We grew up beside our mothers, and our mothers’ past experiences have affected our psychological world. As for my mother-in-law, my mother-in-law’s past experience may be similar to my mother’s, but of course, there are more differences.
However, just the similarity will arouse our inner desire for mother. So unconsciously, we will cast the image of our mother on our mother-in-law. When our mother-in-law behaves differently from our mother, it evokes great disappointment in us.
As a result, there will be contradictions and conflicts.
Who is at fault in this process? No one is wrong. The desire to be cared for by someone like our mother is the most beautiful fantasy we have as children. What’s wrong with such a fantasy?
Although my mother-in-law showed the same characteristics as our mother at a certain moment, she is an independent person after all and cannot meet our expectations. What is wrong with her.
And these are just our psychological world, making a joke for us, admitting the wrong person.
Perhaps a better approach is to take back our unrealistic imaginations about relationships and others, pay reasonable attention to the differences between others and us, and then in real relationships, know the boundaries and know the boundaries. well.
