Aldo Nauri's "Mother and Daughter" is a book that is very different from most of the mother-daughter relationships.
Aldo Nauri is a male and a pediatrician. The book begins with a mother with four sons. As the author said, "Not every woman has a daughter, but she must be the daughter of the mother." The relationship between mother and daughter in the previous generation will also have an impact on her next generation, and there are similarities between mother and son and mother and daughter.
From the perspective of a man and a son, the author starts from a large number of cases in the process of working as a pediatrician to explore deep-seated problems such as the explicit and implicit role of mothers in the process of daughters’ growth, how mother-daughter relationships are copied from generation to generation, and the father is still unaware of the inexplicable "absence" after being inexplicably "absent". He hopes that this can awaken the bound women and call on society to pay more attention to female roles.
As the author said, the whole book does not want to draw a neutral and mediocre conclusion, but hopes to guide readers to think independently and analyze problems dialectically.
The book describes four types of mothers:
The first type: textbook-style mother, gentle, calm and decisive, not only a concrete mother, but also the embodiment of the image of mother;
The second type: a cautious and obsessive mother who is always cautious;
The third type: a firm will, not be confused by life, not moved by difficulties, and strive to deal with problems that arise, and is extremely afraid of death;
The fourth type: majestic appearance, entangled and passive inside, complex and changeable, which will only have an impact on boys;
The four types of mothers are all in the relationship between their children, and they all replicate their relationship with their mothers, whether it is educational methods, life philosophy, etc. Just like one day, we were suddenly surprised to find that we were so similar to our mother.
Through the previous few mothers’ case stories, we clearly know that “no matter whether you are a man or a woman, your age or your situation, you can’t seem to be able to get rid of the influence of your mother.”
Hir daughter wants to get rid of the influence of her mother and her previous generation of mothers and daughters. In addition to sincere communication with her mother, she has the courage to get rid of her emotional control over herself and start a new life. Another important aspect is that the father needs to play his due role, because he is an important mediating factors in the family, and the daughter needs the father more than the son.
In parent-child relationships, "widowed education" is often prone to occur, and fathers are often invisible. On the one hand, the "grandmother" is often everywhere, exercising power on behalf of the "father", and the mother has to consider her own mother's feelings.
On the other hand, it is because the mother is in biological instinct and becomes "omnipotent" and does not give the father the right to give up.
How to make fathers work better? The author gives two methods:
"The best way to define a father is to admit that he is the loved one of the mother and the children. This love runs through it. It forms the cornerstone of security and identity recognition."
"What really affects the child is not only the important role played by the father, but also the mother's attitude towards the father. The position of the father depends on the mother's arrangement."
However, the impact of the mother on the daughter is a very systematic project. If you want to fully understand, you need to figure out the inner connection of the infinite cycle of life-death-love.
The author extends from the example of blind dates how psychological structure affects a person's behavior and the relationship between humans and death.
The author's book says, "People always hope to fight death through reproduction, and at the same time they want to get rid of their parents' control."
is like the meaning of marriage. On the other hand, it is a new intimate relationship that replaces a form of personal relationship with their respective parents.
This book extends a lot of psychological and even philosophical content in the story. The things in the entire system are connected but not expanded enough. It is inevitable that you will feel inexplicable, trampled around the bush and often deviated from the topic when you read it.But as the author said, his research results are not the final conclusion of the mother-daughter relationship. Through his large amount of real materials, he provides us with different angles and methods to look at this issue.
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