A mother of two children in our community gave birth to two children. One is 4 years old and the other is 2 and a half years old. Because there was no one to take care of her children, she quit her job and became a stay-at-home mother. After raising the child for a while, she brought her biological mother over to help her raise the child together.
A neighbor who is unmarried and has no children said: She is clearly staying at home full time, so why does she bring her own mother over to help her take care of her baby?
In the opinion of this neighbor who is unmarried and has no children, the children will run away and eat by themselves. The older one has gone to school, and the younger one is almost able to take care of himself. In this case, it is very easy for a stay-at-home mother.
Alas, not only this neighbor who is unmarried and has no children, but many people may also see it this way. I always feel that when the children grow up and go to kindergarten, they no longer need a stay-at-home mother.
What is the real situation like? Just take a look at a day in the life of this mother of two in the community.
- 6:00 a.m. --- Cooking
When most people are still sleeping, this mother of two children has already gotten up and started cooking. We have to prepare breakfast for the whole family, and after that, we have to prepare things for the eldest child to go to kindergarten. It’s neither too early nor too late to cook for your children. Because if you cook it too early, it will get cold easily, which is not good for children. If it's too late, it won't get cold easily and the child won't be able to eat it.
- 6:30 in the morning--- wake up the child
In order to prevent the child from being late, it is necessary to wake up the child at this time. The two children played until 12 o'clock at night and couldn't get up at all in the morning. She was very angry when she got up and told her to get up and get dressed. It would be at least 7 o'clock.
- 7:00 in the morning---wash the child and let him eat
After the child wakes up in confusion, let him wash himself. At this time, it’s time to wake up the second child. Although the second child doesn't have to go to school, no one at home can watch him. Therefore, when sending the eldest child off, you should take the second child with you. Asking the second child to get up was even more difficult. After shouting for a long time, the second child didn't move.
- 7:30 in the morning---Children eat and send children to school
When the two children eat, they don’t eat well. Either don’t eat this, or don’t eat that. With coaxing and scolding, the two children had to finish their meal before sending them to school.
- 8:00 in the morning---after sending the children to school, go home and do housework
After sending the older ones to school, go home and start packing the morning things. The small ones are usually thrown aside, even if they are crawling on the ground, they are not taken care of.
- 9:00 a.m.---Watch the kids via video, coax the little ones.
9:00 a.m. I usually watch the older ones through videos. Seeing that the older one was fine, he coaxed the younger one to play. If I need to go to the toilet, I don't dare to close the door. I'm afraid that something will happen to the child after being out of sight.
- 10:00 in the morning---Take the little one to play
After not staying at home for a while, the little one couldn't stay at all, so he could only take the little one out to play. I was trapped half to death and could not rest. I have no choice but to take the little one out for a walk. When you go out, you have to take a big bag full of water bottles, snacks, toys, diapers, paper... When playing outside, you can't relax for a moment. Because if you can't keep an eye on them for a while, the children won't know where they are going.
- 11:00 am ---- Go home and cook
After taking the little one around outside, it’s time to take the little one home to cook. I can't make a fuss anymore, so sometimes I can only buy something outside to eat at home.
- 12:00 noon---Take the baby home to sleep
Wait until 12 noon, take the baby home to sleep.Sometimes, the little one is so troubled that even if he goes home, he can't sleep, so he can only continue to wander outside with the little one.
- 14:00 pm---Either the little one wakes up, or he continues to wander outside.
Why must the little one take a nap? First, small children are growing, and adequate sleep can help children grow better; second, small children need longer sleep time physiologically. If there is not enough sleep time, he may fall asleep while eating.
- 16:00 pm---Getting ready to pick up the older one after school
Don't think it is easy to pick up the older one, because if you coax the younger one for a long time, she won't even go out. So, start preparing at 3pm.
- 5:00 pm---Communicate with the older child and play with the younger child
After picking up the older child, ask the older child how it was in the kindergarten. Sometimes, the big ones still have homework to do. After finishing, take the younger ones to play together.
- 18:00 pm --- Prepare to cook
My husband is going home, so I need to prepare more meals cooked by adults. At this time, we can only let the older one play with the younger one in the living room. No matter how they demolished the house, they pretended not to see it.
- 19:00 pm---eat dinner
My husband is back and we have dinner together. After eating, my husband went to wash the dishes. Take a break by yourself and chat with your husband for a while.
- 20:00 in the evening---parenting time
After my husband finishes cleaning up, he will play with the children. Either play with toys or games. Either telling stories or walking downstairs.
- 21:00 in the evening---wash the children
Because there are two, the children may have to fight. Sometimes, children may not be obedient. Therefore, when washing the child, either the child will cry or the parents will spend time coaxing the child. When it comes to coaxing children, dad really has no experience or strength, so he has to rely on mom.
- 22:00 in the evening---putting the child to bed
After washing the child, it is time to put the child to bed. The older one has already shared a bed, but if the younger one wants to sleep with him, the older one will definitely come over and grab it. Therefore, the big one and the little one coaxed them to sleep together. When putting the children to bed, sometimes I will arrange some parent-child reading. In this way, children can be educated well.
- 23:00 in the evening---Browse the video by yourself
If everything goes smoothly, the child will go to bed at 11 o'clock in the evening. However, sometimes children will make troubles. At this time, I and my father have to stay with the children.
This is a day in the life of a full-time mother. On this day, the mother has no time for herself at all. If you cook by yourself, you have to worry about the two children being unattended and in danger. I still have to be like Superman, without any time to rest. Therefore, they usually find their own mothers to help them take care of their children.
