, which is the greatest blessing for a family.
