was recently reading the book "Lifelong Growth", which mentioned two modes of thinking: growth mindset and fixed mindset.
The growth mindset believes that intelligence can be grown through persistent hard work and dedicated study.
Fixed mindset is the belief that a person has an innate intelligence, skill or talent.
I think it is very necessary to cultivate a growth mindset in children from an early age.
Because people with a growth mindset can face failure, they care more about how to learn lessons after failure and continue to work hard. People with a fixed mindset will always attribute failure to external influences when faced with failure.
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The book talks about the example of tennis player John McEnroe .
John McEnroe was originally a talented golfer. At his peak, he ranked first for four consecutive years. But after the occasional defeat, he could never return to his peak. In the final analysis, it was his fixed mindset that killed him. After each defeat, instead of looking for reasons within himself and finding ways to practice hard and become better, he would find various excuses.
Either the venue is not good, or there is something wrong with the food provided by the organizing committee. Even the love of a friend can affect him.
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and the well-known Kobe , he is a typical person with a growth mindset.
After losing, he never complained about the venue, teammates, weather or other external reasons. He will promptly find the reasons within himself and work hard to improve them, thereby achieving greater progress.
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I have had such examples around me. A friend of mine, Xiao Jie, took the civil service exam several times but failed.
She began to find various reasons, saying that she was not born to be a civil servant and had no destiny to enter the system.
also complained that she was too busy at work during the day, which affected her review status.
Later, another friend Qiaoqiao helped her analyze and found out that her classmates who had worse academic qualifications and grades than her had passed the exam, and those who were busier than her also raced against time to prepare for the exam and finally passed the exam.
Xiaojie began to realize that the reason for her repeated failures must be found within herself.
She stopped complaining and found ways to solve problems when she encountered them. In the end, she overcame many difficulties and went for an interview. I also made a counterattack from eighth place to first place in the interview, and successfully got admitted to a good employer as I wished!
Therefore, a growth mindset is the key to determining whether a person can bravely face setbacks in life and whether to make timely adjustments to learning and improvement when encountering areas in which he is not good at.
Helping children develop a growth mindset from an early age will be their lifelong wealth. If you haven't read the book "Lifelong Growth", I suggest you start reading it with your children tomorrow.
