For unmarried women, once it comes to marriage in the future, the biggest reluctance is to live with the mother-in-law, because this will inevitably lead to conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
But this idea is before you get married. After you get married, you will find that there is another person who is difficult to get along with, and that is the "eldest aunt".
Many married women have various conflicts with their eldest aunts. In most cases, they don't get along.. However, there are also women who have a harmonious relationship with their eldest aunt, or even have a very close relationship.
When a woman gives birth to a baby, her eldest sister accompanies her during the birth, and she takes care of the baby's breastfeeding
If a woman gives birth at home, someone must go to the hospital to accompany her during the birth , and the people who accompany her are her husband, mother-in-law, and parents. However, a recent mother gave birth to a baby, and the birth companion was not the above people, but her eldest aunt.
In the video, a middle-aged woman is holding her newborn baby, with a face full of love and affection. Just when everyone was guessing which young mother-in-law or grandma this was, they learned that this was actually the child's aunt, that is, the mother's eldest aunt.
It is understood that when this woman gave birth in the hospital, her husband, mother-in-law and maternal family were not there for some reasons, and her eldest sister accompanied her during the whole process. She was busy with herself before the delivery, and even more so during the delivery. Cheer yourself up, and after giving birth to the baby, you can nurse her to sleep and take care of everything by yourself.
And the aunt is full of love for this newborn nephew, and the mother is also moved and grateful to have such a considerate aunt to take care of herself and her child.
Compared with other people accompanying the childbirth, what are the advantages of an aunt accompanying the childbirth?
In everyone's traditional understanding, the person who accompanies the childbirth must be someone who is relatively close to the mother. Among them, the husband and biological mother are more likely to be , and people like mother-in-law or even eldest aunt, who are usually prone to conflicts, It is really not planned to be a birth companion,
However, excluding the premise of having a bad relationship with the eldest aunt, the eldest aunt is also a more suitable candidate as a birth companion..
First of all, As an experienced person, it will be more convenient for the eldest aunt to give birth and take care of the baby. This is better than the confused father; in addition, the eldest aunt is younger than the old man, both in terms of energy and physical strength. , are slightly better;
In addition, the eldest aunt is also a woman. When faced with some situations, she can often empathize with the mother and take better care of the mother's emotions. Therefore, if the eldest sister is willing to accompany the childbirth, then the mother might as well Just accept it.
In life, why do most women have a "disgust" towards older aunts?
Around Xiaodao, there are many people who hate their eldest aunt or sister-in-law, and many people even hate their mother-in-law because of their eldest aunt. Many women find it difficult to get along with their eldest aunt at home. The most fundamental reason is that in many cases, the eldest aunt always likes to "step in" and control too much.
Some eldest aunts have unclear boundaries. After getting married, they like to meddle in the affairs of their parents' families and kidnap morally under the guise of "feeling sorry for their younger brothers." This will cause dissatisfaction among their younger sisters-in-law.
In addition, on the issue of property distribution for the elderly, it is undeniable that many elderly people plan to leave all or most of their property to their sons. At this time, the eldest sister jumps out to fight for the property , and will naturally have conflicts with her sister-in-law;
There are also cases like where the eldest aunt lives in her natal family all year round and gnaws on the elder for a long time. These will cause dissatisfaction among the younger sister-in-law and lead to the relationship with the eldest aunt becoming increasingly tense.
If you want a harmonious family relationship, both parties need to be sensible and grateful
However, some aunts and younger sisters-in-law can get along very well and have a very harmonious relationship. Although they do not talk about everything, they quarrel and make faces red. But it has never happened. The reason why the two of them get along so harmoniously is mainly because the eldest aunt knows how to be a good person, while the younger sister-in-law knows how to be considerate.
As for the eldest aunt, she is already married and is no longer in power, so naturally she cannot give orders to her sister-in-law. Even when there is a conflict between the daughter-in-law and the old man, she will not intervene easily and leaves it to both parties to resolve it themselves.
On the contrary, those elder aunts who have done well will often advise their mothers to think more about what their daughter-in-law has done well. Not only for adults, but also for children. Daily clothes and shoes are constantly provided, and money is given directly during holidays.
has an eldest sister who is good at life, and a sister-in-law who knows how to be grateful. Naturally, there will be no conflicts between the two people, but they get along very harmoniously.
But in fact, to a certain extent, the eldest aunt is often the person who knows how to care and share best. As the eldest daughter in the family, when necessary, the eldest aunt will take the initiative to share or take on the responsibilities of mother-in-law;
At the same time, out of love for her younger brother, the eldest aunt loves her sister-in-law, nephews and nieces very much, and even some aunts will take it as their own. Treat your younger brother's children as your own.
Whether it is mother-in-law and daughter-in-law or aunt and sister-in-law, if you want a harmonious family relationship, both parties need to be sensible, understand empathy and be grateful, so as to promote a happy family.
Today’s topic: How is your relationship with your eldest aunt at home?
