Luck may or may not come in many cases, but this does not affect your original intention to stick to it. Pain comes from dissatisfaction with the status quo. Only people who are dissatisfied with the status quo will suffer. Only those who are in pain have the idea to change everything.
Anxiety is also right, it means you want to do better. People who are in pain and anxiety are often the real ones. It takes courage for you and me to realize that the current situation is not good enough and that the future will not be smooth sailing.
Dong Yuhui’s words are so good! It is precisely because we are not satisfied with the status quo that we feel pain in our hearts. When I reached middle age, I gradually understood what I really needed.
Over the years, I have always been very dependent. People around me understand me very well, but I have never seen myself clearly.
I remember giving birth to my son in 2013. Although I became a mother, I was very childish at heart.
It is very hard to raise a child. Although I love him very much, when he loses his temper and makes noise, I will show boredom and even ignore him and leave it to my mother.
I was very emotional at that time, and would lose my temper to the people around me when I was not satisfied. They all thought I was sick, postpartum depression,, and they gave me a lot of patience and love.
But no matter how much the people around me love me, I have no idea. I have never been satisfied with my current situation, but I have never changed.
Those pains that had nowhere to be released eventually turned into anxiety and depression. I was in pain but didn’t know how to change it. Without any suspense, I walked step by step into the abyss of pain.
Those days are far gone, but now I think they are the only way for me to grow up. In the process of raising children, I finally saw my inner self.
In order to help my children grow up, I finally faced myself, accepted what I could not accept, and changed what I could not change.
In the past, when something happened, I liked my children to obey and do as they were told. Now I like to discuss and discuss with my children; before, I liked to order my children, but now I like to ask my children. Before
, I liked to go my own way. Now, I like to listen to different voices and learn to think from others’ perspective.
Faced with emotions, I began to learn to embrace them. I gradually let go of my inner obsessions and accepted my anger and sadness.
The night before yesterday, we had a conflict before my child went to bed because he didn't want to go to tutoring. At that time, I was so distracted by my anger that I completely forgot the purpose of my communication.
After thinking about it calmly, it was very simple. Many times conflicts do not need to be resolved immediately! I'm tired, and so are you. Let's talk about it after we've rested! Everything is possible!
What I did at the time was to blame the child, and things got worse and we all felt pain in our hearts.
The source of the pain is that I cannot accept my own anger, let alone any opinions of my children.
Now when my children and I disagree, I will calmly think about how to resolve the conflict between us, instead of letting my emotions lead to my own volcanic eruption.
I began to learn self-healing, listen to my inner voice, and take care of my inner feelings. I am no longer immersed in my own world, and I no longer feel lonely and helpless.
The sun rises in the east and sets in the west every day, and all the light shines on our tomorrow.
The pain and anxiety slowly left me, and my heart was no longer so sensitive and fragile.
learning filled the gap in my heart, and I finally found myself.
Everyone’s growth comes from their own inner needs. When our talents and abilities do not match social requirements, and when reality and ideals conflict, we will show pain and uneasiness.
That's because we haven't had time to prepare for the future life. We muddle along, we are content to observe the situation, and we never think about danger in times of peace.
Faced with children's problems, we often feel upset and helpless. In fact, we find it difficult because the process of raising children is the process of parents improving their own personality.
Through continuous learning, we grow with our children, become better selves together, and feel the beauty and happiness of life together!
