Nowadays, many parents pay great attention to the cultivation of children's IQ, but they ignore that emotional intelligence is also very important, which is related to the children's future interpersonal communication issues.

Nowadays, many parents attach great importance to the cultivation of children's IQ, but they ignore that emotional intelligence is also very important, which is related to the children's future interpersonal communication issues.

Children with high emotional intelligence can make the other person feel more comfortable when getting along with them. Therefore, children with high emotional intelligence generally have many friends.

On the contrary, some children with low emotional intelligence will have a slightly smaller range of friends than children with high emotional intelligence. Moreover, most of these children are introverted, not good at expressing themselves and making friends with others, and have poor interpersonal communication skills.

My cousin's child, Qiangqiang, is the type of child who doesn't make friends very well. Qiangqiang has poor interpersonal skills and is usually quiet and reserved, so he doesn't have many friends. Usually he is a transparent person in the class, and the teacher hardly notices him.

My cousins ​​are both very introverted people, and they are cheerful and lively, but they don’t understand why their children are so introverted. My cousin also asked Qiangqiang’s head teacher for help, hoping that the head teacher would pay more attention to his child and allow him to participate in more activities so that he can become more cheerful and lively.

Why are children so introverted? There are several reasons:

1. Parents overprotect their children and their children do not get the training they deserve.

There are many parents who protect their children too carefully and always keep their children with them, which makes the children develop a strong psychology of dependence and being protected by their parents.

Over a long period of time, it will cause children to be afraid to gain knowledge and experience from trial and practice, and thus become timid. When children grow up, their dependence on their parents will continue to increase and they will not be able to get the appropriate treatment. Some exercises are not conducive to one's own development.

2. Children have too few interactions and are not used to strangers and groups.

Many children have had little interaction with people since they were young. Except for their parents, relatives and neighbors, they rarely play with children of the same age. For a long time, meetings have made the children's communication skills worse and they have become afraid of strangers. Conversation and fear of speaking in public.

3. Children’s emotional intelligence is not high and they don’t know how to regulate interpersonal relationships.

Children's poor communication skills are often a sign of insufficient emotional intelligence. This type of child does not know how to consider the other person's feelings. Parents should teach him to try to cater to other people's perspective and think about problems, so that the child can know how to think about the problem from the other person's perspective, so that the child can develop empathy . Only in this way can the child develop empathy. Able to better regulate relationships with others.

During the summer vacation, because we were too busy at work, we sent Qiangqiang to his grandfather to play. Unexpectedly, his grandfather took his grandson to do one thing every day - read "Fun Reading Thirty-Six Stratagems Comic Edition", which caused his grandson to now The changes are astonishing.

At first, my grandfather’s education methods were questioned by my cousin: "Dad, don’t let your children watch these things anymore. If you really can’t, you can take your children out for a walk."

Because the old man used to be a history teacher, and he will be fine after retirement. This is understandable if you read history books, but you should take Qiangqiang with you every time.

However, when faced with questions about the form, grandpa did not explain too much and still read these books with his children every day.

Children with high emotional intelligence are better able to handle interpersonal relationships. If the emotional intelligence is too low, it will have a great impact on a child. Therefore, parents should also pay great attention to cultivating children's high emotional intelligence so that their children can become a person with high emotional intelligence.

How can we improve children's emotional intelligence?

1. Let children understand their own emotions.

Every child will have different emotions. If you want to improve your child's emotional intelligence, you must first let your child recognize his own emotions and express his feelings correctly.

No matter whether children are sad, angry or moved, they should express their emotions correctly. Many children cannot distinguish the differences between certain emotions. At this time, parents need to teach them to understand and recognize the expression of various emotions. In this way, they can consider problems from other people's perspective and be empathetic.

2. Let children learn to think from others’ perspective.

The so-called empathy is to think about problems from the perspective of others. It is a way of thinking about dealing with interpersonal relationships that puts oneself in others' shoes, that is, thinking about what others think and understanding comes first.

People should understand and trust each other, and learn to think from others' perspective. This is the basis of communication between people. Tolerance and understanding of each other, and to think from others' perspective. Letting children learn to think from others' perspective is also a way to improve their emotional intelligence.

3. Learn to use some reading materials to guide children.

Parents should learn to use some reading materials that can help their children adjust their interpersonal relationships to help their children improve their emotional intelligence. Grandpa Qiangqiang used this set of "Fun Reading Thirty-six Stratagems Comic Edition" to help Qiangqiang improve his emotional intelligence. Now Qiangqiang is much better at dealing with people than before, and his interpersonal relationships are also maintained very well. Later, he was elected as monitor for several terms.

This set of "Fun Reading Thirty-six Stratagems Comic Edition" is not the traditional "Thirty-Six Strategies". The story is expressed through interesting comics. This way of expression is easier for children to accept and more capable. Increase children's reading interest. There are three volumes in

, which are divided into upper, middle and lower volumes. They use cute Q-version characters to attract children's attention. Moreover, this set of books contains comprehensive knowledge, exquisite and interesting comics, exciting stories, and amazing plots. .

Emotional intelligence is the result of nurture rather than innate inheritance. You can learn and improve as you grow older. Therefore, parents should quickly cultivate a high emotional intelligence in their children when they are young, which will be beneficial to their children's future interpersonal communication and self-development.