Fighting between the eldest child and the second child is an unavoidable problem in families with two children. Whether there are two sons, two daughters, or one son and one daughter, all kinds of fighting and fighting are inevitable.
Especially two children with a close age gap, like in our family, the eldest (male) is more than three years old, and the second (female) is more than one year old. Two babies are fighting over a toy, but they can't get the second one, and they cry loudly. As a parent, how do you deal with it?
I believe that most parents will do this. The first one will criticize the eldest child, saying that he is ignorant and the younger sister is younger, and then ask him to let the younger sister go, and then coax the second child and give her the toys directly to play with.
seems to have no problem. However, the same conflicts will occur endlessly in the future, and the boss will never give in to the second child. He will fight when he should, and take action when he should. How does
avoid this problem, and how should we guide children correctly?
did the second child's work.
squatted down and said to the second child, "Brother is here before you, let's let him play first." This is stating the facts, just like queuing up, following the first-come, first-served principle. This is called fairness. With this kind of guidance, the second child will gradually behave better, because she is weak and cannot beat the boss. Normally, she wouldn't take the initiative to fight because she came late in the first place.
A common misunderstanding that many parents make is that they think the second child is the weakest one, so they always do the job of the eldest child and talk about all kinds of truths. In fact, he understands it without having to explain it at all.
How do you guide your children? Welcome to leave a message in the comment area.
