Vinni suddenly said one or two words in the past two days, "I don't want to go to school!", and I asked casually, "What do you want to do?" - "Play at home..."
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I said directly, "There are no children playing at home, and the kindergarten is so lively." Vinni didn't say anything after hearing this, and went to play with something else.
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The second time he said, "I don't want to go to school", and I used a different method to coax "Your kindergarten has finished school very early, and you will go to the park to play after school. How about giving you another magic kiss ?" Winnie said nothing but raised her hand and asked me to kiss.
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Just turned off the lights last night, and he suddenly said, "I don't want to go to school!" Alas, he went to the park after school every day to ensure outdoors, and when he got home, he was busy eating, practicing piano, taking a bath, brushing his teeth. Only after turning off the lights, I felt relaxed and there was no need to rush to comfort him. Suddenly I felt a long-lost tenderness towards him. "Come here to let my mother hug~"
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In the dark, I hugged Nuannuan. "Is something happening in kindergarten?" Winnie pillowed on my arm and suddenly sobbed. "I have taken a nap for too long...I can't sleep..."
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I probably understood it when he was taking a nap in kindergarten: I turned off the fan when I was taking a nap in kindergarten. Winnie sweated a lot and her pillow was sweating. He woke up by the heat, but it was not time to get up yet, so he could only lie down and dare not move, so he didn't want to go to school, and felt that he had taken a nap for too long.
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Because he has always had a good nap in kindergarten. Maybe the teacher turned off the fan after the 11th, because he was afraid of having a cold on the blower. But in fact, Shenzhen is still above 30℃, and even if he doesn’t cover himself with a thin quilt at noon, children will sweat. I told him, "Next time I turn over the pillow or take it away, it will definitely be uncomfortable if I get wet. No wonder you can't sleep."
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Bao Dad always thinks that when I comfort Winnie, I always poke Winnie's sad things, as if the more I mention him, the more sad he will cry... I disagree with Bao Dad's statement that covers his ears and steals the bell: children should help them clarify their feelings and analyze what they care about, which is to help children understand themselves and understand the world. Why pretend that you don’t see your child’s difficulties and deliberately ignore your child’s request for help?
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coaxing is of course easier than helping children solve problems, but they can only coax them. Do you have to continue coaxing them next time you encounter something? Coax the child until he realizes that asking parents for help is useless and slowly closes his atria?
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Recently, I have less patience with Winnie because of practicing piano. I always want to perfunctorily ask him to finish practicing piano first. I always feel that he is slow to finish it. I am standing next to him and it seems that there is a soundproof layer in the middle. It just can't reach his heart. It seems that the louder I shout, the further away he is from me, very tired and depressed.
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But when I suddenly wanted to hug him yesterday, and when I hugged him, even if I didn't say anything, just pat him gently, I could feel his little heart was filled with grievances. When he finished crying, he said to me, "Mom, I'm OK. If you don't need a hug, I'll go back to sleep."
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So he just wanted to be heard, hoping to have the opportunity to slowly tell me what I felt in my heart, knowing that I still pay attention to his feelings.
