It is easy to give birth to a child, but difficult to raise a child, and it is even more difficult to provide a good education. As a parent, I feel like I can’t talk enough about raising children for eternity. But whoever lets the baby be his biological child will have to walk the path he has chosen even if he cries.
But my child recently went out to have breakfast and washed and wiped his hands independently, dressed and washed efficiently after getting up, and focused on playing music during piano practice.
just because I used this method: positive feedback method.
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What is "positive feedback"? positive actually refers to the positive or positive direction, and feedback refers to some behaviors and things done by a person.
No matter whether it is right or wrong, no matter what the result is, you will get responses from others or from the outside world.
Just like some of the things my child has done recently, I gave him positive feedback in a timely manner, and the child became better and better under this feedback.
This shows that children need to be paid attention to, seen and recognized by their parents.
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There are a lot of ideas for raising children, but they are all useless when implemented, are there any? Don’t worry, take a look at my baby’s example. Will it also help you understand the positive feedback method?
Case Study 1: Go out for breakfast
When we don’t have time to cook in the morning, we often go to Gu Wan’s house to have breakfast, but my son has to accompany me every time he goes to the bathroom to wash his hands before meals. Recently, he is thinking about going to elementary school after the summer vacation. She does something independently, and it is within her ability, so I intentionally let her wash her hands.
The first time I didn’t want to go by myself, I said with a puzzled look, “My baby is about to graduate from the senior class, so he still doesn’t know how to wash his hands!”
After saying this, the baby pouted his mouth to express his dissatisfaction. I went to wash my hands angrily, but when I came back I didn't forget to show off to show that I could do it.
I was surprised and said: "Wow, my baby is great. He can wash his hands independently, and he doesn't forget to dry his hands when he comes back. Mom is not as considerate as you." By the way, I gave the baby A big thumbs up.
The baby looked excited after hearing this, which felt so beautiful.
It was the second time that I refused to wash my hands independently. I still encouraged her like this, and when my baby came back, he praised her again and gave her a big thumbs up.
The third time the baby came to Gu Wan’s house, he naturally washed his hands. Until now, I don’t need to remind me to wash my hands every time. I just do what I need to do as naturally as eating and drinking.
Case 2 Get up in the morning and wash up
Dress and wash efficiently after getting up in the morning. That was impossible before, but now it's natural.
My child often wakes up angry the next day because he went to bed late the day before.
I suggested: "Let's compete in dressing and washing to see who can pack up and go out first?" When the child heard it sounded like a game, he said excitedly: "I must be first."
I said unconvinced: "I don't believe it." The baby got more excited and said while getting dressed: "Just look at me."
I deliberately let the baby come first, and said pitifully: "Baby, you It’s getting better and better. How come your work efficiency has become so high? When will you teach me?” After hearing this,
was very happy.
Case 3 Playing and practicing piano at night
As a piano child and a mother of a piano child, practicing piano is a nightmare for your children. But recently, after giving my child positive feedback in time during my piano practice, my child is now happy to practice the piano.
Every time my child plays the piano, as long as there are no wrong notes during the playing, I will applaud;
When I play a piece that I have mastered and make mistakes, I still applaud and keep praising how well I played, and the child can't help but tell me where I made a mistake. , and demonstrated it to me again;
sometimes played with no wrong notes, and the playing speed was okay. The child thought that he played pretty well. If I forget to applaud (actually I don’t know what I was thinking at the time), I will say enviously: “Wow, you played so well, my ears are almost pregnant when I listen to it."
At this age, the baby is more interested in where she comes from. When she hears the word pregnancy, she becomes energetic and asks a lot of questions about where she comes from. I explain patiently and wait for her to practice the piano more efficiently and After each play, the child will be given timely positive feedback.
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Of course, the child's good habits cannot be developed in a day or two, but at least in recent times, through the positive feedback method, the child has indeed improved. Little by little progress.
The road to raising children is long and difficult. I hope we can learn more on the road of raising children, be smart parents, and take less detours with our children.
If you have any good methods or tips for raising children. We can communicate together!
