I was chatting with a good high school classmate yesterday. She told me about her experiences and sadness in the past few years. After listening to it, I couldn’t sleep all night!
gave birth to her own child and brought up her classmate
who has been married for five years. She found out she was pregnant just over a year after getting married. She happened to be unemployed at the time, so she stayed at home and was unemployed. She naively thought that she would be able to go to work in a few months after giving birth to the child. , however, her mother-in-law left before the baby was born. She wanted her mother to come over to help take care of the child, but her mother wanted to take care of her brother's child. She knew that she still had to take care of the child she gave birth to.
I quit my job to raise a baby
This area has been around for the past two years. When the child was almost two years old, I found a relative to help take care of the child, and my classmate went to work. After a year and a half, there was no one to take care of the child suddenly, and the classmate resigned again. Prepare to wait until the child goes to kindergarten before going to work.
The couple are partners
Yesterday, a classmate was chatting with her husband. Unknowingly, she mentioned the years they have been married. Her husband said that the child will go to kindergarten in September this year, and he will solve the problem of picking up and dropping off the child by then. The implication is hope. My classmates were able to solve their own work problems.
went on to say that after five years of marriage, my classmate had not made any money for the family. He had earned all the family expenses and savings alone. Although he had worked for two years, he had earned enough to support himself and he had not contributed a penny to the family. . When my classmate
used to earn money by herself, she would never tell her husband about buying clothes or getting her hair done. Even if she did, her husband would not say anything (my classmate is not the kind of person who likes to fuss), but Yesterday, she told her husband that she had not been to a barber shop for several years and wanted to go to a barber shop to get her hair done. In the past, she dyed her hair and took care of it at home. Her husband didn't think twice and said she didn't agree and don't tell him.
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my classmate suddenly felt that she had failed in life. She was very sad and helpless. Wasn’t this the marriage she had chosen in the first place? At first, her parents didn't agree, but she refused to marry him. She thought she was married for love, but now she is the loser!
Who can she blame when she encounters such a thing? She said that what she is most reluctant to part with is her children. She finally understands those women who continue to work no matter what after giving birth, and finally understands the reasons why so many girls are unwilling to get married.
She has had a very good career after graduating from university. If she can keep doing the job she loves, she will not be despised by her husband and have no value. She can live a good life even if she leaves her husband. But now she The intermittent career will also affect her future work. She may live a worse life without her husband, and she still has a child to worry about!
She told me that everything is her own choice, and she will face all the consequences firmly. Her deepest experience over the years is that "husband and wife are partners." This sentence may seem ridiculous, but it is true. It really gave her a wake-up call!
Don’t give up
What did she get in exchange for five years of marriage? It was already late at night when she finished telling me, and then I thought a lot. If I was like her, I should have the same result. I have relied on myself for so many years. Many women have to take care of their children day and night after they have children. , I have given up my career and myself, and there will be a time when my children grow up. At that time, if I am rejected by my husband again and I have no skills, there is really nothing I can do!
Fortunately, she is still young and can still work harder to change herself, but she no longer has the passion and yearning for marriage!
