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Educator Tyman Johnson said: “Successful tutoring creates successful children, and failed tutoring creates failed children.”
Home education should indeed start from an early age, and children cannot be free from raising or care about everything.
In the process of educating children, we always like to suppress children in the attitude of passing people. We must not only be obedient but also strive for our children. Therefore, many parents take pride in educating a good child, and use the banner of good for their children to ripen their children and force them into little adults. Such children are sensible on the surface but extremely fragile on the inside and lack creativity.
What kind of child is considered successful?
Look at this passage, maybe you will suddenly realize it.
Tsinghua University Principal once said: "What we need in the future are creative children, and those who only know how to do questions and don't think are destined to be eliminated in the future."
Cultivate children with independent thinking and creative spirit, and your tutor will be considered successful.
In the picture book "I want to grow up", I saw the correct family education concepts and methods. That is, follow the psychological characteristics of children, accompany them with love and encouragement, guide them to draw their own growth blueprint, and discover the beauty of growth.
. Children who grow up with love and encouragement will be braver and more confident
In the process of educating children, don’t forget that he is just a child. Don't use your adult thinking to evaluate his behavior. Don't want a childish child to grow up overnight.
Every child is afraid of darkness, for those children with rich imagination. The night is mysterious and scary.
In "Monsters Go Away", Luna is also a child who hates darkness. When it gets dark, terrible monsters will pop up at home, hiding in the closet, behind curtains, and on the ceiling. She was afraid that the monster would suddenly run out to scare her, turn herself into a frog, eat it or be robbed.
It is time to sleep, and he is slow and refuses to go to the bedroom to sleep. When my mother heard Luna say that she heard the monster talking, she did not tell her directly that there were no monsters in this world.
Instead, they turn themselves into children, and in the children's language, they are so ugly. It is also proposed that Luna and herself drive them out of the room.
Luna and her mother said loudly, "Go away! Go out from here, I'm going to sleep, good night!"
Luna's mother, doing this not only protects the child's imagination, but also makes the child understand what courage is.
We always ask children to be brave and strong, but we don’t know how to make them brave.
The more you question your child, the more sensitive the child will become and timid. However, if parents can put down their adult airs and lower their posture and "squat down" to communicate sincerely with their children. Given enough understanding and unconditional trust, then children will learn to be brave.
. Guide the child to draw a blueprint of his life instead of letting him walk the path you paved for him
html Children about 13 years old have a mind full of curiosity. They will use their senses to explore the world, so they often "do destruction".
Have your white wall been painted? Has the remote control been removed? Has the teacup been crammed by a child? The things on the coffee table were thrown all over the floor...
Maybe these behaviors of children are just random things in your eyes.But in their own perception, they are just exploring this unknown world.
Most of the time, children's creativity is accomplished in these "troublemaking activities".
Should parents stop their "tricking behavior" and make them obedient? He scolded them in a scattered manner and then told a lot of truths afterwards?
Check it out "Grow Up!" Just start tomorrow's wisdom, you can understand whether your actions are right or wrong. Yu Le in the story is a playful and naughty boy. In the eyes of his parents, he is just a "trouble spirit" and an "divine beast" that cannot be tamed.
His parents’ biggest wish is to grow up quickly and be an obedient and sensible big child.
However, the more my parents ask him this way, the more he wants to resist. He even thinks it is boring and terrifying to grow up.
When their parent-child relationship becomes stiff, the wise grandmother appears.
Grandma did not scold Yu Le when she saw the graffitied wall, but gave him a hug and said to Le: Maybe you can become a big artist in the future, my little baby! "
Yu Le, can't understand what the future will look like in the adults? Grandma tells him that you will find that your future life is full of surprises and novelty.
Grandma's words relieved him of the confusion. Yu Le, no longer anxious about growing up, he is full of expectations for his future, so he decided to grow up tomorrow.
Instead of letting the child grow up according to the route planned by the parents, it is better to help the child open the world leading to the future The window allows him to see the colorful future. Let him decide where to go, instead of telling him where the end is.
Don’t restrict the child’s thoughts. It is a good thing for children to have questions and confusions. Parents should be good at guiding their children, encouraging them, and let them develop the habit of actively thinking and boldly taking action, so that they can develop a very creative thinking pattern.
. Let go boldly and let children learn to be independent
Writer Long Yingtai in "Watching" "I slowly and slowly understand that the so-called father, daughter, mother and son only means that your fate with him is constantly watching his back drift away in this life. You stood at this end of the path, watching him gradually disappearing into the turn of the path, and he silently told you with his back: No need to chase. ”
Parents’ love for their children is always so deep. They do not ask their children to keep their love in their hearts. Even if one day the children forget how their parents love themselves, parents will not stop loving their children.
As the story says in "Will you still remember?": "Even if you forget all of these, it doesn't matter, because I will always remember all of this. You just need to remember one thing-baby, mom will love you forever. "
Parents will remember every bit of the child's growth, such as the first time I sent the child to kindergarten. Which bedtime story did I tell my child for the first time? The joy of the child when he got married...
Children will always grow up and will leave their parents to live their own life sooner or later. As parents, they need to accompany their children Give companionship when they are with you, and when they can stand alone, let go boldly. Don’t interfere in their lives anymore.
Just as the educator Tao Xingzhi said: Good parents watch over their children and let their children grow up actively; bad parents do things for their children and let their children grow up passively.
Parents hope that their children will grow up slowly, and they also hope that their children will grow up quickly.Smart parents will not show it even if they are reluctant to let their children leave, and will only hide their love in their hearts. Give your children the greatest support. Tell them that you can go out and explore with confidence, and the door of this home will always be open to you.
Children's growth requires good education, and also requires love, companionship and encouragement. Smart parents never urge their children to mature. I hope every child can grow up happily.
