Author: Shijiu|Scorpio woman, even if she is afraid of the society, she loves to dream
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2dd. Two days ago, I saw an article online:
A mother shared his family of three online. The monthly meal fee is only 800 yuan, and the food is relatively bland.
Her husband's socks were broken, and he was reluctant to throw them away;
A pair of autumn pants were worn and removed, so he could still bear it anymore;
Mom said: "I haven't bought new clothes for a long time, and I haven't gone out to eat. Skin care products are the cheapest, the kind that costs 20 or 30 yuan."
But they have never treated their children unfairly. The clothes they bought for their babies are of good quality, and the baby's milk powder, toys, and even the kindergartens they choose for their babies in the future will be very high-quality international schools.
Mother thinks that mother’s company is crucial to the child, so she quit her job herself and the whole family relies on her husband to make money alone.
Before, in the articles educating children, I always saw "raising children with poverty, raising children with wealth". This topic is a large part of whether children are poor or rich, and it depends on the entire family's income and consumption level before it can be compared.
I also saw an example before: a middle-aged family raised a child and went to a very famous international school. When the parent-teacher meeting was held, my mother went there.
The electric car and dress of my mother seemed a little out of place among those beautifully dressed parents.
The child also felt a little embarrassed, and then he became very resistant to going to school, thinking that his classmates were laughing at him.
Parents like this who do not care about their family's financial situation and blindly sacrifice themselves to "raising" their children with wealth, we just want to say that before raising children with wealth, we should raise yourself first!
Only when parents have something, can they give it to their children.
If a mother has never raised herself in a wealthy way and does not understand the meaning of raising her rich, then even if she tries all her efforts to raise her children, she may only give her material wealth and spiritual "poverty" rather than real "poverty".
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Many parents think that they cannot use "poverty thinking" to tie their children's wings to fly, otherwise they will make their children feel inferior and they will not be able to raise their heads for the rest of their lives.
Adhering to the idea of "no matter how poor you cannot be poor, no matter how hard you cannot be hard", he began to think about the concept of "rich raising", but he ignored it on the road of raising children with wealth. Rich raising ≠ infinite gift of sacrifice for oneself.
Actor Zhu Yuchen's mother is a typical example.
Zhu Yuchen's mother's life seems to have no self, only a son, as if only a son can she be better.
Whether Zhu Yuchen is in another place to go to college or to work when he grows up, Zhu's mother always follows her son.
When Zhu Yuchen was filming outside, she also went to the crew to cook Zhu Yuchen's three meals a day.
Once, Zhu's mother cooked a plate of chicken feather for Zhu Yuchen. It was winter at that time and the ingredients were particularly difficult to buy.
Zhu Yuchen didn't want to eat it very much, so Zhu's mother said, "In order to choose the vegetables, my hands were frozen and cracked."
Sacrifice in this way was in exchange for Zhu Yuchen's feeling that Zhu's mother's care made him feel very stressful, and girls would not let him be included in the list of good people.
As parents, they always think that giving all their efforts is a manifestation of loving children, and what they give to children is the best.
Once read a news story, a single mother worked hard to send her son to study in Japan, but she couldn't even afford to eat, but her son lived the most luxurious life in Japan.In the end, the mother had no money and was stabbed to death by her son who came back to ask for money.
This kind of sacrifice that makes for children, which often only moves themselves, and will make children bear unbearable mental stress and burdens.
Before loving your children, you must learn to love yourself first, so that love will not become a burden.
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All education, or 999% of the education, are all attributed to role models and to the parents' own correction and improvement.
Parents are the children's first teachers, and your words, actions and thoughts will affect your children in a subtle way.
According to psychological surveys, half of the children have their own imitation and identification, and 78% of them will regard their parents as idols. In the eyes of their children, parents are models and examples.
If you even live your own life (note that sting and frugality do not mean the same), then how can your child live a comfortable and comfortable life that you sacrificed for?
When parents decide to give everything for their children, they basically give up their lives, impose a "gratitude debt" on their children, and lock themselves firmly.
Parents are the original and children are the copy. The best way to raise wealth comes from the example set by parents. This can make children more empathetic than the rich support built up by money.
In the world, the best parent-child relationship is equal.
pair, yes, equal.
Child, I am your mother, it is me who brought you into this world.
I love you, but I don’t owe you. Of course, you will never owe me.
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Shijiu said: "There is a joke on the Internet that the child is still young, and some of them will eat in the future. I can't do it, eat one less meal. Order [Like], good night~."
