Since I had a daughter, I realized how complicated it is for young parents today. From learning to talent, from height to IQ, I finally understood that there is a kind of child called someone else's child.
If you have careful observation, you will always inadvertently find that there are several children from families around you who are proficient in all kinds of talents, memorize poems, songs and essays, and a small mouth makes other parents even more ashamed. Are these children born with higher IQ than their own children?
To be honest, there must be a prodigal son, but most children have IQs on the same starting line, but parents lack the eyes that find the bright spots of their children, thus burying their children's talents.
Therefore, there is a certain gap in IQ between children, which is largely because parents do not guide their excellent behavior, thus losing the best period of learning.
01 What behaviors can reflect the child’s high IQ potential?
This issue is very critical. I think it should be explained more scientifically from the following three aspects:
. Good language expression ability in life
I wonder if young parents have noticed that your child is always like a chatterbox for a period of time, chattering in your ears, and even pestering you to say some irrelevant nonsense.
At this time, some parents will be very impatient after a day of work and are not patient to talk to their children, while some parents have not noticed such changes at all, and some parents will force their children to calm down.
In the eyes of parents, it seems that the child is expressing his own thoughts with his heart. He tries his best to call on the knowledge reserves in his head and express it to his parents with the logical thinking ability from the child's perspective. This is a very amazing thing in itself.
The child may be influenced by the limited vocabulary in his brain. The meaning he expresses may be biased, or it is nonsense in the eyes of his parents. However, if the parents are willing to communicate with the children, they will continue to absorb the words that their parents have never known and stimulate the brain to remember. Over time, their IQ will naturally be higher than that of their peers.
So, don’t underestimate the child’s talk. No matter how naive the idea is, he is expressing himself seriously and hard. Usually, children with high IQ have strong language expression skills.
. Have strong hands-on ability
Since my daughter was born, my husband and I have been preparing some toys for my children. So far today, there are several large boxes of toys, and we specially place these for her in a room.
I believe that many parents in many families are not much different from me. They buy all kinds of educational and beautiful high-tech toys for their children, and others have their own children.
However, these toys not only cost a lot of money from the family, but are also not conducive to the cultivation of children's concentration. How many parents are willing to make some toys with their children?
The answer is definitely very few. The toys I bought are not very useful except for being easy and beautiful. Then parents can make toys with their children, which can not only promote their children's brain development, but also exercise the coordination ability of the limbs.
Don’t underestimate the cultivation of children’s hands-on ability. This covers the full application of children’s hands, eyes, and brain, and is also beneficial to their thinking ability.
So those children with stronger hands-on ability usually have higher IQ than their peers.
. I have very rich imagination and unique ideas.
Give a simple example. On the way to and from school, I will teach my 4-year-old daughter to recite ancient poems. For her, many of the words in the poems are obscure and difficult to understand.
For example, once I taught my daughter to recite the poem "One person in the dogwood" that she always couldn't remember it.
She asked: Dad, what is Dognus ? Is it a fish in the water?
I explain: Dogwood is a plant that lives on the shore, like flowers and plants.
She asked again: Is it grass carp ?
Me: Uh..., just take it as a grass carp to carry it.
Finally, my daughter was able to memorize this poem completely. I probably know that the sentence she couldn't remember must be associated with the grass carp.
is a very simple little thing in life. It can be seen that the world of children is very imaginative. Although parents' cognition is more accurate than children, their thinking is more rigid than them. Respect children's imagination and there is no need to correct them in a straightforward manner, which can also exercise their thinking and exploration abilities.
So, smart children dare to think about things in life in a simplicity, and children with high IQs will verify themselves whether their ideas are correct.
02 If you miss the peak period of these three behaviors of children, can you just let it go?
of course not. Every child’s potential is unlimited. We can still start from these three aspects and work together to improve the child’s IQ.
. Improve language ability, start with reading and chat
Before the child’s language ability is completely established, parents have the opportunity to play the role of guiding, and the degree of intervention at different ages is different.
Combined with my daughter's experience, I personally think that you can prepare for your child's language ability at the age of 2, mainly including storytelling and chatting. Older children can ask them to tell stories to adults, and parents can just play a cooperative role in the middle.
Therefore, reading and chatting are very important ways to cultivate children's language skills, which are far more effective than making up for lessons and doing homework.
Parents note: The biggest pain of reading lies in long-term persistence. Both parents and children must overcome laziness and have a strong spirit of self-discipline.
. Improve your imagination and respect your child's curiosity
Don't think that your child is like a hundred thousand whys. He has a strong curiosity and a desire for knowledge. If he is not interested in what is around him, then it is the real big problem.
Sometimes, we must take the initiative to cultivate children's curiosity and maintain a good imagination through our own simple guidance.
Parents Note: What parents need to do is not perfunctory, not reject, nor tell them the answer directly, but mobilize the child's enthusiasm to find the answer.
. It is better to destroy the good kids. Encourage hands-on ability
Don’t always think that good kids are the best kids. Parents’ saving troubles comes at the cost of the children bear the consequences. Parents should not stop those children who are doing all kinds of destruction at home all day. It is best to accompany them to destroy them. By destroying this behavior, they encourage their ability to act and thus promote their thinking.
Although good kids don’t cause a lot of trouble, they lose their deeper thinking ability because of their lack of hands-on ability. There is a poem for all parents. The knowledge they learn from is shallow. You must practice it yourself!
Parents should note: Children do damage not to let them make trouble regardless of scale. Parents need to control this range in everything.
03 I want to say that
children's IQ generally do not have much distinction between high and low levels. The most important thing is how parents can join in more scientific ways and play their positive guiding role.
The most important thing for parents to raise children is to read more and say less. Once they discover their child’s advantages, protect and guide them correctly. Don’t do everything on their behalf and kill the child’s high IQ signs in the cradle.
Which one do you think your children have better hands-on, imagination, and language skills?
